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Why do I feel depressed even when my life is going great?

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Last Updated: 05/29/2021 at 2:49pm
Why do I feel depressed even when my life is going great?
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serenePeace63
February 18th, 2017 7:50am
Depression can sneak up on you before you even notice it. The best thing to do when you're depressed is hang around people that care about you until you feel like your depression is manageable. If your depression however continues then perhaps visit a psychologist to see if that helps.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2017 9:23pm
Depression can be at any point of your life, depression can be there no matter what your situation in life is
bubblegumTree13
February 25th, 2017 5:14pm
Possibly in relation to your internal self not meeting your own targets. Life externally may be great but your internal expects more from you. Or your internal self believes that life will not continuing being great and thus fears the impending downturn. This results in continued depression.
Tappingtoes123
February 25th, 2017 6:04pm
Depression can hit you at anytime. It's useful to recognise your triggers. If you can't don't feel bad or beat yourself up. Talk to people close to you for support.
sarahsunflower
February 26th, 2017 1:49am
Everyone is different, so experiences with mental health will feel different. It may make more sense to feel Depressed if your life isn't going great, however for myself personally and others I know sometimes just feel Depressed for no reason.
samathin
February 26th, 2017 11:16pm
There isn't always a reason for being depressed, even if your life is going great depression can come for a whole array of reasons, it can't always be explained. Depression comes and goes like a sickness. I think it's important to try to get past it by talking to people.
phogn
March 1st, 2017 5:42am
Sometimes life may be going great but we aren't feeling great inside, maybe caused by a lack of something, either insecurities or worries or outside issues. Something we can't really control but need to work towards understanding, life may be going perfect but you need to search for that missing piece that's making you feel depressed.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2017 5:53pm
Depression doesn't have to just be about your current surroundings. Many people often feel depressed even when their daily lives are just find. Don't forget that your life is NOT an indicator of your happiness - and it shouldn't be! Depression can come about for many, many different reasons - it's different for everyone.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2017 5:20am
Because we always fear of future, we think that this moment will pass away. So look at the future hopefully. I think it has something to deal with law of distractions (i feel like annoying answered so many question and pretend i know it all.. but this is what i think
esceflora
April 6th, 2017 10:02am
Even if everything seems to be perfect there are always little things that make you sad. Depression is an ilness just like any other and sometimes it makes the little sad things seem very overwhelming. That's when you need to seek help - talk about your worries and sadness to a friend, family member or a trained proffesional. Get the help you need and enjoy many happy days that are yet to come.
Juhi2011
April 7th, 2017 7:16pm
At times life becomes boring due to lack of changes. Stimulate your mind and stretch the limits. Your interest will be back once your mind starts thinking again.
DravenThaotic
April 9th, 2017 5:21am
Depression is a reflection of how good your life is doing, it is a lack of serotonin in your brain. This is nothing bad at all. You just have to realize that your mind is going to focus more on the negative sides of things rather than the positive.
beautifulPeace50
April 9th, 2017 3:30pm
Because there are things that are out of control no matter how great your life is doing. And when it happens, we are not prepared for it, were not equipped to handle it and in the end, we get depressed. When we cant have things we want so badly, and when you cant be happy even if you try
Anonymous
April 21st, 2017 9:06pm
Sometimes, there are just so many stressors in your life that it is overwhelming. You can be surrounded by people and still feel out of place. You feel down on yourself, and sometimes, there can be nothing wrong and you still feel sad. Your perception of yourself and your thought on how others perceive you play a major role in feeling depressed.
Freedangel
May 28th, 2017 10:04pm
Depression can come without rhyme or reason. Unfortunately, this can lead many people to respond by saying "Why are you depressed? You have nothing to be depressed about! There are many others who may have it worse than you." and this does nothing to make us feel better. When you're depressed, it's best to seek out support either here on 7 cups of tea or from loved ones. It's also a good time to develop some coping skills to use when you're feeling depressed or anxious, but may not be able to determine why. Happiness doesn't necessarily come from a reward, achievement, a met goal, etc. It has to come from within you and sometimes it's hard. Just remember that you're not alone and have an entire community here to support you :)
safeHeaven16
June 3rd, 2017 5:19am
Depression doesn't come only when bad things occur. It's a state of being. When you have depression you stop having interest in things you enjoyed doing before and your ability to feel happiness decreases. You may be with your closest friends having fun and still feel completely destroyed and upset.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2017 2:35am
Sometimes when our lives are going great environmentally, we can still feel sad on the inside for different reasons. It could be anything from private issues to an imbalance in chemicals in the brain.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2017 2:54pm
Life can be perfect, depression isn't about what you have or how life is. You can have everything and still be depressed
ElephantTiger1
June 14th, 2017 7:01am
Sometimes life is really great but we still struggle to feel it and engage in the goodness, you are not alone there. The thing with depression is it demands to be felt, it tries to wear you out and bring you down even in the greatest of circumstances; it is what you decide to do despite feeling sad, or tired or lacking the energy to do anything. For example if you are having a bad day and don't want to go do something decide that you are not going to let depression hold you back, show depression that you are greater and stronger and that it is never going to consume you, that you will always come out on top and I promise you, you will be stronger after the fight; when life pushes you down and you fight against it, you are strong because you have defied what people believe, you have done what others have failed to do. I want to finish with a quote that has inspired me and I hope it inspires you too: "You will be happy, said life but first I will make you strong." Life is tough but you are tougher!
Jenna
June 15th, 2017 1:34pm
Depression is ruthless to anyone. It can happen to us at any time, and it's not always situational things that cause depression. Sometimes it's chemical imbalances that are off that can cause depression on its own.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2017 2:01pm
Because the human mind likes to dwell on negative situations more than positive ones, or maybe even though life is great, it's not as great as you want it to be.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2017 11:43am
Life can be very chaotic and overwhelming for everyone and you are not alone. Time to analyse why you feel this way would help.
tinderbox8888
July 9th, 2017 2:13am
Depression doesn't always make sense which is the toughest part. Think of Robin Williams, he was loved by many, had plenty of money, and was very successful in life. Yet he was still suffering enough that he took his own life.
Becca2749285
July 9th, 2017 10:00am
Depression doesn't go away with a magic wand. Sometimes things can go really well in our lives, but there might be something missing, even if it's something like low self esteem, or being lonely.
Shunyata
July 13th, 2017 8:19am
Because depression is an ILLNESS like any other. It's impossible to get rid of it without a cure, people must take care of it like they take care of any other illness.
TrustButVerify
July 20th, 2017 8:12pm
Depression is like a constant underlying current that taints our lens of how we view the world and ourselves. When times are good, we beat ourselves up for not feeling the part. We let the depression take precedence over the here and now. Depression is a fixation of thoughts and worries about the past - something that is not within your means to control. Understanding that depression is fixated on past events prevents you from being present in the now. It is important to know that it is okay and completely normal to feel depressed even though you think you "shouldn't" or have no reason to be - that is how depression manifests itself. But, depression is not a life sentence - remember, you have no reason to feel bad or beat yourself up for feeling how you do. Depression is a mental illness - clinically diagnosed or not - and is as real and prevalent as a torn ACL. Just as those with a torn ACL must deal with the latent consequences of such an injury, so must those dealing with depression (episodic or long-standing).
KateHod
August 11th, 2017 6:40pm
Just because you feel like you life is going great doesn't mean your mind will be at ease. Reward yourself with the things you love for efforts made and create self-love, because you're you and you're the most important thing in your life.
BuniCat
August 18th, 2017 4:49am
It can be due to different situations. You don't choose to feel depressed it just happens even when you're doing great. Identify the problem, what is keeping you of feeling good.
CarissasHereToTalk
August 18th, 2017 5:38pm
Depression can be situational, but it can also be genetic (runs in your family), hormonal (chemical), or a lot of other things.
helpfulRainfall
August 27th, 2017 7:02am
Because there may be little things in life that keep building up affecting you, try to deplete them as best as you can. If there's some person or activity that keeps contributing to them, then try to find a way to isolate yourself from them/it. If it is a person you're close to, or even just an acquaintance, try to talk to them and see if you can find a way to stop the things if it would be easy on both parties. Majority of the time, it won't hurt to ask.