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Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My work with clients is to help them recognize and build on their strengths to find solutions for the conflicts presented in their lives.
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This is suppose to be based on my own personal experience, so why do I feel like a failure? I feel like a failure when I cannot help the members and I disappoint them. I genuinely care for my members.
We feel like failures when our actions do not align with our personal values. I value compassion; if I were not there for someone who needed me, I would likely feel that I'd failed because being compassionate is one of the most important things to me.
Anonymous
April 20th, 2016 11:48am
I always judge myself and it makes me feel like I have to succeed every time when I can't. That's why.
because when we do not do something which we think we should or we demand too much from ourselves and get dissapointed so we think we are a failure
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 4:20am
I feel like a failure because I was taught I was a failure. It is simply a learnt belief. It is not truth.
Maybe your not a failure. Maybe you just think you can always do better. which is good ;) you can never go wrong with that
Sometimes things don't work out as we expect. This can lead us to think that we are a failure however that doesn't mean that we are actually one.
Sometimes when you look at others you think you should be doing as well as them or better, but they aren't you and they have their own circumstances. You are not a failure, you will succeed as long as you work hard towards your goal. What others tell you is irrelevant, just do your best.
Well i think this is quite an important question, in the modern world we have a cultural system where the view of failure and succes is quite aimed at consumism, so basically if you have a lot of many and lots of hot girls around you are a succes, if not you are a nobody. That of course brings a lot of problems the our society has. To me the real succes or failure shouldn't depend in society's definition of it, it should depend on what goal you have in life and how close or far you are to accomplishing it, also this goal has to be as realistic as possible, that doesn't mean that it has to be easy, but i wouldn't reccomend to wish something that's impossible to get, that will only lead to frustration. So basically it's about knowing yourself and your capabilites, and also your weaknesses.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 3:48pm
There is no right answer for it. Maybe you feel like you haven't achieved enough? Set up a plan and start working on your goals!
People feel this way only when they don't get what they want.But mark my words, there is nothing like failure.Its a life where we came to learn how to live so don't worry, if you don't get anything that you want then it means you are going to achieve something better than that. And failure is just a way to make us find other ways of doing a task or for achieving our goal.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 7:19am
Feeling like a failure , accompanies guilt most of times ..A person might feel like a failure after a disappointing incident at any field of their lives , school , job , parenting , leading...etc
These are obvious reasons to feel like a failure . Sometimes , mental illnesses can be a very productive factor of this feeling , like -Depression disorders ,anxiety disorders..etc , where they feel like they are futile and of no use and a failure to the world.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 10:40pm
You might be setting standards that are extremely high and unrealistic for yourself and expecting to reach them without any mistakes, or too much hard work (because it should be easy, shouldn't it?) It's not easy, and you'll make mistakes. You're very human. You're not a failure. The things you've done in the past don't matter anymore, no matter how much they've affected your current life. The things in your future are unpredictable, unknown. Don't be too harsh on yourself.
It's all because of low self-esteem. Stop thinking this way and just try to be positive. Everybody is awesome if they unleash their awesomeness.
because that is how you view yourself when that isn't what you are, theres ways that you can overcome this feeling and move on with life though, contact someone on 7 cups.!
Everyone goes through challenges in their life and life is full of successes and failures. If you feel like a failure remind yourself of your successes. Then ask yourself why you don't focus on your success and what you are missing in your life to feel successful. Feelings of failure come from not being happy in your life and wanting a different experience. You can always change your path and your experience so that you can feel better about your life. Sometimes the changes are small and other times the changes are large. Don't be afraid to start your new life :)
Anonymous
March 12th, 2016 2:23am
People naturally feel like a failure because of some reason that lead them there like they can't succeed or do to there best and compare others that other people does things easy and simple then they have too which is not true because everyone is just showing their own unique talents.
maybe you didn't accomplish something you thought you should have. sometimes a hard time can result.
Somtimes we put too much pressure on ourselves. Have a think back and see all the positived in your life. Think about where you want to be and make a realistic plan of getting there.
We are often the hardest on ourselves, not others. We usually try to push ourselves to the limits, and when we actually find we do have them (we are human, after all) it's rather frustrating. Take it easy. Nobody is perfect, we all do the best we can. Try, try again, as cliche as it is.
You feel like a failure because of the combination of having failed in the past, current depression and low self-esteem.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2016 8:45pm
You belive you are a failure so then you grow to feel like you are even though your not. Your not a failure it's all in your head
Anonymous
June 7th, 2016 1:49pm
You tell me why do you think you're a failure you're a part of this world that makes a difference you're not a failure look at why you have ever achieved in life
It feels terrible right after it has happened, but it will get better. Don't beat yourself up about it too much. Failure happens to everyone.
Everyone puts themselves down and often see themselves lower than others. You shouldn't think you are the best at everything but you should notice your achievements
Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. We tend to attribute our sense of self-worth to external factors like success in work and relationships. But life isn't easy and there will be hard times and failures. They happen for various reasons and not necessarily because of you and your performance alone. But what matters is how we all can learn from failures and start again.
Because you see it as a lost cause instead of an opportunity for much more. It is often through failure that we become wiser, and stronger.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2017 2:56am
I feel like a failure because I have disappointed the people around me, while I also constantly lied to the people that are not around me. They tried to guide me, and they tried to cheer me on. But my priorities were a mess. I was denying the mess, too, to myself and to those who can't see my situation. I feel like a failure because by now, now that I'm realizing where I went wrong, I have a strong feeling that it's too late. They have given up on me. I feel like a failure because I don't know if I can ever change their mind. I feel like a failure because I did not tell the people who trust me what I'm going through, I did not ask for their help. I feel like a failure because I let something slip away from my hands.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2017 8:08am
We feel like a failure if we always see the negative in every situation. If we feel that way, it's better to think that you only fail if you quit on trying, and that failure is just a stepping stone to success.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2018 8:35pm
Sometimes pressure and fear can lead you to believe you are a failure. It could be doubt in self, as well.
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