Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?

sometimes world realize you that everything I do is wrong. It's just their perception nothing else. I have to criticized about my work. Then may be i understand what i did wrong.

It might be because how your parents raised you, try to force yourself into thinking that there are things that you do well and things you dont do well.

I can definitely relate to how you are feeling. I can say that, for me, it may be my lack of self-esteem. I will admit that I need validation from other people first before I engage in an activity. This can be fixed, I feel, by placing more confidence in ourselves. Perhaps, our fear of doing the wrong thing oftentimes causes us to do the wrong thing. But when we have confidence in our own abilities, we act more competently.

Lack of Confidence , no can can know the after math of every decision we make if you want to be prefect just believe in yourself and keep saying i can do it

Having no belief in yourself and your abilities leads to uncertainty in many aspects of your life. The uncertainty seems to have a flow in effect that becomes apparent in many daily living activities you try to achieve. Being able to acknowledge and remedy any situation as soon as you are aware of an issue is important. Sometimes issues are not always apparent and we need to trust those around us with any information or guidance they may have to help us move forward. Some times you feel like you aren’t moving forward and allowing others to help us forward is important in our journey.

That is a great question. I thank you for the opportunity to try my best to answer it. Sometimes our mind plays tricks on us. It makes us think we are doing everything wrong,when we are doing things right. You maybe asking your self,why does the mind do that? Well the mind is very hard to figure out at times. But hopefully with people who do studies on the brain,will come up with better ways of,why people think the way they do,and help us better to understand the mind and the brain better,and hopefully we will be better off for it in the long run. I hope this helps.

Negative mindset! The the term 'everything' needs to be challenged and applied to reality. We all make wrong decisions and experience negative events however it is important to avoid self-blame and generalise the idea of wrongness to everything we do :) It is important to focus on the positives rather than the negatives - the more often we focus on what is wrong, the more likely we are going to ignore the rights. Furthermore the term 'wrong' can be challenged in a way that we all have our own interpretations of what is and what isn't. Overall - do not beat yourself down over any negative experiences. A change in perspective is key - not 'everything' we do is wrong and not everyone interprets 'wrong' the same way. Focus on the positives! We need to accept failures and find the motivation to pick ourselves back up and carry on :)

Humans are very confusing and complex creatures, and so when we do small things we convince ourselves that maybe we could have done better, or maybe we made ourselves look silly. Though in your mind, you truly believe everything you do, you mess up or do it wrong, the truth is that nobody but you is thinking that. your anxieties and fears make you believe things that aren’t actually as bad as they seem! For example, maybe when you were ordering food you stuttered and slurred, and after you beat yourself up about it, but in reality the cashieer has seen much worse things! by the next day, they wouldn’t even remember the simple exchange. Anxiety likes to magnify simple mistakes and make them seem so much worse than they actually are. In conclusion, you’re not as bad as you think. stay safe!

Not everything you do is wrong. Get rid of the negatives, stay positive. Sometimes I get the same feeling, you are not alone out other. To stay happy you should get the negativity out of your mind. You should believe in yourself. Not everything you do is wrong, you have failed to see the right in that.

When a person looks at their life they instinctively perceive the world around them through a variety of lenses that are based on their experiences, moral systems, ideologies etc. One such lens of perception centers around the perception a person has of themselves. If that lens is negative you will immediately consider anything that you might do in a negatively light, with suspicion, or maybe just not "good enough" whatever that mean for the person. If you want to know why you think everything you do is wrong be honest with how you look at yourself. Do you believe you are incompetent and worthless? If you do then naturally you will believe that everything you do cannot possibly be done right because you think you are incapable of doing things correctly. There are other possibilities however, maybe its just you have extreme and unrealistic expectations of yourself. Perfectionism is hardly an unusual condition and it is almost never a good thing as it stresses a person to achieve a position that they cannot reach which is demoralizing in the most poignant sense of the word. Or perhaps someone else is telling you something is not good enough and you have no one to tell you when you do things correctly. If that is true then how could you know when you were doing things well? You'd naturally assume that nothing you did was ever good enough. And if that is the situation then that is tragic. These are a few of the possibilities and they are not necessarily mutually exclusive but they are some of the reasons you may think everything you do is wrong.

because you are not sure about your possibilities. even if you are perfect, you always trying to be way better than you really are. it isn't your fault that you think in that way. its because of society. we never know what is right to do exactly... but we still doing because we dont have another choice to do. we need to try and then we will see the results, we never know how right is our moves but we still moving. if we stop, nothings will be go right... i suggest you to keep moving and do whatever you want, even if you think its wrong... you think in that way because people or things what is happening around you makes you to think like that. but if you dont pay attetion on your around and people, you will make choices without thinking of their rightness.

I always thought every step I took, every decision I made, every dream I dreamt about my future was wrong and I was a failure only because I never knew my own strength. Everyone at some point of time need someone else who listens to them, point out their strengths and give them hope when they feel they are lonely. Its really important to have people in our lives but people who are trust worthy, who are capable of understanding us are the real thing in need for anyone who is trying to come up by themselves. A helping hand is the major requirement as each and everyone have their own strengths which should be brought out.

I often struggled in school, and at extracurricular, and at relationships. Life feels tricky when you can't find something right away that you feel passionate about and others around you have found their passions. I realized it's not about doing everything right, it's about taking little steps. I took walks, looked at nature, took photos of trees and nature and surrounded myself with my passions. When you find things that make you happy, others’ skills and ways are less important. My life became no longer striving to win medals and get perfect scores, but find what made me happy. And that is what right is, to me.

If you fail in many of your attempts consecutively you conclude that you will fail every time without analyzing what was the reason for the failures. . The wrong does not lie with the doer but with the actions. you equate the results of actions with a doer . if actions are modified suitably , action will lead to successful results

Hi, I am sorry that you are feeling so down on yourself :( I know that must be very difficult and deflating. The majority of the time when we blame ourselves or see what we do as wrong it is because of something internal, perhaps a trauma or a way we have been conditioned to view ourselves that disrupts the way we perceive our lives and ourselves. That be said though, it doesn't mean that you are stuck in this place where you feel like everything you do is wrong. The most rewarding thing would be perhaps talking with someone about it, friends, family, a therapist, or even someone here on 7Cups. Don't be afraid to reach out and have a chat about why you feel this way and maybe we can get to the root of the problem. I am here for you anytime that you need. Best of luck

Because I tend to fail at a lot of things. I am very hard on myself, and I feel like I am not good enough. Everyone judges me and makes me feel worthless. I feel alone most of the time and that in turn makes me feel like I am always wrong. I need to try and focus more on self love and self acceptance. I put myself down too much when I should be trying to lift myself up. With no support whatsoever, i just feel so alone and like I dont mean anything. I feel like nothing. I feel numb.

I believe this is down to a negative outlook on yourself and perhaps even life going on around you. It can make it worse if others tell you that you're doing something wrong as well. Focus on everything you do right, above anything you may do wrong, even if its as simple as you got up and got yourself ready on time, you remembered to take out the trash, every wrong can be made right with a little dedication. You just need to take a different outlook on the world going on around you and with a little practice, you'll be just fine.

There can be a few contributors, though I believe the biggest one would be low self-esteem. If you don't think positively of yourself, it can reflect in your head as not being good enough for something. The human brain is a finicky thing, and can often be our worst enemy and a relentless bully. There are also many mental illnesses that can cause those kinds of feelings, so it is a case-by-case basis, but low self-esteem is very often a large contributor and goes hand in hand with mental illness. Taking the appropriate steps and working towards improving how you view yourself as a whole person may be able to help ease those feelings.

Because I was raised to be perfect and fulfill all expectations of me. Nobody ever told me that doing my best could be good enough. Or that I had inherent worth beyond what I could accomplish, beyond being the best. Nobody ever taught me I am good enough, as I am, or that being kind and gentle is worth as much as being assertive and dominant. I think everything I do is wrong because I am not looking inside for what is right. If we search for only what is wrong, we'll never see what's so perfectly right. And we miss out on the full picture of who we are.

Being a devout Christian, I can relate this very easily. It’s so easy for me to feel like everything I do is a sin, and that God is mad at me and doesn’t want to talk to me. But the truth is, life is life. In life, you make mistakes. You’re human. You’re not perfect. No one is. And that’s okay. It’s honestly part of what makes life so beautiful. Because think about it, without mistakes we wouldn’t have mercy; without tears we wouldn’t have compassion; without pain we wouldn’t have healing. Life is a beautiful gift, and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying its increíble offers.

I’ve learned that the most important thing in life is to learn how to sooth myself with a supportive open heart. Holding myself up to impossible standards takes the joy out of life. Even though I’ve been very hard on myself in the past, I am excited by the possibility that each day brings the opportunity to meet life with open arms. I may not have all the answers I need but I’m willing to ask for help and support. I love how when I share my needs with others it allows them to be the supportive person they long to be.

it is because you're too hard on yourself, you are truly amazing when you see through your low self esteem, you are better then you think you are and I know that, I bet EVERYONE knows that. Please love yourself and stop thinking yourself lowly, because I know that you deserve the best. You've worked hard on life and you are strong. Sure sometimes you make bad decisions but don't we all do that? And everything you do has meaning in it, I think the only thing you did wrong is thinking lowly of yourself, we all love and care for you.

It's because our ego forces us to over identify with negatives. It's simply a negativity bias. I can guarantee you do lots of things right (if you think about it) however you will often overlook those things. It's a human survival instinct to focus on negatives. After all that is how we tend to learn. We learn from our mistakes. But in today's world most people don't need that primal instinct as much. We live in an age that is far better than any time before and yet our instinct still drives us to dwell on or find negatives to focus on. Don't let that get you down though. You can retrain your thinking, thanks to the human brain having amazing plasticity. First help yourself be more aware of the positives and second, reframe the negatives as positives.

We tend to be our worst critics! Having these thoughts is normal, but it's important to address them. These kinds of thoughts are called thinking traps and tend to be caused by stress or feeling anxious about something. Try and address these traps. It can be hard to flat out avoid them, but be mindful when you start thinking in this all or nothing mindset. When you think "everything" is wrong, you are thinking all-or-nothing. Try to write down your thoughts, and then list out rational responses and refocus how you look at such "wrongdoings." If you are having trouble reworking your thoughts, work through it with a friend or a listener, a third party can help you rationalize.

I was emotionally abused as a child by a mother who is an extreme perfectionist. She would yell at me for simple mistakes like dropping clean silverware on the floor or tripping over her feet. She was also extremely inconsistent with punishment because when she was angry she would take her anger out on me over something small that may not have bothered her if she was not already upset. As a result, I have also become a perfectionist and I am constantly worried about upsetting other people by the things I do and say. It is not my fault that I think that everything I do is wrong because I learned this behavior from someone who was hypersensitive to my flaws and could not distinguish accidents from intentional mistakes.

It sounds like you have some anxiety. I can't tell you why you do the things you do, but maybe you can try to write things down when you think you are being "wrong" and then write a list justifying the things you do vs explaining why they are wrong. It may help you get some perspective.

Maybe because you fear that you're doing the wrong thing, you have to believe in yourself and be confident!

You are your own worst critic! Stop being so hard on yourself. Do or write down the things you are good at. Focus on your strengths and not your weakness of what you can't do... just yet anyway. Because you can do anything!

We often put pressure on us to always achieve everything immediately, on the first try. However, this is not the case. When we embark on new stages in life, we are not given a manual on what to do or not to do. We have to work and make mistakes to learn from them. We think everyone has it together but in reality everyone messes up and feels like they do everything wrong. It is important to be compassionate to yourself, remind yourself of all you have done right. We don't give ourselves enough credit. Everyday that goes by is a job well done.

Sometimes when things happen to our lives and how people treat us, we think something we are doing is wrong. Which isn't the case, I use to think in all my relationships I was some how doing something wrong, but I wasn't. You have to be confident with who you are and how you act and just everything you do. Whatever people respond and act from that will determine if you have. If you did something wrong, you always want to own up to them and apologize if needed and make sure you don't do it again. But if you didn't do anything, you should be fine.