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Why do I feel depressed even when my life is going great?

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Why do I feel depressed even when my life is going great?
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nenanicole96
August 28th, 2017 1:47pm
Anything in life can cause you to feel depressed, even the happiest people still have triggers of depression. It's not an unusual feeling, and there are some ways such as napping, talking to someone that cares, listening to music, etc. that can help!
Anonymous
August 31st, 2017 6:50pm
a wide, wide variety of reasons, but if life seems to be going great, its unlikely to be situational (although that can still be the case). chemical imbalances in the brain (namely a decrease in serotonin and dopamine, and a possible increase in cortisol (a hormone that affects stress levels)) can be put to the cause of a period of depression when life seems to be stellar. it can also be too simple to pin the causes to one thing, so we must look at recent behavioural traits too. although someone may seem happy, things such as poor diet, self-care and hygiene can often go unnoticed even by the sufferer. these things may gradually begin to grow as an issue and make someones quality of life considerably worse. in short, there can be no one reason and there never can be, but its useful to assess which causes seem to be the most obvious in the given case and get appropriate help. also very fitting quote from atticus about mrs. dubose, mrs. dubose's morphine addiction represents a lot about the toxic relationship we can often have with our mental health, but its important to be proud we came through in the end!
Luvnbeast
September 28th, 2017 8:19pm
While a good portion of the people with depression does have depression from their current environments, many actually do have depression for unknown reasons. Basically, depression is the brain's way of slowing down neurological functioning to protect itself from more harm. It literally goes into a waking hibernation mode where the sufferer does the minimal effort, to conserve energy and to try to heal from stress damage given to it by the environment typically. So, sometimes the brain either is not fully healed and forced into action or the person might have been so badly overwhelmed by stress the effects have lasted long after the event has ended. While the reasons for the depression could vary, the effects could potentially last a lifetime. However, there is hope to understand that usually, depression does happen in cycles, is never permanent, and the effects can be treated either with counseling or possibly medication. Another point to add is that the brain also needs exercise and stimulation. Without it, the brain literally gets "bored to death". So the no apparent cause literally could mean that the depressed person literally has very little real stimulation in their environment that is real to them or challenges them.
kvo8
October 15th, 2017 12:24am
Depression in not measured in things like wealth, success, friendships, family and other parts of life. You can have all of these things and still feel depression because depression is an internal factor that mentally impacts you. It can not be stopped or stalled by the things mentioned before, it can be managed and you can find ways to cope through it! There is no cure for depression and things can be going well for you, but you might still feel the symptoms of depression- but thats okay :) You are not defined by your mental illness
Aethelind
October 15th, 2017 9:14pm
There is no set reason for depression - it's a disorder. Some people can have it tough but never feel depressed in their lives, some can live in paradise on earth but feel miserable. You have to explore your own depths, reach the very core of your being, understand how your mind works. The way our life is going can be very different from how our mind is doing. We're all just different. Most important thing - never let yourself think that you have "no reason to be depressed". If you are, you are - you have as much right to reach out and try to get help as anyone else.
Liamazing13
October 18th, 2017 7:25pm
Depression is not something that flows depending on how your life is going. It's a real condition, and the people that have it deserve attention and help. Even if you aren't "proved" to be depressed, this kind of thing happens. Sometimes you feel great despite your day not being particularly good, or you feel really sad even if something good happened. It's totally okay. You can't feel great constantly. Remember that you are loved, and that you can talk to any Listener here on 7 Cups if you ever feel the need to do so.
Anonymous
October 19th, 2017 1:50pm
There might be something deep inside of you that wasn't fulfilled. Something you've always wanted to do, somewhere you wanted to go or perhaps someone you wanted to be with. It is often that incomplete feeling that overpowers all the good happening around you. I'd suggest you speak to someone and allow yourself a chance at self-reflection. You might find the answer you're looking for.
Anonymous
October 20th, 2017 12:18pm
Feelings of depression don't necessarily have to depend on what's going on in your life at the moment. This is especially true when you're dealing with things like past trauma or actual clinical depression. A personal example would be the fact that I have struggled with major depression, on and off, for most of my life, and it usually doesn't have an apparent reason or pattern when my depressive episodes happen.
mthilliard
November 7th, 2017 4:11pm
Maybe you feel unfulfilled. Maybe there are things in your life you wish you could have changed or done differently that you regret on a subconscious level. Whatever it is, actively seek it. Get closure.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2017 8:23pm
This is a tough one, and one I've struggled with too. The thing is, depression isn't something that just goes away once life is better. Depression, like any other illness, needs to be treated, not ignored. If you're able, I think you should see a therapist, who can better help you or get you on medication.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 12:09am
Depression doesn't always have to be due to bad life experiences. A lot of people can feel depressed just because. If possible, try finding the root of your depression and go from there!
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 5:30am
Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is a mental illness and it's a mean one. You could have the best life in the world and depression will suck out that enjoyment. It is not your fault when you feel depressed and it does not mean you aren't appreciating what you have been given. Therapy from a licensed professional is usually a great treatment to help you feel less depressed.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 7:41am
Depression is not always based on surroundings or other happenings of your life although that can be a major contributing factor. Depression is considered a mental illness. This is not a bad thing. It is not your fault. It is not something you can control.
ParalleliUni
November 29th, 2017 11:31pm
Depression is often not a consequence of the things that happen in your life. Even if your life seems like it is going great, sometimes you may not feel well. Chronical depression can sometimes occur as a constant feeling of sadness and it can be hard to overcome. That's is a reason to visit a therapist who can help you deal with it easier.
lovingWords79
December 5th, 2017 11:41am
sometimes that happens you get a bit down even though you life is great but keep thinking positive you will continue on the right journey
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 6:59am
everyone does at some point in their life. not being satisfied enough with what you have can also be a factor. constant comparison of oneself with others is also a main factor that can leave you feeling sad and depressed.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 2:54pm
Most people say it because of Imbalance chemical brains. You just can't control the feelings you feel.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 1:42pm
It could be because you are looking for happiness in the wrong places. Just because everything around you is great, does not that mean that YOU are great. What is missing from your life physically OR emotionally?
Anonymous
December 16th, 2017 8:57pm
Depression isnt just caused by how well your life is going, its much more than that. Its not really an emotion and more of a state of mind. There are ways to cope with it though, and you can escape that mindset, even for only a little while.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2017 11:55pm
Sometimes there are little unprocessed things locked in our head that trigger this feeling. It could be negative past experiences, or a certain environment. Many times, these things can bring us down, even though life is going good at the moment.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2017 12:26am
I notice that depression is part of who you are and imbalance the chemicals in your brain. For example I start to feel depress when my mother is going through some tough times. No job, no money, and no one else to support her. I am the only one she depends on, but I don't know how to help her. I also have responsibilities and obligations. It kills me that I sometimes can't help her. I then think about too much that it puts me on depression. It's hard because I know how that feels not having anyone to go to for support. Just wish I could do more.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2017 9:02am
Depression can affect anyone at any time. Even if your life is going great, you can still be depressed. Depression is an illness, much like you can get a cold or the flu even when your life is wonderful. My suggestion is that you treat yourself gently and heal.
stanleykubfreak
December 29th, 2017 12:54pm
Depression is more than just feeling “down.” It is a serious illness caused by changes in brain chemistry. Research tells us that other factors contribute to the onset of depression, including genetics, changes in hormone levels, certain medical conditions, stress, grief or difficult life circumstances. People are so quick to judge, so quick to say “but I don’t have any of that and I’m still not depressed.” And you might not be, but just because they seem like they have it all together on the outside doesn’t mean their world isn’t a dark, chaotic mess on the inside. Depression doesn’t skip over people who seem like they’ve got it all together. It doesn’t matter what you appear to have because you can have it all and still feel worthless because depression is a mental health issue. It goes beyond what you have and own, it has to do with a chemical imbalance in your brain. Depression is that voice in your head telling you you’re not good enough. It’s the tears that fall for no reason. It’s the lack of motivation that just makes you want to waste away in your bed all day. It’s always hanging around in the back of your mind, even on the best days. It’s constantly wrestling with demons you just can’t explain. Depression always has the upper hand, even when you think you’re in control. If you feel too stressed or you can’t take it anymore please feel free to share with me. I’m open minded and supportive text me anytime.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 10:44pm
The thing is, depression is an illness that isn't necessarily caused by something. It can come from nowhere and hit you hard. Just be gentle and calm with yourself when this does happen. Hard times pass.
AmethystUnicorn
January 13th, 2018 4:12pm
Depression can happen even in great times. It's not that anything is wrong with you, sometimes you'll just feel bad and you can't control it, even if something good is happening.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 5:11pm
because it is an illness that won’t disappear at the blink of an eye. it’s just like breaking a bone. it might not hurt, but it’s still broken and you’re unable to use it. take time to heal your mental state just as you would your physical
happyrainbow93
January 17th, 2018 10:19am
There are many causes for depression, and not all of them are evident. Sometimes it could be a mix of different reasons. Firstly, the cause can be biological, so there can be chemical imbalances in your brain or caused by your hormones. Secondly, the cause can be the context. Thirdly, it could be a more psychological and individual reason. According to ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy), sometimes we can be in an environment or be full of activities that are generally supposed to improve our lives. For instance, having a meaningful job, doing a workout, interacting with friends and family, getting out in nature, having a hobby, being part of a club, contributing to charity, learning new skills and so on. However, if these activities are mainly to dodge unpleasant thoughts and feelings, chances are, they won't be very rewarding. It is hard to appreciate life when you are running away from something threatening. For example, xxx person seems to have everything he/she wants in life and yet is not happy. This could be because xxx person is driven by avoiding feelings of unworthiness. she/he is plagued by thoughts like "I am a lousy husband/wife", "nobody likes me", "why am I so inadequate?", along with feelings of guilt, anxiety, frustration and disappointment. Therefore, she/he pushes her/himself to please everyone, frequently working late to accommodate others, always putting others needs in front of her/his own, since he/she is trying to win others approval so hard. Therefore, the person is truly stuck in the happiness trap. So how de we escape the happiness trap? We have to increase our self-awareness. This is the first step. Notice all those little things we do each day to dodge or blot out unpleasant thoughts and feelings. Keep a journal, or spend few minutes each day reflecting on this. In conclusion, it is not just the things that you do that matter, it is also your motivation for doing them I recommend reading the book "the happiness trap, stop struggling, start living".
starryBlossom47
January 17th, 2018 11:06pm
Depression can strike at any moment of your life, whether your life it going good or bad. Sometimes you wonder why you're depressed. I believe it's just a chemical imbalance, or maybe an issue that is stuck so deep down in your subconscious mind. I have everything I need in my life, yet I'll feel down for no reason at all.
TeddyBear11
January 24th, 2018 6:04am
Depression mostly is not concerned with the facts of life, and it does not matter if life is going well. It is a mental state of mind, although outer conditions may greatly affect it.
JJill1
January 24th, 2018 9:18pm
We all experience moments of saddness and depression throughout our life, no matter the circumstance. Especially if diagnosed with depression, I see it as more of an illness, not a feeling, if that makes any sense. So you can be very happy and content but have those moments where the cloud weighs.