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Why do I feel so alone?

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NoraHelp
September 24th, 2015 1:49am
Possibly because no one around you seems to understand you in a personal level. There might be thousands of friends around you but no one knows how you feel.
Natalie
September 24th, 2015 5:20pm
You might not be surrounded by the right people. Maybe you should take a look at who you're including in your life.
Lauralie
September 26th, 2015 2:17am
You might feel alone because you' haven't been spending enough time with friends or family, or because you are suffering from anxiety attachment. You should spend time with friends when you can, but know that you can trust others to always be there when you need them.
YayyySphere
September 27th, 2015 1:36pm
Feeling alone is different from lonliness. Feeling alone usually means that you are physically isolated by yourself, being only with yourself, while lonliness can also be due to similar reason, or that it could be due to feeling nobody understanding you completely.
bedelia
October 21st, 2015 10:35pm
You feel so alone because others don't take their time to listen to you and they fail to understand and accept you as you are. The lack of communication and emphaty makes you feel like you're the only one that is going through a hard time and that there is no one to support you. But you're not alone, if you look for help you will come across people that would be willing to discover your real self, to show you emphaty and to offer you a better understanding of yourself and the people around you. We all go through hard times but we must not let that discourage us.
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2015 1:20pm
Maybe it's because of the people around you that makes you feel isolated from them. You may have been comfortable with yourself
littlekitten7890
October 23rd, 2015 3:02am
I've been working here for quiet a bit, and have been told that im good at this. Im not old, but im not young either, and im just right.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2015 1:17pm
You've lost your wi-fi connection that you have with your family,peers, friends just for a moment. It's like someone pulled the plug of your internet modem, all it takes for your connection with others to come back is simply just put the plug back in. It's hard though especially when the reason why you've lost it was because of unforeseen circumstances, it's just the way the world works.
miraculousLight40
October 24th, 2015 5:51am
Sometimes, you feel alone because you have no one to connect with. You need to find someone who you can talk to without feeling embarrassed... 7 Cups of Tea is a great way to alleviate your loneliness.
DanielRiot
October 24th, 2015 6:39pm
because life is hard at times. you must take the good with the bad. growing up i know now that i had lots of friends but when i was that age i thought no one was like me and no one wanted to be friends with me. it just takes time and a clear understanding of where you are in life. if you feel alone then talk to me or someone else on the Internet. at least here you will always have a friend.
zaix
October 25th, 2015 3:34am
Feeling alone is normal in most cases, feeling alone can also be caused by many different things, this is a very open ended question and I no nothing about you.
DistantGalaxies
October 25th, 2015 8:13am
Maybe it could be the lack of people you've allowed in your life, or the lack of impact you've allowed these people to have on your life.
Maxwallride
October 28th, 2015 2:37am
It must be because you feel like you're isolated from everyone else with what you're feeling and that you have no where to turn to and not enough community support.
thatmiley
October 28th, 2015 2:48am
Because sometimes we feel like there's nobody out there that really cares about us, but here in 7 Cups I learned that we always have a shoulder and someone to talk to
Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 9:30pm
Loneliness is the absence of emotional connection. Some people can't really emotionally connect with others for one reason or another. You can feel connected to a character, an artist or his artwork maybe a relative you didn't really have the patience or time to talk with, a neighbor? anyway.. when you feel a warmth, you'll know. keep it. that way the physical absence wouldn't matter that much. love yourself.love.
dmbLover41
October 29th, 2015 12:54pm
Sometimes the weight of the world can be overwhelming and feel like no one is there to share the weight.
beautifuldevil
October 30th, 2015 9:33am
One of the most destructive symptoms of pain is isolation. Our negative emotions make us subconsciously isolate ourselves, making us feel more alone than we actually are. The truth is that not everyone cares about what you're going through, but there are so many who do: friends , family and the listeners here at 7 Cups. It is important to try to remind yourself that you are never as alone as your pain makes you feel. There is always someone who you can turn to for help or support.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 12:06am
Feeling alone can be a horrible feeling especially when there are people around you but you still feel alone and sometimes even being around people can make you feel worse if they don't know what you're going through because they are still happy while you're there carrying a weight on your shoulders all on your own. Speaking up and reaching out to someone can really help as long as they are willing to listen and be there for you so choosing someone you know will be understanding is important.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 6:12am
Maybe you just feel alone because you need someone to talk with, or just someone who listen to you. And that's why we are all here, to support people, guest, members or even listeners.
iona
November 1st, 2015 12:34am
Feeling alone in a busy place is isolating. It is soul-destroying. It makes you feel just so small and unnecessary. I know how it feels to be made to feel like you are worth nothing. Loneliness moves on to be depression, as you're so alone. Well let me tell you that you are AMAZING. Being lonely won't change that, don't let that little pod of characteristics you have change. I hope your loneliness reduces soon.
Fitrandi
November 4th, 2015 4:51am
It might be for various reason, you might feel alone because you feel no one understands you or it might be because even though you have a lot of friends none really seems to be present for you. Being alone and feeling alone are 2 different things. The question I would like to know is why do you think you feel so alone.
PhoenixB
November 4th, 2015 7:01pm
Maybe because your freetime is spent alone. Try reaching out and engaging in conversations and social activities.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 5:03am
I feel so alone because I don't really know who I am or who I want to be so I don't know who to hang out with or if anyone has the same problems as me.
OvercomeDespair857
November 5th, 2015 5:17am
I can relate to this question far too much. I feel alone, almost every second, of every day and night. I mean, I know I'm depressed, but I'm getting better! Yet I feel like this still... And I don't know why I feel this way anymore. I know I'm not alone, and that I never was alone. But I feel alone. Why? I'm tired of feeling this way. I'm used to it, but that doesn't mean I'm not tired of this. It's the same day, almost every day. The same night, almost every night. I'm tired. I wish I had someone I could go to every day and ask for a hug or for them to cuddle me or just simply hang out with me. But my "friends" don't seem to get the hint. I just want to feel safe, not alone. Is that too much to ask..?
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 11:53pm
Its human nature to crave contact with others, so maybe its been to long since youve hugged someone, or in an other case, maybe you just are trying too hard to find friends, that you dotn realize that you already have alot of them.
Greatlistener87
November 6th, 2015 2:09am
I think that age, gender and situation is a big impact on why people feel alone. If example you are in your 30's your probably looking to settle down and all and if you have no one to settle down with loneliness is bound to kick in. Always try to stay positive things will come in due time :)
4CinderandSage
November 6th, 2015 6:21pm
Personally, I went through a period last year where I felt very alone. I didn't have friends, I lived in a new city with my boyfriend. Depression can be the cause. Would you like to speak to a listener?
thr33days
November 7th, 2015 1:47pm
you probably feel alone because you want to be alone with out realising. it happens a lot when going through depression you just want to go through what you are going through alone and would like not to waste other peoples time but that is not true you need to just stop and take a breath and look around you there is going to be some one there that cares about you and can help you with your current mental state of feeling alone x
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 5:12am
According to a study of more than 170,000 people published at the Psychology Bulletin in 2013, the average adult’s network of friends and colleagues have shrunk over the past 3 decades. It’s no wonder many people feel lonelier than ever. Feeling lonely, however, is not a direct cause of being alone. It’s possible to feel lonely in a crowd.
AmyLynn93
November 10th, 2015 6:11am
So many things could be causing your feelings of loneliness; I know one of the worst things in the world is feeling emotionally alone when someone's physically with you. It's in those times that you have to find peace in whatever makes you happiest; God, or being your own best friend, etc.