What's the point of living without him/her?

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MikeSupportiveListener
February 26th, 2015 11:15pm
When we first lose someone it can be immensely painful. Sometimes however we can rely on others in order to fill an emotional void within ourselves, so when they leave the pain is far greater than if we had loved ourselves. Self-compassion is so important as it increases our resilience for situations like this. I send anyone who is suffering my thoughts. Take care, Mike.
generousApricot24
February 27th, 2015 12:14am
I know thatit might not seem like the case now, but you've got plenty of things to live for: partners come and go, but what matters is the experiences you have, your dreams, the little day to day things that make you happy
caprisun1011
June 15th, 2015 2:40am
Although you may have lost your significant other, you should still keep going. Think of all the sunrises you would miss, the smell of morning coffee, laying in bed after a long day at work. There's so much in life that you would miss out on. Just because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't mean you shouldn't keep going. You need to keep trying and living because you're not just another person in this world. You matter and you are important.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 2:45am
I hear you. I thought I met "the one" and he suddenly ended it after four months. Broke my heart after the loss of a parent last year. It was just yet another loss. However, you can go on. Heartbreak shows that you truly loved. May you have many scars and life experiences that show this person mattered in your life. You can and will go on.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2015 6:49pm
The point of living with him? The point is enjoying life . Life beckons me. Joy beckons me Peace beckons me. So the point is because, they all beckon me whilst he does not. The point is enjoying the things in life that give your life value when people cannot.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2015 8:32pm
seperation makes a person change themsleves to be a better and new individual it'll help to achieve a freedome and not suffocating relationships
NewRomantic677
September 8th, 2015 9:24am
The point of it that you are worth so much more than what others think of you. Individually, you are amazing. And I can write you a novel on how cool you are, but you need convince yourself of it first. and let me just say that that journey towards self love is worth it.
ListenLady
September 22nd, 2015 9:05pm
Your life is your own, not anyone else's and not his/hers. If you have lost this person either through a bereavement or split things will get better, you won't always feel this way. The pain and feelings can be extremely raw for months afterwards but that rawness does fade and you move on. You only get one chance at life and this is your chance.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2015 3:21pm
Sometimes people come into our lives for a short while and then they leave. Just because it didn't work doesn't mean that you wasted your time, it means that you learned as much as you could from them and that they weren't right for you. The point in living is to live for yourself, to be as happy and healthy as you can be, in time you ma meet someone else but life is about you.
MajesticTurtle
January 5th, 2016 12:32pm
Your free you have nothing to hold back and that's all that matters but everyone's time will come when they meet a wonderful/amazing person
MartiMileyCyrus
February 15th, 2016 11:15pm
The point of living is that their are other people who love and want you. Don't let one persoon bring you down because you have so much potential
HawaiianAir
March 15th, 2016 2:02am
There is a major point for living without him or her. You are worth something. You may not feel like it right now, but your life has meaning, and there are people that care about you. Hang in there, friend! Breakups are really hard, and it's normal to feel like your life is over after one, but I promise you that it will get easier over time. Keep on living and find new meaning. : )
Other
August 8th, 2016 4:17pm
You. You are not them. Your relationship was an experience and arguably a whole new person, but you still exist. Reinvent yourself, release old bonds and let yourself be renewed.
TheTripleS719
September 19th, 2016 10:12pm
You were put on this earth for YOU. Your mom didn't find out she was pregnant and say, "I hope my child knows he/she has no point in life except to only live when he/she has him/her." No, you're here for a purpose. Someone so much better is bound to come along, and show you what it's really like to love someone.
Laylon
November 14th, 2017 2:05am
It may seem like there is no one else for you, but there are so many people in the world! And other people care about you, including your family and friends, even I it doesn't seem like it.
Anonymous
May 8th, 2018 5:46am
The point is that you’re living for you! You are your own priority in your life. Love yourself like you want to be by someone else and you won’t settle anymore.
lvcm1989
October 26th, 2015 3:18pm
Before being happy with anyone else, try to work on be happy with yourself. Never choose anyone's happiness over yours.
HelpfulHands01
December 7th, 2015 2:59pm
You have so much worth. Just because your not with someone doesn't mean you have no purpose. c:
awesomeMoment27
January 19th, 2016 9:17pm
Is there a specific reason why you can't find the point in living with him or her? What are some positive aspects of the living situation?
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 7:27am
To help people finding him/her, and in the end, you'll find them yourself as well. Help as many as you can and life will in the end reward you, even if it looks a little dark in the beginning.
iris187
March 7th, 2016 9:42pm
Because before him/her there was you and you are very important too. It is important to love yourself, even when there is one less person there to love you.
BriDreaming
May 23rd, 2016 3:34am
Think of everything that you loved before that person. Think of every little happy thing you possibly can, and write them all down. Those are your things to look forward to - your reasons to keep living. They can be silly little things or big things. But no matter how small, they are still reasons for you to keep going.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2016 5:12am
Don't tell me that they are the only reason you live. What ever happened to family? Sister, brothers, moms, dads, grandma's, grandpa's. Do they not matter to you? What about your friends? They all love you just as much as he or she did.
TrannyNamedLuke
February 20th, 2017 7:30am
There is always a point to life. Your life can live on without someone in it. If you leave, you will be affecting someone the same way that someone affected you. You have to move on and live life.