Why can't I stop hating myself?
Last Updated: 04/22/2019 at 1:34am
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Maybe because you haven't looked inwards and accepted your flaws. We all have imperfections and you should accept yours
I used to hate myself. I wanted to die. I always felt why i have been created by god without beauty and talent. He should have made me tree and in all means alive or dead i would have been useful. This annoyance and hatred was self destructive. Love of family and fear of impact of society on my family never ever dared me to do it. Gradually when I joined a spiritual organisation I have learned to free doubting on God first. I learned to love myself. I learned to let go things. I have learned to whatever I am even a sieve then still i have to best. I may not store liquid but I can separate impurities and undesired things from it. I also realised once we are able to recognise our own problem means somewhere in deep we want to come out from it and second we are very near to resolve it. its never late in anything. If we are alive we can fight at any point, any moment to win, if we are dead we are just a decomposing body , nothing else. In last..."Darkest the night, nearest the Dawn" " Winter always turns to spring" "We all have potential to win and have smile, we are born for being happy only" " Change in single individual can bring change in society and humankind" Thanks Please love yourself to be loved by.
You could have many reasons for this and the once causing you to hate yourself may not be over yet, you may not be on the road to redemption.
You can't hate yourself because you can't forgive yourself or give yourself a break. Everybody makes mistakes, no one is perfect, but it can be hard to accept these traits in yourself. Accepting yourself is easier said than done. It's easy to look at other people, and since you have no way of knowing what is going on inside their head, think everything is fine and that you are subpar. But here is a secret: no one really knows what they're doing. We're all just trying our best to get along.
Sometimes there is more to it then just you. Maybe talking to other people, asking them what they like about you, can bring things into a better perspective.
There was a point in my life where even looking in the mirror Would disgust me. I couldn't bare seeing my face or staring into my eyes. I have a fear of physical contact because whenever I touch someone... I end up hurting them and it scared me so much.
Because you can't stop hating yourself on your own you need people by you to help you love yourself.
We can be our best critics and harshest judges at the same time because we constantly want to be the best. Every time we do something that's not as per our own expectations, we make a mental note and never miss the opportunity to make ourselves aware of all the things that we do wrong. However, the mind that can hold you down is the same mind that can lift you up. Channelling our emotions from the things we do wrong to the things we do right takes quite an effort. It is a constant battle that we must fight against our negative self. Don't hate yourself. You are human. You are allowed to make mistakes. You are allowed to be sad about them. Just, don't forget all the good that you do for one wrong thing.
You probably tend to blame a lot of things on yourself. Your self-esteem might be low as you find it difficult to love yourself. Do you feel like you're worthless? That's a sign. If you need anyone to talk to, we're here to listen and help :)
There was point in time when I looked at myself the only things that I saw were flaws, But these imperfections were what made me who I am. Hard to accept yes, easy to get to that point no. Nonetheless slowly but surely when I learned how to embrace who I am I fell in love with that person who I hated and that would be me.
Just because of some past experience you can't keep on mistreating yourself. Don't blame yourself. Forgive yourself at first that could make you hate yourself less.
As humans, we tend to see the worse in ourselves. Its hard but once you accept that you are not perfect and never will be it can get a lot easier to love yourself.
May be you havent seen the real side of love and yourself. Stuck in the materialistic world and comparing real life with the unrealistic one where you dont find yourself fit in. Its not your fault to hate yourself, bcoz you may be at the wrong place for the wrong reason for so long. Change the situation or accept it whole heartedly, you will love yourself and may be not hate anyone else also. Best of luck. To add another important related thing associated. People have this concept that they hate themself but they claim to love others. Those who cant love themselves cant truely love others. May be contradictory to some but true to the best I know. Have faith in yourself.
You can, stop waking up with the thought that you hate yourself. Wake up and be proud of who you are. Flaws and all. Our flaws are what make us who we are, they’re what help us grow as individuals. Figure out what exactly it is you dislike about yourself and work towards changing it for the better. There are plenty of people willing to listen and help you along the way, take advantage of you’re resources. Think positively about yourself and you will feel positive with yourself. Always remember negative thoughts result in negative outcomes and positive thoughts result in positive outcomes.
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