Why can't I get motivated to do something with my life?
Last Updated: 07/31/2018 at 4:28am
Claudette Pretorius, MA Counselling Psychology
Licensed Professional Counselor
I know how overwhelming it can feel when you're having a tough time. I offer clients a space that is non-judgemental and empathetic whilst navigating these times together.
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No matter what you are working on, personally or professionally, there are always days when you do not feel like showing up. There will be workouts that you do not feel like starting. There will be reports that you do not feel like writing. There will be responsibilities that you do not feel like handling. In addition, there will be “off days” when your energy and emotions are in the gutter. These fluctuations are part of life, and I face these motivational challenges just as much as the next person does. Nevertheless, for the important things in my life, I have also developed a system for dealing with these “off days.” I established a routine that I stick to no matter what. Moreover, yes, I do give myself a day, here and there, to do absolutely nothing (usually a rainy or snowy day). However, I make sure that only one of those days happens per week, and definitely not more than two in a straight row. It can be extremely difficult to get yourself into the groove, but once you establish your personal routine, you feel so much better.
It is possible that you could be afraid of failure. We have all been at this point, but you must realize that failure is a necessity if you want to succeed!
Maybe you haven't realized just how valuable you are. Your time is the greatest asset you have; don't waste it living someone else's life. Find what you love and pour yourself into it.
I've asked myself this question many times, the short answer is that you don't have the willpower. Willpower isn't something you can just attain, it's like a muscle, if you want strong muscles then you need to start out small and work your way up, it's the same with willpower. Try little things first, breaking a habit, resisting a treat, doing chores when they need doing and you'll build up your willpower and your confidence and eventually you'll be strong enough to go for something big like changing your life.
By using "can't", you're already convincing yourself that getting motivated is impossible; something that you're not physically capable of doing. By firstly changing the way you think, you can do wonders.
You dont have the' X-factor' , something that drives you to work hard . The idea to find it lies within you. Search what u want the most and always fuel it with the needs to achieve the goals
sometimes it's hard to get motivated to do something, anything. What's worked for me in the past, is to sit down and really think about what it is that I want from my life - and how to get it. Once i figure out what I want, i can find it in me to achieve it - and you can too!
Sometimes, it takes more to motivate us, especially with a "big move" or change considering you're talking about you're entire life, like every aspect, rather than just one. Motivation has to come from you actually wanting to do something not you just saying hey I want to do this but never really doing anything concerning this change in your life, like making it happen or working towards a conclusion or a plan as to how you're going to accomplish this.
Reasons may be lack of confidence, no goal to achieve something, dissatisfaction about something, laziness and depression.
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