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Why a little break down brings out the entire life tragedies?

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Last Updated: 05/07/2018 at 1:39am
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DanielAlly
September 22nd, 2015 4:34pm
That one little break down can affect your entire midnset. So negative things that may not have even affected you before, now seems like the most horrible thing in the world, because it's all building on that one break down.
grayWolf19
February 23rd, 2015 8:47am
We tend to bottle up our bad experiences and painful moments. Sometimes a small break down is all that is needed to "break" the lide on that jar of emotions and let them all come out
Twokindears
April 21st, 2015 11:18am
It's sort of like sweeping dust under a rug;although you can no longer see it it is still there. As time passes and you continue to sweep the dust under the rug the pile grows until you can no longer ignore it. It becomes so large that it gets in the way or begins to seep out. Life is sort of the same way.When we have things in our past that we avoid hoping they'll just go away on their own they tend to build up until until we can't take it anymore. When this happens we explode like a balloon with too much air. we either break or bend.We must face release what is bothering us or it will blow up in our face one day except we don't know when.
hellopomegranate4772
April 28th, 2015 11:45pm
Have you ever heard of that saying about one thing tipping the whole tray over? You have all these different things on your plate. It gets heavier and heavier until you drop one more thing on it, it is that, that will tip the whole tray over.
ForeverBlueSkies
May 8th, 2015 6:53am
Like a crack in the wall of a dam of emotions, the moment a fracture forms, all of the emotions flood in like a torrent. Sometimes these outbursts are exactly what we need to reset and restart to be able to handle ourselves when the water stops coming through and the walls tumble. In the silence and quiet waters we can rise out of the tragedy and start anew.
wonderfulIcicle35
June 5th, 2015 6:42am
You have broken through a wall of silence that you have spent a lifetime creating, it is a little like the boy with his finger in the dyke, the little dutch boy. The hole/leak was the weakest point, once opened it allows the hurt to emerge. You cannot control emotions that first trickle/then come out in uncontrollable tsunamis.
BrokenCat
June 18th, 2015 8:01am
If i would know my friend, I would be happy too but I am not happy either, quite depressed I must say
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 10:36am
A break down even if it's a little one just makes everything come back rushing to you. You just have to find a way to not let it bother you.
Anonymous
September 15th, 2015 3:02pm
Because you've been dealing with it for a long time until it gets heavier everyday that you cannot handle it anymore. I believe that a little break down helps you to unlift the baggage.
Greatlistener87
November 16th, 2015 6:30am
That's because you have kept a lot of tragedies emotions locked up rather than dealing with them. And because of that the moment you break out with 1 emotion all the locked up emotions will flow as well.
Jefferson1
November 17th, 2015 11:26pm
For me it is the times when I stop, when I am not surrounded by those I love, kept busy with my daily goings on, not reading what I like or listening to whomever I am into at that moment. It allows me in my happy life to realise that I am not happy sometimes. It can be a sign that I need to upkeep my mental and emotional well-being even when I am not feeling too down.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2016 6:30am
Sometimes it's mainly because from a small break down they think that their life and ruined and nothing makes then happy when truly it's just a mistake or little regret they have.
azimech
April 19th, 2016 11:35am
i think because we have to rest our mind to make us back to rational thinking. too much thinking without rest will make you sick and makes your brain about to explode
AmyJulianna
July 17th, 2017 2:56pm
You haven't had a chance to fully process your previous life tragedies yet. Personally, I used to feel the same way until I wrote everything down and processed the causes and effects of my previous struggles. After that, with a good understanding of what happened and why, I no longer feel bitter about the hard times I went through and little breakdowns no longer bring out all my previous tragedies.
Jelglu
December 4th, 2017 10:14pm
Because people often engage in those break down's and blow them out of proportion to the stage you are thinking 10 years down the line.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2018 1:39am
Sometimes that certain break down, is a trigger to everything else. So therefor, one little break down can trigger an entire life of tragedies.