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Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?

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Last Updated: 12/20/2020 at 9:20pm
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Top Rated Answers
UniverseChild
November 24th, 2015 1:58am
Lack of self esteem can cause us to put ourselves down. Work on self confidence, believe in yourself and your choices.
Other
August 8th, 2016 4:15pm
Insecurity and self-judgement are common things. You can help it by working against it. Always remind yourself of helpful and good things you've done, and encourage yourself while taking actions : "I am helpful! I can do this! I know what I am doing." It is also important to realize that in our crazy world, no one really knows what they're doing. ;).
Alinium
August 9th, 2016 2:06pm
Because you demand too much of yourself, forgetting that it is ok to fail, it is ok to feel hurt, it is ok to be mad, it is ok to be human.
Anonymous
September 18th, 2016 7:07pm
Maybe you doesn't do it wrong. Why do you think so? You're beautiful at your own way. Maybe you didn't find people who treat you nice and respectful.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 2:29pm
Because you aren't really self confident, I suggest to take a 7cups self - confident path. Also, you should be more positive, there's no point to think that whatever you do is wrong...
peacefulForest28
November 11th, 2016 5:02pm
because you put so much pressure on yourself you gotta give yourself credit the things that you do at your best
kitrowe
November 16th, 2016 9:18pm
This might be because of pressure put on you by other people, probably people you admire or care about. It could also be due to pressure you've put on yourself. Remember that your mistakes do not define you. You are a good person, and you do good things. You do things right so many times, but because of this pressure and/or anxiety, you pay attention only to the things you've done wrong.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 6:39pm
When you go to criticise yourself try to think of 3 good things you did well and one thing you could do better
Mountaincat
November 4th, 2015 3:39pm
there are many reasons. the most common is lack confidence and always comparing yourself to others. please be confident with yourself, don't think you're wrong because you're doing something different from others. you are you and they are not you or otherwise. cut your negative thoughts. not everything you think you're doing is wrong, you know :)
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 7:29am
Maybe you're burdening yourself to be completely perfect? that's why you compare the things you do and think that what you do is wrong.. nothing is wrong or right.. just the choices are wrong sometimes.. And if sometime you make any mistake, its okay for the first time.. just don't make it a habit. Try to improve yourself.. without expecting too much.. you're not here to judge anyone, not even yourself. Make your best mistakes, we are here for making mistakes.. to learn.. and to move on.
denious
February 18th, 2017 5:57am
I believe this feeling stems from our parents. Parenting is a very intricate and delicate path that most are thrown into without any scholarly preparation, meaning they wing it as it comes. Parents that expect a lot from their children, parents who scold their children for honest mistakes, parents who are manipulative, abusive, perhaps even all of the above, they raise children that are not confident in their decisions, children who require outside (namely, their parents') appreciation and approval (that never comes) of their actions. Wait! Your parents do not define what is true and what is right, every person in reality is only answering to themselves and even then only to the extent that their past education allows them. Let go! Stop thinking. Act. Regret your "bad" decisions, it's okay, but make those decisions! Action = reaction, worry = stagnation. Act and don't let others' lives define YOURS!
Anonymous
February 26th, 2017 12:08pm
This is probably because you're letting negative thoughts win over. You're not trying to think about pros and cons of what you do but only about cons. I myself try to see what is good about what I do, because at the end there is always something positive you can think of if you try.
gracefulMotherWillow
April 23rd, 2017 12:55am
Have you forgotten to look at yourself in mirror lately? We are all not perfect. Life is too short to be blaming yourself worth. Every moment that we blame ourself is a second of our life wasted. Only you, yourself, can make that choice. We care so much for others that we fail to recognize our responsibility to our happiness. Learn to love yourself. Give yourself some credit, give yourself a pat on the back ‘cause in the long run, you are the one, the only one, that can make yourself happy.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 1:55pm
Because you know you did your absolute best, and for some reason there is still one person somewhere that doesn't approve. That doesn't mean it's wrong, it simply means that they have a different standard. You can't let their opinion make you feel inferior.
GenevieveLemmon
July 7th, 2018 10:40pm
When you are very young, several things can settle into your subconscious that make you think that you are just always wrong.
efru02
November 10th, 2019 12:51am
You think like that because you have low self esteem. If you consider your decisions/actions as wrong, you are often regretting them. Having regrets shows that you aren’t happy with the outcome of your life. In fact, there is no right or wrong decision. Well, society tells us which decision is the most and least appropriate one. And society judges hard if you decide against it’s rules. But in the end we are our decisions. You did nothing wrong. You did it right because in the moment in which you had the power to decide it felt right. So you don’t have to regret or overthink that. That decision made you who you are today.
Anonymous
September 6th, 2016 2:41pm
sometimes world realize you that everything I do is wrong. It's just their perception nothing else. I have to criticized about my work. Then may be i understand what i did wrong.
originalbraveheart63
December 1st, 2016 2:54pm
It might be because how your parents raised you, try to force yourself into thinking that there are things that you do well and things you dont do well.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2017 2:10am
I can definitely relate to how you are feeling. I can say that, for me, it may be my lack of self-esteem. I will admit that I need validation from other people first before I engage in an activity. This can be fixed, I feel, by placing more confidence in ourselves. Perhaps, our fear of doing the wrong thing oftentimes causes us to do the wrong thing. But when we have confidence in our own abilities, we act more competently.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 2:44pm
It can be beacuse of depression or etc. mental disease. im sure about that it is not about you at all.
Avreon
March 1st, 2018 7:43pm
It's because you have set standards that are so high that they are impossible for you to achieve. You envision possibilities that have not manifested in reality, so whatever happens pales in comparison. On another level, you feel guilt over whatever you do because you have trouble prioritizing or seeking your needs.
Listeningheart33
March 24th, 2018 4:35am
Maybe because you have low self esteem or maybe because someone created that idea on you, telling you that many times that you started to believe in it
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 4:22am
Having low self esteem and how you feel about yourself and feeling helpless in yourself could be a factor, you need to find out why you feel this way. Talk to your doctor you may be surprised your not alone.
LoveIsLife94
April 26th, 2018 8:58pm
It sounds like you may suffer with low self-esteem. I'm sure that you are doing fine and believing in yourself will help you to know if you are right or wrong.
EspritDuKaren68
May 2nd, 2018 3:20am
Because you may have been conditioned to think that way and just are not conscious of it. Think who in your life might have been critical of you.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 12:46pm
Insecurities are the strongest when you're completely focused on yourself and what you do or how you do it. Looking at other people, not judging them but just observing them and talking to them and sharing with them always lets me know that I'm not the only one who doubts themselves. I'm an introvert but I try my best to come out of my comfort zone and force myself to see that even my worst mistakes are easily replicated and dealt with by millions of other people. That makes me stop being so hard on myself and being so pessimistic. It makes me more confident even, sometimes.
LittleButterfly
July 4th, 2018 5:16pm
It can really depend because there can be so many factors that could be contributing to these thoughts. These aren't questions that need to be answered out loud, but maybe to think to yourself, is there a history of bullying and abuse? When did these thoughts start? Is there a trigger for these thoughts? A lot of the time with bullying and abuse for example, when we hear things we eventually begin to believe it. Some negative things only need to be said once for a person to believe it, unfortunately. But at the end of the day, you aren't doing everything wrong; and even if you were doing things wrong, it's okay to make mistakes. It's a part of being human.
Walford
July 20th, 2018 6:35am
I've gotten negative feedback from others consistently from childhood on. I realize now I wasn't doing what they wanted, but that didn't make me wrong.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 2:48am
Sometimes, as humans, we beat on ourselves. Whether it's about work or friends. We think that we can do better. It's hard not to think everything you do is wrong because you're just trying to better yourself. Although most of the time this is harmful. You need to teach yourself that it's okay to do things wrong.
caringBerry61
July 28th, 2018 9:11pm
Do you feel you're not good enough? Do you underestimate yourself? Somebody in your environment usually judges you harshly or tells you that you are not able to achieve something? Have you been raised with this idea of being wrong because you don't meet the desires or dreams of somebody else?