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Why do I always find a reason to be depressed?

19 Answers
Last Updated: 10/13/2020 at 5:37pm
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Halayma Khatun, M.A Theology(U.K, UAE), Diploma With Distinction in Counseling, Certification trauma abandonment


Compassionate, patient, experienced depression counselor. I use Psychodynamic counseling techniques. My counseling experience is +8 years, I counsel women.

Top Rated Answers
February 24th, 2015 6:26am
It's not like someone goes out with the intent on being depressed; it just kind of happens sometimes. All in all it's important to remember that people aren't depressed because they're broken, or something like that; it comes down to a chemical imbalance in the brain that's usually the pesky cause of all of these feelings. Sometimes things can randomly trigger these chemical imbalances, such as seeing something that reminds you of bad times, or something to the effect. Nonetheless, it's important to remember that it's not really that you're finding a way to be depressed; you are depressed, and it comes and goes, and it's uncontrollable as to when each spur is going to come. Not a mistake you're making.
April 23rd, 2015 4:00am
Because sometimes you've been depressed for so long that the feeling of happiness becomes a long-forgotten emotion and it baffles you
May 17th, 2015 9:24pm
Perhaps you feel like you don't deserve to be happy, for whatever reason that may be. But everyone deserves happiness, no matter what.
May 22nd, 2015 10:33am
It's not you finding a reason to be depressed--your depression is not your fault. Your depression finds reasons for you to be depressed. It's a mental illness and it isn't your fault that your brain keeps fixing on different reasons for depression.
March 11th, 2015 2:36pm
we all go this phase in our life, always feeling alone, sad or depressed for no rational reason,it's completely normal :) when you feel this way, just go wash your face, and find your happiness in the smallest thing around you
July 7th, 2015 8:38am
Hello, can you discripe me the feelings what you are feeling when you have the feeling that it can eelate to depressed feelings?
July 20th, 2015 1:09am
Either your mood is depressed and your conscious mind finds reasons for your feelings, or you're noticing bad things happening in your environment that are making you depressed. A good therapist can help you figure out which one it is.
August 10th, 2015 10:23pm
If you have not been clinically diagnosed with depression, you could just be looking for a way to punish yourself for something. Not everyone needs to be diagnosed and can feel depressed from time to time. Ask yourself what you're feeling when you start to feel depressed. It just may be the root of the problem.
December 22nd, 2015 3:48am
WHY DO I ALWAYS FIND A REASON TO BE DEPRESSED? One thing about depression is that distort your perception of the world, you can’t trust in your judgments or the reasons your “depressed ego” is telling you, those are lies. That “pathological ego” only know -sadness, suffering and pain- and like a corrupted computer program, it will only does what it knows, everything you see is translated into something it can understand. The beautiful becomes ugly and the light is just shadows. Battling depression is basically learn to fight that “depressed ego”, learn to see through the irrational ideas.
January 4th, 2016 1:19pm
I don't think anyone 'finds' a reason to be depressed. It is an illness and cannot be helped when the symptoms strike.
February 23rd, 2016 12:15am
Sometimes we make things seem worse than they are because the pressure is too much to handle. My counselor told me that I needed to start letting things go and I think that really helped.
July 18th, 2016 6:54pm
sometimes loneliness is a huge problem. If you can be social more, You can easily cope with your depression. Because other people help you anyway. You should be strong and keep calm. Keep your smiling and Wlak outside in spite of negative reasons.
September 8th, 2015 5:08pm
This state can be long lasting. So, if you feel depressed for a month or so, it will not go the very next day. But it surely will, I promise you. During this state you will feel distressed and you will have lots of negative thoughts in your head. But these thoughts do not define you properly, because you are sad and sadness does not define you.
February 29th, 2016 6:54am
Some things can be triggering. What is triggering? Triggering, is like seeing something that brings back a sad memory, or something else sad that can lead to feeling sad. This is typically normal, you just have to know how to deal with this sudden overabundance of emotions to avoid hurting yourself.
September 19th, 2016 6:50pm
It's not someone's intention to be depressed, so you're not finding reasons to be depressed, you are depressed. Depression is not something you do, it's a chemical imbalance and, in my experience, sometimes you can get triggered really easy.
November 13th, 2017 4:11pm
I don't need a reason perse. If anything, depressed is the nirm for me so theres no reason for it in my mind. If anything, the question that i eould be adking myself would be (on a particularly good day for example) why am i feeling so good?!
July 2nd, 2018 12:35pm
Often when someone experiences depression there is no obvious reason for them to feel the way they do so they feel like they have to find a reason to validate how they feel, when in reality it is okay to feel depressed without a valid reason. It's a chemical inbalance!
July 13th, 2020 8:26pm
Very well people who are looking for reasons to feel depressed they are suffering a boredom life. they're actually depressive but the want to reason it. so already depressed because of the system of your life. trust me try something new. make general changes with your day. even small things will work for you. do stuff like change the places you're used to go. the activities you're doing at home even try to change the shape of your room. feeling fresh or new for any thing your eye meets makes different impression. so you're not looking for depression you are basically depressed but you're trying reasonable it
October 13th, 2020 5:37pm
Sometimes the negative aspects of life tend to stand out more and it's easy to feel overwhelmed. That's totally normal! Also, with depression sometimes there doesn't have to be "a reason" to feel depressed, it just happens and you can't explain it. Maybe take a minute to practice mindfulness and notice everything around you. Being in the moment can help us to stay grounded and to notice the little things in life that are often overlooked. We can focus on the positives like waking up to another day or eating a yummy meal or petting our dog. There are small happy moments too!