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Why can't I find the same joy in things that other people do?

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Last Updated: 07/21/2020 at 11:37pm
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Top Rated Answers
June 16th, 2015 6:07pm
Not being able to find joy in normal things and living life as though in a monotone is a sign of depression. Once you get help for whatever else is bothering you, you will find that the joy in things will slowly come back.
May 18th, 2015 12:39am
Because we're all unique, and different. We all like different things depending on your personality, and it's totally okay to find joy in things other people don't. It makes you special, it's not wrong.
June 30th, 2015 11:57pm
Everybody is different and what somebody may like, you may hate. This a part of our personalities. Don't feel bad about being unique!
March 2nd, 2015 7:42pm
Maybe because you see the things differently than they do. Like for eg you are those people are walking on a road together, on the same road you see people fighting and blood everywhere while those people with you are seeing flowers by the side of the road and a girl gently plucking them to give them to a young boy next to her. Or maybe its just that your interests are different, like some people like reading novels while others find watching movies exciting.
March 5th, 2015 2:44pm
There must be something that causes you pain...You must try to heal that pain.. There's a video for Adina Rivers that talks about that...
June 18th, 2015 2:52pm
Alot of times, people are very divers in what they like. it is compleatly normal to like something different, but alot of times this is asosiated with depressipn.
July 21st, 2015 12:10am
Everyone has different hobbies. You just might not be interested in your friends hobbies. And that's okay. Find things that you are interested in.
August 18th, 2015 11:46pm
no body has the same interests you aren't always going to enjoy the same things that other people do and that's okay it's okay to have different interests and it's okay not to like the same things that other people like.
September 21st, 2015 2:47pm
Because everyone is different! You are just a unique person, and many smart, beautiful people don't find joy in the "normal" things!
December 7th, 2015 9:41pm
not everyone is going to enjoy all of the same things. Everyone is different and likes to do different things. Do what you enjoy doing, it's the key to happiness.
December 29th, 2015 5:31pm
There are many possible reasons for that. I asked myself that same question all of my life until I went to the doctor and found great counselors. I am diagnosed with Major Dessive Disorder, along with many other things. My body does not make those "happy" chemicals that it's supposed to. I suggest seeking professional help to see where this is coming from. Whether it be with working with a doctor, a counselor, or both, I believe that is the best way to start to find the answers you're looking for and find and work on the root of the problem. Best of luck! I am always here for support! Remember that you are not defective, you are not broken, and you are not abnormal. You are normal. And you are capable of anything you put your mind to. You are a lovable, capable, worthy human being that deserves the very best this life can offer!
March 29th, 2016 5:59pm
You are your own individual person. Be proud of your different interests. It's what makes you who you are.
June 14th, 2016 6:13am
Maybe it is just a phase you are going through, it happens to everyone, but maybe it is more than that and you are developing depression. Take the 7cups Guide if you want.
August 9th, 2016 1:04am
Every individual finds happiness and satisfaction in different things. You may not find the joy in that specific thing, but in other things you find the joy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
October 24th, 2016 6:34am
Everyone has their own pleasures and emotions. It's entirely okay to not like "normal" things and to enjoy different things. For example, I love the rain and hate the sun light. There's nothing wrong with you for that, just take joy in the things that you do like!
October 25th, 2016 8:35pm
The way we find happiness is different for everyone, but sometimes the things that make us happy change over time too.
June 6th, 2017 11:27pm
When you get scared your friends may scream but you might just jolt, When your asked whats your favorite color you say blue but your friend says Orange. Everyone responds to things in a different way. It might take something more exciting for you to feel joyful it could be the setting or the time that wont allow something to be as exciting, It could be multiple things but you gotta focus on what you find joyful
December 5th, 2017 3:22am
you may have different interest fields, which is completely okay. we do not have to like what everybody else likes.
March 12th, 2018 11:15pm
You may not find the same joy others may have because your interests may be different from them and you're passions in one activity may not be what others enjoy doing.
April 10th, 2018 2:20am
Perhaps you don't find it such thing appealing, not everybody has the same taste. the same way people won't find joy in things that you like.
June 12th, 2018 8:42pm
Everyone has different interests. Not necessarily what others enjoy, You’ll enjoy too. It’s that simple. We have different thoughts, opinions, perspectives to situations and things. Some might like it, some might not. If you're not able to enjoy something, change it. And this applies to every aspect of life.
June 18th, 2018 2:59am
Everyone is different, and being different from others necessarily isn’t a bad thing! I’m pretty much different from everyone I know, and I’m happiest being myself than trying to fit in. Your true self is your best self!
September 24th, 2019 12:36pm
Because everyone has different interests. You have to find something that makes you happy not others. Recognize what else is going on and why you are not able to find joy. There may be a reason you are feeling this way. Find what makes YOU happy and go from there. It is okay to not have the same interests as others. It makes you unique, it makes you YOU. Remember some times in your life when you were able to find joy in things and be happy and try to look at what is similar and what is different for you.
October 30th, 2019 12:01am
Sometimes I think he have assumptions about how other people experience joy which have little basis in fact. There is no such thing as the correct amount of joy to experience. When I have depressive episodes I often get frustrated with myself for not enjoying things ‘enough’. The way that I have dealt with this is to celebrate micro joyful moments that I might feel amongst the numbness. So, if I enjoy the warmth of a cup of tea on my hands I reward myself by taking a moment to recognise that I experienced joy. Sometimes I even write down these micro moments of joy so I can remind myself that I do experience joy, that I can feel happy and that I have things to be thankful for.
November 19th, 2019 3:57am
Each one of us is individuals. And we normally enjoy different things. However there is things that are common for people to do such as sports, hanging out with friends, going to movies ect..It happens that some individuals do not enjoy those things though. And this is completely normal. Because there is probably other things that you like to do. Like reading or playing video games. You shouldn't feel insecure or weird, because you don't like what most do. For myself, I'm not enjoying movies, like all my friends do. But I do love tv shows and can discuss it for hours! This is short version of how it works.
June 29th, 2020 5:31pm
Everybody is different. You are feeling frustrated because you do not have the same interests in the people around you, but there are many other people in the world who are just like you and will love the things you love. It is okay to feel the way you do. It is okay to not like things that some other people may not like and it is okay to be frustrated with that, but you will be able to find people who are interested in the same things you are. You are not alone, you will never be alone
July 21st, 2020 11:37pm
Just because you can't find the same joy in things other people do doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. You find joy in different things because you are your own, individual person with your own passions, desires, and dreams. It's great that you explore the hobbies and passions your friends around you have, but remember to make yourself the priority. Spend time doing things that bring you true joy and call upon your individualized skills and interests. Personally, I think it's awesome and amazing to be different and have different interests. It gives you awesome stories to talk about with others and gives you a different perspective in life.