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Personally, I have a hard time finding someone who is like-minded or someone who understands me. I have a lot of family and friends who love and support me, but sometimes you just feel like you're on your own because you can't talk about your thoughts or feelings. You feel like they won't understand and it's better to keep those thoughts to yourself. But hey, sometimes you just need to give someone a chance to listen to you. I'm sure they will at least try to understand. Find something to connect yourself to your loved ones, talk to them. If you're looking for a friend, we're always there to help.
Anonymous
September 18th, 2018 6:49pm
I feel so alone because I feel that everyone is moving forward with their lives while I am moving backward. New relationships, marriage, kids, career success are happening to those you love all around but you are falling apart. You do not want to plague people with your problems but just wish sometimes someone would ask me how I am doing. So I can say I am not doing good. Just to listen to me without judgement and tell me I am okay and that I am still a good person. That even though a big part of your life has changed you are still okay.
The feeling of "loneliness" is a normal human emotion. Sometimes it's from not much interaction with people, depression or sometimes even if you're missing someone. there are always people out there to help with loneliness.
Because in my memory of the life, the times of unhappiness and feeling alone have far outlasted the brief moments of joy which, with each passing event seem to become more clear and positive, become that much harder to take when they are torn from my life. The advice on the mental health page focuses on these "brief periods of loss or loneliness" that strike us down. Most of my life has been these feelings. The real kicker is that at heart I am an idealist and see so much profound beauty and potential in this world and in the lives of others around me and yet every time I try to fix the mistakes of the past or try for a better future for myself I am crushed. After 36 years I am tired. I'm just tired and I don't want to fight again.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 7:22pm
I feel alone most of the time. I don't know what to do that time. It was like everything is blank and no one is there. There is no one who can understand you.. everyone have issue in life there is someone who need you.. make yourself happy with others happiness.. your family is always there for you who cares for you. So being strong nd make yourself strong
Anonymous
November 7th, 2017 6:37am
i feel alone when someone who is very close to me break my trust and faith on them. It is very difficult to understand, why always me? definitely something is wrong in me that's why always wrong happening with me.
I've felt alone because I've stopped myself from reaching out to those who love me. I've assumed that they don't care about me or that listening to me will simply burden them. I've felt alone in a crowd before because I've felt like the group don't really like me and I'm forcing my company upon them. None of my assumptions and beliefs were true, but I felt like they were. I made myself alone. I would distance myself from others because i thought they didn't like me and as a result, I came across to people as unapproachable. This discouraged people from starting conversations with me, and because of that, i became even more conscience that no one liked me. It was a downward spiral.
It could be from always being there for others but when you need them the most they were not there for you, causing disappointment and feelings of being all on your own.
Sometimes, it can be because you feel neglected by family or friends. We all need to some to listen to us and be there for us.
You feel alone because you feel like no one is there for you. You are invisible or a tiny spectacle of dust. You have friends, but they are not your friends. You feel silenced and forgotten. You feel left-out and alienated. Your family barely talks to you or doesn't understand your situation or what you are feeling. Your friends just give you drugs or don't want to deal with it. You have no one else, but only you. The very thought of that existing in your mind makes you feel alone.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2015 2:30pm
More often, it's the lack of understanding and non-judgmental people in our life that makes us feel alone.
Sometimes we can feel like we're alone, but that really doesn't mean that we are - there are always people around, especially on 7 cups, just sometimes in the moment, we don't feel so great, and so it feels as though no one is there for us.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2015 11:44am
Sometimes you may feel alone because you have recently been in a fight with a friend, or joined/started something new like changed schools and your body hasn't been able to adapt tot he new change!
Anonymous
December 4th, 2015 1:36pm
This can be many reasons! Maybe not having the right friends, Not being around enough people. Try new things! Do things you've wanted, like bucket list! Start a new years resolution! Do things that make you happy or things you've never tried!!
The need for acceptance and understanding that is not met leads to loneliness. It is normal to feel alone, it is part of being human.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2015 7:39am
Sometimes we can feel so alone because it can feel like nobody understands our problems. People to not typically talk about their personal issues on an every day basis and so it can be hard to feel like there is anyone else out there in the world who is suffering as much as you are.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2015 6:17pm
Sometimes we feel alone when we're not socialising enough, or talking very much, which may seem obvious, but could easily be overlooked when we get wrapped up in work/etc. Taking time to set aside and reach out to friends/relatives, or even find someone online to chat with can alleviate these feelings. You can also try and make plans with friends etc, even if it's just going to lunch or for a walk.
You're no alone. There are more people there for you than you think. Chin up! Don't feel so bad about yourself.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 11:26am
Maybe because you're surrounding yourself with negative people or stuck in boring activities .. Try to do something new that you could like and make new friends, it's interesting!
Because sometimes you feel like you don't fit in and you end up isolating yourself even more. But the thing is there's always someone else who also feels alone, and when you're together there's no one alone~
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 6:48am
This may be because you do not have anyone to rely on, anyone you really, truly trust in your life right now. Maybe you're having an unstated family problem, perhaps you don't have a close friend you can tell anything to.
You may feel alone because you aren't around the right type of people. To be around the right type of people you will never feel alone and will be filled with positive vibes
Feeling alone often stems from a lack of immediate, close support. It is something that everybody craves and needs to maintain healthy mental health. Reach out or get out of the house and spend some time with people and you will soon discover that being alone and being lonely don't have to be the same thing.
People can feel alone when they think nobody understands them, or nobody cares about them. This feeling is normal. We all feel like this at times.. and it is because we all need people around us. We need support and company. People cannot live without people.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 12:02am
lack of social encounters with people and loved ones can affect the person greatly and make them feel lonely.
feeling alone is a normal feeling ,it isnt a pleasent feeling but is normal to feel like that at some point in your life,Please remember you are always welcome to come on to 7 cups of tea and there are different listeners here to help ,listen and suppport you.
Because when you are alone for most of the day that is just how you feel. You are alone, not talking to anyone for 10 hours a day? ALONE.
You feel alone because the people who surround you maybe don't give you much attention or don't show you that they care or that you are good company.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2015 3:35am
Sometimes you do have people around you and still feel alone, it is probably because you think that the people surround you don't understand you, you have to find the right person and the confidence to tell them what's on your mind.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 4:45pm
Loneliness is a pretty intense feeling. When stuff gets serious and you find that you’re not feeling great a lot of the time, it can help to know some simple steps that might help you get back on track. But if nothing gets better, it might be worth looking deeper into why you are feeling so lonely.
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