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Anonymous
April 1st, 2016 3:59am
We push people away because they don't know what its like, and they assume and don't understand Anything
Anonymous
June 5th, 2016 1:05am
Because they feel like a burden. Also.well-meaning loved ones sometimes make it harder because they don't truly understand what the depressed person ins experiencing. Just stick by the person, let them know you're there - and then let them be.
Many times when people are depressed they are churning in emotions of unworthiness and guilt. They feel that they are the blame for everything that has gone wrong in their life. So many times they feel that they are a burden and don't want to be a bother to anyone else.
Anonymous
September 18th, 2015 7:41pm
Because they don't want to or they don't want others to get hurt. They think that other people don't like them and that they only pretend to.
It is human nature to want to be strong for those you love, when you hurt inside, you don't want those you love to feel like it is their fault, or they are to blame. It is easier, at the time, to remove people you care about
They feel that their family can not help them and that there is no need in family. They are sad and dont want to be bothered really.
Because we love them and we don't want them to know we are depressed. We think that they'll see us differently or become depressed themselves if they find out our dark little secret. We are embarrassed and feel that we can't do anything right because we can't even make a real smile. That's why I do it, anyways.
They do that because they feel like the loved ones won't understand them- the way they feel etc- and also for not hurting them while they experience anger, bad moods or so. Some depressed people may need time for themselves/to be alone, so they might isolate even from the loved ones.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 1:37pm
Depressions is a dark place where few things make sense. There are voices in your head telling you things you know aren't true but they don't stop. Caring becomes too difficult. You're expected to explain things to the people that are about you and explaining something you don't understand is harder than pushing people away. There is also the fear that these people might judge you and brush away your concerns and that, in itself, is scarier than any other thought.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 5:05pm
They are too caught up in their problems to notice anything else to be honest. Good luck! Hope all works out well!
We might feel as though this is a one person battle, and do not want to put any of it onto loved ones.
Because they don't want others to get affected by them. Also, they don't want to get hurt by thr loved ones.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2015 5:31am
One of the things depression does is make the person apathetic. This makes them push away people they love or people who love them
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 5:15pm
Because of distorted thinking that no one can or wants to help or understand. Also because of lack of energy.
It's just their feelings that make them want to be shut out and alone. Just let them be sad for a while, but when they're done, they'll probably go back to you! :)
Anonymous
December 28th, 2016 11:07pm
Depressed people often push people away in fear of being hurt or hurting them. Another reason could be that they feel like they are a burden to their loved ones(I can confirm this since i am diagnosed with depression). So if a loved one feels like they burden you, then take the time to reassure them and say you really love them.
It can be very difficult to experience such strong feelings of sadness. It can present itself as a physical pain or absolute numbness, that can make you too exhausted to speak or interact. People can also feel as though they are a burden to loved ones, and push them away so they don't hurt them.
Anonymous
November 1st, 2015 8:10pm
They feel like people just don't understand them. They think they are alone so they don't think people love them or that anyone is there for them.
Its just my opinion but I think one reason could be because we know how much depression hurts and we don't want our loved ones to get hurt as well. We sometimes think its better for them to live without us or that sometimes we think we are going to not be here because of bad choices so we push them away so they can live without us. Its how I feel but of course others will feel differently.
Depression is a serious disease which no one should take lightly.when you are in that state you feel a sense of loneliness and unloved .you feel people don't get you even your loved ones it's not deliberate but such kind of people deserve full support and need to be treated effectively.
This is a good question and I think that it's important that a lot of people understand the answer to this. From my personal experience, when I am in a bad depressive episode I really don't want people to talk to me. Don't take it personally! It could simply be the way people cope with it and they don't want you to feel like you have to put up with them like that. When I am depressed I feel like a burden to every single person who tries to help me, and this results in me pushing people away. That is one of the worst things I could do but at the time it feels right. I think it's important for you not to take it seriously as it's probably something as simple as them wanting to be alone to cope with their thoughts.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 9:14pm
In my experience it's been because they didn't want to hurt their loved one, and wanted to be a better person for them. When a person doesn't communicate their problems it has an effect on everyone around them, all you can do is let them know that you are there for them. That's what I did.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 4:28am
Depressed people have gone through a lot of bad stuff and they are still going through bad stuff, basically it alters their whole working of brain which doesn't let them think rationally and in this case love can heal them the most.
Because it is hard to accept that overwhelming love and caring that you get from them, knowing that you are not giving back only frustration.
Because depressed people know that saying they are depressed or they don’t feel good only make things worst. Most of the people around would say its just on the mind, find a hobby, its just your imagination, etc. And it hurts the most hearing those from your loved ones as if you invented an imaginary disorder like it doesn’t exist. That’s why people with depression push their loved ones, because they’re hurting. And don’t want to hurt them by proving their point so its better to leave.
A depressed person focuses inward, into themselves. Everyone and everything outside becomes simply irrelevant. Paying attention to the outside world and the people in it requires a lot of effort and occures as a painful hassle.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2015 6:32am
Depression is a very nasty disease. It's not easily treatable and has a huge stigma surronding it. Depression is the only disease with a terminal outcome that we look down upon. We tell people it's not the bad and they just need to get out when they do reach out for help- which only makes them feel worse. The stigma is why they push people away, not to mention this disease makes one feel they're not worth anyone's time.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2015 4:44pm
You believe everyone else thinks you are as worthless as you feel for yourself so best thing is to push them away before they can hurt you.
While in depression the person always feels negative and down and that person doesn't want their loved ones to feel their negativity they don't think that they can be helped and that he or she would only bring others down
Anonymous
June 15th, 2020 8:54pm
Depression can cause people to feel unworthy of love and like a burden to everyone in their lives. There is also so much guilt involved because it’s easy to feel like people need you to feel okay, and it’s so easy to feel guilty for not being okay and not wanting to let anyone know. In my own experience, when I felt like a burden to those I loved or guilty because people who loved me were sad that I was sad, I pushed them away because I wanted better for them than for them to feel that way because of me. Thankfully, some of those people were persistent and stuck by me even when I tried to push them away. I know it must’ve been hard for them, but I’m so thankful they did it.
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