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why cant i pull myself out when i know that i dont want be in this state anymore?why??

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Last Updated: 06/19/2018 at 3:15pm
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Anonymous - Expert in Depression
October 2nd, 2015 6:53am
No one chooses to be this way. It's a difficult, long process and it requires a different solution for each individual. Seek help, get support and think outside of the box. You need hope, motivation and a fresh new start. It's easy to stay this way, it's hard to change. But the more difficult the task, the greater the reward. And I promise you, happiness is worth it all.
November 23rd, 2015 7:09pm
You are not asking a right question. The question should be, "how can I get out it as o have realized that it is not suitable for my life". There are no why's. Asking why is like already losing hope and giving up. This why is not showing the desire to deal with it. This why is the result of you holding back yourself. And you can always pull yourself out of it. Not just by yourself, but by seeking help from people around you. Maybe you are not looking at the brighter side at all. Maybe you are not that encouraged and excited about the new life. Maybe you are not looking forward to change.
October 31st, 2017 1:08am
More often than not, mental illness is not a simple matter of choice. It does help that we want to be free of what we're struggling with, but it isn't the only factor. Recovery is a jagged scribble and not a straight line. Even wanting to be free of this is an amazing, huge step in the right direction. Try not to beat yourself up while you are figuring out how to get where you want to be. It is exhausting and it will take time, but you can do this! We are here for you if you need us to help you think of options. Good luck!
June 19th, 2018 3:15pm
Because we are afraid. Afraid of change, result, or what others perception for us would be. Be brave and believe that you can!
February 13th, 2015 8:43pm
Sometimes we want to pull ourselves out of a problem, but we don't always have the means to do so. And that's okay. But when we feel ike that, it might be beneficial if we choose to reach out for some additional help and support from the people that we are closest to, or a mental health professional. We can't do everything in life alone. So asking for a little bit of help is nothing to be embarassed about. Sometimes mental disorders can prevent us from being able to simply "get over it" too. But there are people out there that are trained to help with that.
February 14th, 2015 8:02pm
Family and friends. That's probably one and only best reason why.
May 18th, 2015 12:17pm
Don't want to be in what state? Also we can't pull ourselves our of something unless we know how we got in their in the first place. So start there.
May 31st, 2015 12:17am
Recognizing that you're in distress is only the first step, but it's a big one! Changing your mood can take hard work, and sometimes involves a little outside help. Some people find behavioral therapy to be a helpful solution, while others seeks solace in spiritual practices or simply among friends and family. There isn't a single solution to moving out of an emotional state; the key is finding a solution that's right for you.
August 18th, 2015 12:05am
Misery loves company lol, but the truth is sometimes it's easier to sulk than move forward which requires energy and thinking. Change isn't easy.
August 24th, 2015 1:55pm
Because you don't know how to save yourself and it's okay promise, you just have to completely devote yourself to the path you have to walk
November 2nd, 2015 7:47am
because somewhere deep down inside of you, you know that your life really matters and it'll be devastating for your loved ones if something bad happened to you. perhaps seek for some help on 7 Cups (or in real life) to talk about your feelings and help smooth things out in your head. we love you, and we all respect and treat you with dignity! :)
December 1st, 2015 3:16pm
It is because of the attachment of yourself towards that particular situation. You have to be more practical and sometimes saying a big no and big yes does matters.
December 21st, 2015 9:30pm
Probably, despite the fact you want so badly to improve your situation, your brain continue thinking that "you're wasting time, you will not pull out of this situation". You must be really really determinated and convinced! Also, remember that is a long process; unfortunately is impossible to get better in only one day, but you can do little steps that will bring you out of this bad situation.
February 29th, 2016 10:15am
I think I'm sometimes incapable of saying NO to others. So even though I want to get out of a situation, I just stay not wanting to hurt others. But I'm trying to learn how to pull myself out of those situations for my own safety and well-being.
August 9th, 2016 7:25pm
Don't be so hard on yourself, if it was that easy then none of us would suffer from mental illness like depression. Remember depression is an illness and it needs to be treated as that. You can't just snap out of high blood pressure and the same goes for depression.