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What's the best way to stop feeling sad because you don't have a relationship?

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Last Updated: 12/19/2017 at 5:42am
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Top Rated Answers
Banven
April 10th, 2015 1:42pm
If you want a relationship then you need to go out and find it. Most people have to work at finding one, not all of them will come to you. Sometimes these things take time, and it is often true that good things come to those who wait. You should make new friends, go out with your new and old friends and keep in touch. Why not join some groups or clubs? Get involved with local events and get active! Not only will these drastically increase your chances of finding a relationship but you'll also be happier with having some adventure and entertainment in your life. So if you want a relationship, you have to go out and find it. Put yourself out there and don't be afraid. Oh, and don't be too eager, you need to make sure you don't rush into anything. It's not easy, but who said it would be? If it's worth having, it's worth working for.
Mogsyt
April 30th, 2015 2:56pm
well first of all let me tell you a story, i have never been asked out, i haven't ever been kissed and when i was younger that really sucked, but the more time goes on i realise, you don't need another person to define you! you don't get cheat on, you don't have to go on uncomfortable dates ect, remember its their loss and it will happen! but for the time being keep yourself occupied , do things learn to play an instrument, it will take your mind off things :) xx
adoredHug70
September 18th, 2017 12:25pm
Not being a relationship can make us feel lonely, unloved and unwanted because as human beings, we yearn for companionship. However, being in relationships cause a whole different set of heartbreaks as well. It is easy to be manipulated and influenced by the media and romanticise the idea of being in a relationship. Relationship and being single have both pros and cons and it's important to understand that.
Blubb
May 31st, 2016 10:43pm
You should know that there's alot of people put in the world. Love will come to you eventually. You are someones perfect match, and that person will find you at some point of your life.
Kaysha
October 11th, 2016 7:18pm
A relationship isn't necessary for happiness, surround yourself with friends and family and remember that those are the most valued relationships- and not all have them.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2015 7:03am
Actively and intentionally change your focus. Focus on the things you love to do; cultivate your passions in the form of hobbies. Regularly practicing your hobbies can help you gain insight into yourself and build your confidence.
Anonymous - Expert in Depression
July 28th, 2015 3:54am
Acceptance is key, then realisation. Realise and understand that there are supportive people around you, and that you're just waiting for the perfect partner. Do not force a relationship. Find someone who will treat you like royalty.
KevBer85
November 10th, 2015 7:51pm
The best way I have found was to think of the benefits of being single versus the cons of being single. You have more time to build a base of friends and spend more time with your family. The best part about not being in a relationship is you get to leave yourself wide open for when that day which it will come you meet the one that takes your breath away, and sweeps you off of your feet.
Ametrine
June 30th, 2015 2:45am
Fill the void by being compassionate towards others. Volunteer at the humane society or homeless shelter, make an effort to be a great sibling or friend, find joy in being there for others until the right person comes along.
Nicknacker
December 19th, 2017 5:42am
Don’t compare yourself to people who have relationships. Just know that you will find someone when it is destined to happen. No sooner and no later. It is hard to be patient but true love is worth the wait.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2016 5:31pm
The best way is to learn how to love yourself. If you learn to love yourself and be happy with yourself you wont feel sad that you are alone. You'll learn to be content with being alone.
izza
April 6th, 2015 12:44pm
Smile. Smiling and having a good time makes all our worries and negative feelings fade away ; it's okay to not be in a relationship it's something that happens naturally when it is right and feeling sad and swelling on this negative feeling will not help you in life nor will forcing a relationship . Focus on what you do have and really take advantage of the good things in life . Jump into your hobbies and maybe even try something new , life is there for you to live happily!
funnyRabbit25
July 5th, 2016 8:25am
Just remember, you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Relationships aren't pills that take away sadness. So being in one doesn't automatically make someone happier. Sometimes being single is better because there's less worry and struggles. If you're in a relationship that is an emotional burden then there will be more sadness, anger, hatred than happiness. This will make you even more sad than being single. Single isn't the worst thing in the world! :)
Anonymous
September 15th, 2015 2:42am
When I had just gotten out of a relationship with a guy I thought was in love with me I began focusing on different things. I studied harder and exercised more to get a better body and let him see what he was missing out on haha. Overall, I focused on loving MYSELF.
AlanRY
October 26th, 2015 3:25pm
Where attention goes, emotion follows. I've been there before, truth be told, and in my experience, the more time I spent in my head comparing myself against others who are in a relationship, either blaming others for my situation or pitying myself for my lack of chance: I felt worse. What works for me is grounding myself via mindfulness and then daring again outside: to meet someone and give us a shot. #Grounding, that would be my answer in one word, via mindfulness.
AIPandi101
June 6th, 2015 2:33pm
Try doing something fun. Have fun with other friends and do fun activities with people who aren't in a relationship. Try to get your mind off of it.
magicalMelody47
June 6th, 2015 4:13pm
See all the positives about not being in a relationship. You don't have to buy anything for anyone, you can do whatever you like, you can keep your personal space, you can hang out with friends more often. Those are a few of the positives.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2015 2:49pm
Well personally, I remember all the good things about my life and focus on myself a bit more and eventually I remeber how much I enjoyed my own company before I had a relationship and I feel a lot happier and more content with myself as a whole.
Edward2015
June 23rd, 2015 8:14am
Cherish the relationships that you have with family members and friends. They are a good support system.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 11:53am
The best to stop feeling sad in this scenario is to pay attention to self,take good care of self and love oneself and believe that one will get their partner sooner or later but staying happy on our own is the first step to the happiness.
gracefulHand73
September 1st, 2015 2:53am
The best way to stop feeling sad about anything is to stop expecting and worrying about it. Have to stop thinking that you can be happy only in a relationship
MidnightPanda
September 14th, 2015 12:39am
Think about who you do have in your life, your family and your friends, they're worth just as much or more than an actual relationship.
TheAmazingDani
January 18th, 2016 3:58am
Learn to love yourself. If you do, then it should be easy to make friends, generally appreciate yourself and life, and be able to enjoy it. There's so much more to life than having a significant other. If you're relationship oriented, the time will come eventually.
uniqueemma7
June 27th, 2016 12:15am
Learn to be happy on your own and that it's important to not always be with someone in a relationship.
Normaaeb
October 26th, 2015 5:12am
To get distracted by other things, like getting into some groups or something. As well, get more and more into your hobbies and improve at them :)
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 12:24pm
Go out with friends enjoy life while you can you get one life the time may not be right but I'm sure mr right will come along soon enough when you least expect it
Anonymous
April 4th, 2016 6:53am
Music, journals, walking, family time. Try to keep your mind off of it. Talk to friends, anything really.
awesomeFish53
May 9th, 2016 9:38pm
Well you can do lots of things. Try and keep your mind away from relationships! Do something fun and that takes up time. And of course you can alway talk to the listeners on 7 cups if you need to.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 5:57am
Distract your thoughts from that. Think positively. Try to take a walk or do something new,like a new hobby.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2017 2:03pm
Engage with friends who value you for the right reasons, and spend time doing activities you enjoy.