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Why can't I just be happy?

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Last Updated: 11/24/2020 at 6:04pm
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April 11th, 2015 2:52pm
Happiness much like other emotions can not be forced upon yourself , it's passive and natural . You should not focus and force yours of to be happy as it results in you asking questions much like "why can't I just be happy" this results in you thinking about the things that are making you unhappy subcontiously , which prevents you from actually being happy . You should rather focus the possitive such as likes and hobbies you have and dive into them . Rather than dwelling on why you are not Happy you should look forward in life on things that you can do , finally just smile and laugh !!
December 14th, 2015 12:02am
Depression is an illness that takes away the joy to be happy and it robs us from having a positive frame of mind.
October 2nd, 2016 11:46pm
I think that people forget, they forget that happiness isn't some magical thing that comes whenever. Happiness is a choice, it's a choice you sometimes have to make daily for yourself. The way you live your daily life will determine your state of mind and your state of mind will either make you or break you. Happiness isn't easy for you, I'm guessing. Life will kick the life out of you till you're lying on the ground helpless thinking if this is even worth it. But my god, it is. You deserve love and joy and above all this, you deserve happiness xxx
June 30th, 2015 8:37pm
Being happy in this complex society can be challenging! When you aren't happy it is often because you are aware of what happens around you. Just take little steps and don't forget to breath.
September 1st, 2015 1:52pm
You can, you just need to stop being so hard on yourself and enjoy life because you only have one of them.
May 29th, 2015 5:03am
Because you don't want to be. feel it from your heart and be happy in every situation. that should be Mantra of your life.
April 4th, 2016 9:59pm
Happiness is not guaranteed. No one can be happy at all times, because life doesn't work that way. True happiness can only be felt when one experiences sadness; a balance of both emotions is needed for one to be truly happy.
April 28th, 2015 5:35pm
I believe HAPPINESS is a choice :) I don't know what you're going through right now, but I can feel that it puts barrier for you to be happy. Whatever it may be, eventually it will pass. Then you'll have the reason to smile again :) Hashtag ChooseHappiness ;)
October 10th, 2016 5:07pm
Not everyone is happy, that would be impossible to have everyone in the world to be happy. To some degree everyone is content in there lives in where they are or they would change the situation. Some people are also just plain miserable but still content in where they are or they would change it.
February 1st, 2016 12:44am
If a person or individual chooses to be happy they can. Life is about choices individuals choose to make. You are the gatekeeper of your life! We are faced with many challenges in life good ones and bad ones. However, you have the option to choose between the two. Accept the one you choose and be happy with your decision. Know one can ever make you sad or unhappy if you choose not to be. Always be content with the choice you make. Remember, life is a game, therefore, choose wisely when playing the game!
February 7th, 2017 12:48pm
It's usually because we tend to over-think matters and keep all those confusions, emotions to ourselves because we tend to think that "others won't understand" or "how would they feel about this". It is rather healthy that instead of just welling up those feelings because of the fear of losing people who mean a lot to you, you talk to them honestly. Let them know how you feel. It would help them to better understand your situation and would lead towards healthy relationships. Talking out your feelings would help you relieve the burden of the confusions you have and ultimately happiness.
October 17th, 2016 3:59am
Life isnt always sunshine and lollypops for each person, althought i wish i could be. you just need to look pass the pain and you WILL find happyness. It will just take time
October 16th, 2015 7:03pm
You can. I won't write a big paragraph about how you can be happy because that is something you have to learn on your own but believe me, you can be happy.
November 24th, 2015 11:23pm
You can you just have to find things and people who make you happy and get your mind off the negative stuff!
May 22nd, 2018 3:24am
Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves, and live by comparison. We just have to learn that happiness is not all the same , being happy is a path that we start by finding happiness in the smallest things around us .
April 18th, 2017 6:17am
Happiness as everyone knows is a state of mind where we feel and experience a lot of positivity , In modern world happiness has come to be synonymous with materialism where when we achieve something we feel happy , but the loss of possession brings sadness . The most important thing about such form of happiness is that it is only transitory , to be lived in that moment. Some philosophies dictate that happiness and sadness both are only temporary and are to be embraced and accepted as reality. Then how do we maximise happiness ? The largest amount for the maximum period of time . The way to achieve such a state is when we find the happiness within ourselves not in the outside world . We become truly happy when we are not really bothered about happiness , sadness , pain , agony , loss and gain . We don't celebrate life and neither do we mourn death . when we strive to achieve such a state of mind , then only we realise the true nature of life . So the way i see it , we have two choices - either celebrate both happiness and sadness OR get detached with emotions and just do your karma .
April 3rd, 2018 6:37pm
You have to believe you can be happy, No one can always be happy this will pass, focus on yourself for now
November 24th, 2020 6:04pm
We can't be just happy, someone can, but mostly people need to work on their happiness. You have to ask yourself, what is happiness for you? Everyone perceives it differently. What is your happiness? Try to make a list of what your happiness is, what are the things that make you happy, and don't rush, do it gradually, discover it from day to day. And when your list full, try to prioritize these things and think about what are the things that are most important for your happiness. Which areas are most important to you? If you already have all the things that should make you happy, then maybe you should think again about whether these things really make you happy? Maybe these are not the things that ensure your happiness, maybe you are on the middle path to your happiness. Sometimes it is useful to understand the things that interfere with your happiness and to understand how you can change these obstacles, and if you change them, will it improve your happiness? Basically - what does happiness mean to you? What do you need to be happy? And what are the things in your life that interfere with you to be happy?