Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

Sometimes they might feel that they are hurting them and it would be better to just not have anyone around them because it can be too painful.

Some depressed people are suicidal, and we find it best to push others away so our depression doesn't hurt them.

Because they feel that because of the people or thing that they are depressed about, they will face the same thing from their loved ones. Also because they may think that they are not worth the loved ones love and attention. Also they might have been hurt too many times and dont want to take another chance.

Several reasons. The first being that when you are depressed everything feels futile and possibly even hostile, pushing people away is one way your mind may feel it is protecting itself. The next reason is that you may feel you are not worth being around loved ones and they shouldn't have to "suffer" your depression as well so you push them away until you can feel at your best for them. The last is that in some cases the person may unconsciously not want to get better if they feel they aren't worth it so may be self-sabotaging relationships as a result.

Depressed people often push loved ones away because they feel that they may hurt them. They don't want to hurt their loved ones or "bother" them with their pain, so they push them away almost as a way to protect them.

we accept the love we think we deserve, so i think this is your case,

They fear that the loved ones don't understand or are afraid of pity or loved ones over-reacting to it.

depression is like drowning except you can see everyone around you breathing, it's like you're screaming as loud as you can and no one around u hear you or even care about you that's why depressed people tend to push people away cause they still see that even though they love them but still this love isn't enough they feel as if you just don't care and they're afraid to exchange the same love with them so they won't get disappointed or hurt at the end

Being Depressed is like Standing over a cliff with a storm above your head, alone and isolated and you constantly ask the questions should i jump ?

Because they often feel like they don't deserve to have anyone that loves them and sometimes they feel guilty that their sadness can affect others and they don't want to pass that sadness on.

In part, depressed people want their loved ones to know how awful they feel - they are searching for words of assurance, and they want to know that they will continue to be supportive even when provoked to be otherwise

Depressed people push loved ones away because they do not feel as if the love is worth anything, they feel as if love is pointless and loving them if pointless.

I think it's because we don't want to hurt someone along the way. We are scared that if we have loved ones around when we are hurting, they will soon get hurt too.

It can vary from person to person but mostly it's cause they might feel like they're a burden for their loved ones or that they don't deserve help. They don't want you to worry, most probably

Depressed people get scared to talk to their loved ones. They feel like they wouldn't understand and they don't want them to look at them differently.

I believe depressed people push their loved ones away with a fear that they aren't worthy of being worried over, they are totally not worth it or because of the fact that they are only afraid that they couldn't be helped. Some depressed people with anxiety and high empathy would possibly feel like they wouldn't want to trouble their loved ones.

In my case, I wanted to wallow in my despair. I wanted to suffer alone and not bring anyone down with me. But everyone has their own reasons, it might be similar to mine or completely different, only they would know.

They do not want any bit of their compassion anymore. They wish to stay alone. They feel guilty of doing wrong to someone..

Depressed people push loved ones away because they do not love themselves ; therefore they feel no one else is able to love them.

They could possibly not want to hurt others while they are hurting or they simply do not trust people not to leave them, so they make it easy on themselves and push others away.

What ive found from personal experience is that its not that the depressed person hates them but rather they dont want to hurt or burden the loved one. In a sense the farther from the person you are when something bad happens the less it hurts like a bomb kinda.

Depressed people generally feel like they aren't worth anyone's time and know it, so they feel guilty about it. They might also feel like they are not nice and feel it is best to avoid people to save them from being hurt.

Because they feel like 1. they don't have the energy to love the person back and 2. they don't believe the person loves them for real, because they don't think they deserve to be loved. They feel more safe when they are alone, because then nobody can hurt them.

Well, depression people used to pushed people they love away cause, most of the time they will felt themselves worthless and can't make people they love happy so they used to afraid of being burden to them and they was afraid od hurting people they love to the depression and the negative thinking that used to be in their mind like a poison, but honestly they doesn't want to hurt you but they pushed you away usually they will think that your life will be better without them as they afraid of hurting you emotionally. They prefer they are the only one who get hurt other than make people they love hurt too. Actually they tried to protect people they love's feeling but maybe in a wrong way. Well it is not surprising cause they got much more negative thoughts and thinking more than you know they are. Tbh, they need support and people to lead them to positive thinking and manners but most of people around then doesn't aware of it. And they prefer thinking that the depression people is fine but deep inside them, they aren't fine totally. But most of the time, depression people used to hide their emotions and what they feel so that it won't make people around them worry. But actually, to all of people out there, please be aware if someone were depressed cause I'm afraid it will get worsen till they might be having a suicidal thoughts.

being depressed i feel like i cause a lot of problems to everyone around me. especially my loved ones. i want them to be happy. and if i make them feel sad or stressed the quickest solution i can think of is to push them away. a lot of people may think i hate them but the truth is i love them so much i rather sacrifice myself in a way to make them feel better if i cause them so much stress... i dont know if this makes any sense. i hope it does. but basically. we push them away so we wont hurt them...

Sometimes we want to have some time on our own to analyse and validate our thoughts neutrally without other people interfering during the process, sometimes we are afraid to depend on other people emotionally, sometimes we are afraid of people leaving or hurting us that we choose to distance ourselves in order to ignore the pain and sometimes we are not able of forming healthy relationships with people and therefore we try to ignore our problems by fading away. There can be thousands of reasons to why a person chooses to push people away. Ask yourself, do you relate to any of the reasons given above?

Depressed people push loved ones away for quite a few reasons. One reason for pushing loved ones away is to hide a side of oneself that one is ashamed of. The idea of not being able to manage one's own life and mental health is something that people on the outside are not always accepting of. Depressed people might push loved ones away because depression is altering their thought patterns and might lead one to no longer trust in loved ones or have hope that things will improve. Another reason might be that depressed people are looking to protect their loved ones by not exposing them to the traumas that they've experienced and by not giving them a burden in the form of them and their traumas. People listening to traumas can live vicariously through them and experience some of the emotions and stress as well on top of the stress and emotions that come with hearing about a loved one struggling altogeter.

Sometimes, because they would rather no one cares. If no one cares, then no one will stop you from hurting yourself or miss you.

Because they feel as if close ones may not understand, or that they may hurt their close ones if they did something.

Because it is very distressing to feel so low for so long, and they have lost hope of life and willingness to connect and try.