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Why do I always feel like people are against me?

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Last Updated: 11/13/2018 at 6:40am
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Anonymous
June 11th, 2015 7:44pm
Everyone feels this way from time to time. If it happens every time you go out, you might want to talk to someone about it, like a close friend or a counselor. When these feelings are very strong and if they keep you from going out in public, it's usually a sign of social anxiety. Social Anxiety can range from a mild discomfort around others to extreme withdrawal from society, such as agoraphobia. The best thing I can tell you is that most people don't really care. People are too wrapped up in their own lives to notice small things about you, and most of the time even if you think you have some highly noticeable flaw, they didn't even see. Try to think of it this way - when was the last time you were out where you really just focused on one person, and how much you disliked them, and saw every flaw? Probably never. And that's how people are. They're not really worried about you, and surely not enough to hate you without even knowing you.
heavenlySpring75
May 13th, 2015 12:59am
You may feel this because of anxiety. Anxiety is a troubling matter and it can usually lead to false suspicions.
dreamFriend29
July 27th, 2015 3:04pm
I do not think people are really 'against you'. It is the way we sometimes think about ourselves and our attitude towards ourselves that turns other people away from us. I had times when I believed that for example a neighbour who never spoke to me, never knew anything about me, hated me. This was simply just my perception and belief and not the factual truth of the neighbours feelings towards me.
CocoPotato
November 28th, 2016 2:42pm
I personally think it's because I try to stay away from most people and I love being alone, it's usually hard for me to keep up a conversation and I feel like someone would be against me if they interrupt me or something, even though I know it's not true I still think that.
VictoriousVoice
June 30th, 2015 1:43pm
Because you look down on yourself. You see more flaws then what you see things that you like. Now you believe the world sees your flaws too.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 8:08am
i think maybe because you have low self esteem. so you think people are when they arent. also it could be anxiety? but you just have to love yourself then you wont feel this way
nicolehere
April 20th, 2015 2:50am
Sometimes when you are overwhelmed or dealing with a lot in life it is hard to recognize the positive things and strengths in your life. If you do not feel confident in yourself it is likely you will feel like other people are not confident in you either. Self love and affirmation are key.
BooishMonkey
August 30th, 2016 2:52am
Having those days where it feels like there is a target on our backs is frustrating to say the least. Try to focus instead on times when you were praised, or comforted by those around you, Although a few people may hurt us, there are many more that are willing to raise us up during hard times.
kindmusic
May 3rd, 2015 4:58pm
Everyone reacts to different situations differently, but everyone thinks that "their way" is the "right way," which isn't always true. Many people try to put themselves in your shoes, and come up with how they would react. They couldn't possibly know how they would react, though, since they aren't you. In many situations, it's best to understand that you don't have to explain anything to anyone. As long as you are coping in a healthy way, whatever you feel and however you choose to deal with it is nobody else's business.
peacefulMermaid47
September 22nd, 2015 12:30pm
Everyone feels this way from time to time. If it happens every time you go out, you might want to talk to someone about it, like a close friend or a counselor. When these feelings are very strong and if they keep you from going out in public, it's usually a sign of social anxiety. Social Anxiety can range from a mild discomfort around others to extreme withdrawal from society, such as agoraphobia. The best thing I can tell you is that most people don't really care. People are too wrapped up in their own lives to notice small things about you, and most of the time even if you think you have some highly noticeable flaw, they didn't even see. Try to think of it this way - when was the last time you were out where you really just focused on one person, and how much you disliked them, and saw every flaw? Probably never. And that's how people are. They're not really worried about you, and surely not enough to hate you without even knowing you
Anonymous
April 4th, 2017 6:08pm
It is common to feel this way. I can not give you the answer. Maybe it could be because of bad experience? Or it could be a mental illness like depression putting a weight on your shoulder? Maybe you are just going to some dark times right now. Whatever the reason, if the issue keeps you from functioning in your daily life, reach out for help!
Anonymous
November 13th, 2018 6:40am
As humans we always think of ourselves as the worst for we are out worst critic. Many people will probably feel this way even if they have never suffered from a mental illness. Not many people will think of them as amazing and the best because we don't think that for the most part. Also the people you are around can really change how you feel about yourself. Ask yourself, who makes you feel comfortable and who makes you feel left out and hated? Try to say away from those who hurt you inside because that leaves a big impact and you should try to get away from them for the sake of your mental health. But we will never think of ourselves as perfect and we need to make sure that out looks and others don't get to us.