Why do I always feel like I'm never going to get over my depression, no matter how long or how hard I try?

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Noah88
March 24th, 2015 8:49pm
Depression has a habit of making you think that you're never getting out of its clutches, because it's messing up the way your brain processes certain signals. This can then influence the way you perform (in work or school, or socially, for example), which may not live up to what you're used to. After that, it's easy to start feeling bad about it, producing less of your 'happy hormones' (like serotonin, endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin), feeding back into the start of the cycle. This which makes living your life the way you want to, and the recovery towards living your life that way, very hard - and makes you feel like you're not getting out of what feels like a downwards spiral.
BeInJoy
February 16th, 2016 4:27am
That's what depression does to your brain. It creates ruts and forces you to fight your way out of them. It's a consistent uphill battle. But you WILL get out - I speak from experience. I climbed out by doing these three things: every day, I found one thing to be grateful for; every day I did one thing that no one could take away from me that I felt I was the master of; and every week, I made some sort of plans to look forward to. These started out small: I'm grateful for the roof over my head keeping me dry; today, I read 50 pages in a book; next week, I get to go to the book store and buy a NEW book. Then, as I started to feel better, those small things got bigger. It became being grateful for life itself, that I'd mastered an olympic-style life in the gym, and I looked forward to kayaking in open water. You CAN do this. You have to remind yourself that you are worth the effort.
freshLove97
June 13th, 2016 1:52pm
One of the symptoms of depression is hopelessness. That's consulting with a professional is so important. He or she may recommend a therapy to help overcome those feelings.
YourBeautifulXx
April 16th, 2018 6:52pm
I understand, I felt like this and still sometimes do, deoression is hard, no matter how hard you want to be happy, your brain won't let you, you can try but it won't always work. You will get over your depression one day, no matter how long it takes, you are perfect and deserve to be happy, let no one bring you down or judge you. Be you, no one can change you.
LondonLostGirl
April 3rd, 2015 2:48pm
People have a tendency to feel that way. But actually you can, with time or you just haven't applied the right way
Jack
April 30th, 2015 8:37pm
Depression is a very difficult illness to over come and all too often we find ourselves feeling lost and unable to recover from it, which can be very hard to deal with. When dealing with depression it's important to try and hold a positive mind set that you can, and that you will, beat depression. It's often useful if you have a support network to get help from (such as 7 Cups of Tea), so that you know you're not alone in facing depression. It's a very hard illness to deal with, although try to remember depression is a treatable illness and there is help & support available for it! It's vital for recovery to know that you deserve to recover, no matter how overwhelming it feels and that you're worth it!
ComeDreamWithMe
July 13th, 2015 5:23pm
Depression is an ailment that tends to feed and empower itself. Depression takes away all the things that motivates us - the ability to feel connected to others, the desire to do activities that we need/love, a sense of self. The very symptoms of depression counteract what's needed to treat it. That's why escaping a depression can be so difficult for so many, because it creates that feeling that there's nothing you can do to get better.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2016 2:46am
It isn't going to overcome so easily you need to keep pushing to that goal even when you fail pick up where you fail and get back up and keep trying you can do it.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 10:46am
It's the depression talking. You feel comfortable travelling the road most walked, unfortunately this path leads to depression. Trying to escape means you have to try new paths, and this trial and error method can be a very scary experience. It requires a lot of hard work, support and faith in self. If you can't change your situation, change your attitude about it. Stay strong, things truly do get better - it's up to you to make that change.
Laks1
August 2nd, 2016 2:32pm
Getting over your depression is a process. It won't happen overnight but it would take sometime. Stressing over your depression, trying way too hard and expecting it to end instantly makes you feel worse. Relax and take things one at a time. I bet you would feel better and in no time it would be over
Anonymous
July 18th, 2017 9:15am
When depression acts up the dopamine and seratonin in the mind is suppressed so try doing thimgs that make you happy like smiling or look up something funny.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2018 5:24am
Its easy to feel like depression is overwhelming and inescapable, that's one of the challenges it comes with. What's important to remember is our brains and hearts are amazing, and we can fight back against depression a little every day in small ways- walking in the sunlight helps our brain chemistry and provides vitamin K, touch lowers stress hormones (hugs, even giving yourself a facial massage) and certain foods along with exercise help encourage our body to support us by producing more happy hormones :-).
AmethystUnicorn
July 15th, 2018 3:56pm
Depression can skew your view on things, it can make you think that things won't get better. Things will get better though, no matter what thoughts your depression gives you!!
DipityEnigma
April 16th, 2015 5:17pm
It may seem like a stupid answer but it really is due to you being in depression. It makes you feel like it's not worth-it, like you're not worth-it. You need to grab a hold of your depression and tell it you're the one in control, not your depression. You will overcome it and you will not be controlled by anyone, let alone yourself.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 4:31pm
Because it's been going on for so long already. 8 years, and it only seems to be getting worse. There is no solution.
PeacefulLily
May 13th, 2015 12:35am
When you are right in the middle of depression its like being in a dark cloud. Of course you can't see the bright light that waits just outside the cloud, but that doesn't mean it isn't there. There is hope, even in the darkest of situations.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 2:31am
Because depression is a chemical disorder in the brain.say you remember going to the park as a little kid and you loved going down the slide,well when you are older and you go to even a different park and you see a slide you get excited.In the same way when something that caused your depression to start comes to the surface some how and you are triggered it is hard to stop thinking about so to even attempt to get rid of depression you have to stop the triggers
JoanMcWench721
November 9th, 2015 11:51am
Because being sad sometimes eclipses happiness regardless of how strong the sun is. Which means we find it easier to rely on sadness than happiness
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 7:11pm
Because no matter how hard you try to deal with depression there's always going to be something that will trigger that mood again. Life is difficult, there's not doubt about it. Everyone has to deal with stressors on a day to day basis. Life isn't perfect, but I just focus on what I love and I motivate myself to achieve highly. My motivation stops me from feeling depressed constantly. I found something I am passionate about and I do not plan to let go. No one can get over depression, but as strong human beings we learn to deal with it.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2015 5:36pm
Because you feel alone when you aren't alone you will never be alone I promise that here there is always someone here to talk to you inbox anyone to talk please
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 1:33am
depression is a strenuous journey but there's always light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to believe in yourself.
LilDisaster
November 1st, 2016 1:16pm
Cause even if you dont realise it, you are not trully beliving in yourself and you are feeling closed up.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 12:06am
Sometimes depression is a chemical imbalance. It wont go away but it can improve withthe right medication. It may take time to fi d the right one
BradyHero
January 23rd, 2017 6:37pm
It can be hard to feel hopeful when you are constantly hurting - I know that having hope can be hard for me sometimes. Just remember that as long as you keep moving forward, you are getting there, and don't be afraid to reach out for help if you know you need it.
stargirl27
February 6th, 2017 8:40am
because my surrounding is not supportive, and not all people could change who they are, their families, friends, workplace, what country they're in and what religion they were born with
SavPerkin0115
April 16th, 2018 1:26pm
It is a mental illness and for some people it lasts a lifetime. Medications help regulate feelings, It might be something you'd want to try.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 2:59am
Depression is anger turned inward. It is generally an reaction to something mental or environmental. If you allow yourself to resolve the inter anger. The depression maybe easier to let go. Medication can assist if necessary. Nonetheless, the will to bring happiness to life is the greatest remedy.