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Why am I always the different one? Why doesn't anyone understand?

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Last Updated: 05/10/2021 at 5:00pm
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Jessica McDaniel, LPC, LCPC

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I have been practicing cognitive behavioral psychotherapy since 2007 with a diverse group of adult clients with various diagnoses, all races, and socioeconomic classes.

Top Rated Answers
May 1st, 2015 1:49pm
Because you haven't met the right people to keep in your life yet, that's all. The people you're with right now aren't the people that you're going to have to spend your life with, and they're only a tiny, tiny sampling of what's out there. You're going to find the right people who understand you someday--it's just a matter of staying patient until that time comes.
April 22nd, 2015 8:02am
We're all unique but there's one thing that we all want and that's to be to liked. Being different doesn't mean you're wrong, or bad, or insignificant. You should be proud of the way you stand out of the crowd. When I was 16 I met a special girl who wasn't like anybody else, she was unique and special. When we met we had an understanding of being different and we connected so well because there weren't and still aren't a whole bunch of people like us. She opened my mind to being me and me only. To live and breathe as me and I have done everyday since. People can only hurt you if you believe what they're saying. Wear your personality like armour and accept yourself and then nothing can hurt you. Thanks for reading. -Fay
July 4th, 2017 1:47am
You are different because you are YOU. Every part of who you, every little gene that microscopically makes you you, is unique, special, and one of a kind! Nobody, not even twins, are the same. Our personalities even change as we grow up and experience life. Instead of asking why nobody understands, ask yourself what you can do to help others to understand. Don't be afraid to do something you've never done or talk to somebody you've only ever dreamt of talking to. Make a real effort to connect with people and build relationships that are meaningful and genuine. You've got this!
May 24th, 2015 1:49am
Being different has nothing to do with being "bad" or have something "bad" related to you. Everyone is different from each other, this differences are the ones that makes us especials in our own kind of way! Probably, nobody understand your situation because they don't see the world like you see it, ¡is nothing to worry about! The best you can do is enjoy this feature of yours and say to the world: "Hey, i'm different and i like it!".
March 19th, 2015 8:24pm
No one is the same. There is no normal. You are not "different". You are you. Be proud of who you are and embrace it. :)
July 14th, 2015 5:17am
Many people tend to think they're the different one. I , myself think i'm different too. Maybe, you're not giving anyone a chance to understand
July 14th, 2015 1:31pm
You're not the only one that's different. Everyone is different and everyone has problems. If you communicate your struggles, people may not understand fully but they can empathize and care for you and be there in your life regardless.
November 30th, 2015 4:38pm
Different is better. It's a horrible feeling where you feel out of place, and like you are unlike everyone else. As you grow to get to know yourself better you understand it gets easier and you start to embrace it. This was something I dealt with since I was younger, and was bullied due to this. Now being the person I am, I have learnt it is better to be different. Being beaten up and picked on has damaged me but it makes me stronger as I've grown older and it's now something I don't have to deal with anymore.
April 18th, 2016 2:11am
Everyone is unique. Unique is being beautiful. There are alot of people who understand you and who are going through a similar situation
April 23rd, 2018 3:23am
You are different from others because of the struggles and challenges you faced is much different in another person and that can lead to others we try to help misunderstanding your situation and give bad support to you.
May 10th, 2021 5:00pm
Well, it's not like this, that you are different from others but think it as, they all belong to a same league! If anybody don't understand you then don't force yourself to make them understand, that what you think or what you want because if they are not understanding you right now, how can one be assured that they will understand your point of view in future. So be specific in your life, and sooner or later you will definitely find that one fellow who will understand your thoughts completely, even without being told by you! Being different is good, and don't worry about what other says because it's their work to judge other's!!
April 21st, 2015 11:15am
Maybe I need to first understand what's in my mind and then should review whether i need to tell the people anything or it's better to be myself
July 20th, 2015 3:06am
You're never the different one. We're all different, and more understand than you'd think. Some people pretend to be like others and don't think before they act.
July 26th, 2016 8:19am
I watched this video about the above. The reason nobody doesn't understand you is that you try to be the different one and perhaps you don't want to be understood. If this is not the case, perhaps you just haven't found people who share your thinking.
January 10th, 2017 10:16pm
There's nothing wrong with being different, it's good to be you and unique. If you weren't different, we'd all be the same and that's not fun nor worth it. Some people in this world no won't understand you but that isn't a bad thing, either you need to explain better or just accept who you are and that some will understand you and others won't. But that doesn't make you less of who you are.
November 27th, 2017 6:52pm
We have to recognize that we're all SO unique, and it can be hard to relate to others. It's important that we share the information in the best way that we can with someone we can trust to not judge us, so we can flourish as ourselves while connecting to others.
February 27th, 2018 11:25am
You may be feeling that you are the only one who is different but in reality,everyone in some or the other aspect is different from everyone else.And anyway,why do we have to fit in when we were born to stand out?And maybe the people who don't understand you are not smart enough to do that.But please don't generalize people,maybe the people around you now don't understand but who knows,one day you may find somebody you truly understands you.Until then,keep trying to understand yourself and try not to be hard on yourself.Take care of yourself!
July 17th, 2018 1:35am
It is very easy to feel this way, however, everyone is unique in their own way. No two people are the same. Some have difficulties "switching shoes" which causes misunderstandings. If you feel misunderstood, I believe the best thing to do would be to explain how you feel and your thoughts/actions to those you care the most about in order to minimize the distance and feeling of being misunderstood.