Why do I feel so alone even though I have people doing their best to be supportive?
Last Updated: 07/13/2020 at 10:38pm
Jamie Rautenberg, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I'm passionate about helping clients understand emotional experiences & mental chatter do not define who they are. I'm here to guide them through the fog back to themselves.
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This is a biggie for me! This is one of my most faced problems, and honestly I don't exactly know why. All I can say is that it happens. Sometimes people around you just can't do enough, no mater what they do. Does that make sense? Sometimes it just happens and you have to get through it. Try reaching out to others that you normally don't reach out to. Sometimes it's also that we want a specific person to notice that we're struggling and to help us (subconsciously?), which can make people who are constantly there seem less significant than someone who wouldn't normally be there for us.
because you forgot to add one very important person to that list of supporters .."you"
Sometimes even with all the support in the world, if they don’t understand what your going through it could feel like no one is there. How much of the situation or process do they know? How much do you tell them? Sometimes just talking it through can make a bigger difference and change the way they support you. It’s okay to feel alone sometimes but don’t let the alone feeling stop you from the goal at the end. Do what you feel is best as long as it benefits you any the end of the day and never forget everyone who is there for you.
It's easy to feel alone in a room full of people. This can be do to the fact that even though all these people care and are loving and supportive, they may not be able to relate to what we are going through even though they try.
loneliness can be triggered by any factor some people need to stay connected 24 hours some neednt it all depends on the persons perspective .
Sometimes you can be in a room full of people and still feel like the loneliest person in the world, you just have to try and set your negative feelings aside and think positively and work on and have the courage to take on the support that people are actually giving you, because people can give you support but if you don't actually act on it, or take the support then that wont really help you, and make you feel lonely as ever, so I recommend taking the support hun, you'll feel much much much better for it ❤
Because sometimes the people surrounding us say they understand our troubles but they really don't. We want to speak with someone who has felt our pain and can help us with their own experiences.
Sometimes the people in our lives who are supporting us, are not supporting us in the way we wish they would, or we want to receive even more support.
This must be very difficult for you. You say the people around you are supportive, I am glad of this. How do you mean you feel alone?
I feel alone because I want people to support me and be there for me in a certain way. I get frustrated when they don't but I also understand that people think differently and communication of what you want always helps better relationships which could decrease feelings of loneliness. It will help you understand that people are indeed there for you.
Probably because your feeling of loneliness isn't actually based on if you are acompanied or not, it's based from some kind of psychological issue. I suggest you trust the people that are trying to help you, that way there are more chances that you'll get better :)
Loneliness is a strange emotion. Sometimes, even if we have lots of surrounding support, we still feel this emotion. It can be a symptom of depression. If it's serious, it's best to seek professional help.
It could be many things. It could be a mental disorder like depression, or it could be that although they support you, you’re not super close to them, or it could be something like what I experience. I’m introverted and I’m pretty inside my own head, I’m my own best friend and it’s difficult to really get close to people. But whatever it is I get the loneliness and I’m really sorry you have to go through it.
You can’t depend on others to make you feel good or happy or like you have a purpose. You have to learn how to love yourself because if you don’t then you will never be truly happy. I used to believe that I was ugly because I got that a lot and even though I had others supporting me and trying to make me happy I never really felt happy. Then when I got older I realized how lucky I was to look like do. Not many have my height and hair color. I started to feel better about myself even though I was told otherwise
Sometimes we feel alone because even though we have people who surround us and are supportive, it's not what we need in the moment. Often, people offer support in ways that they know how, rather than in a way that the person they are offering support to needs. When you feel alone, take a moment to ask yourself why that might be and if you're comfortable with it, talk to someone who is offering you their support about how they can best make you feel supportive. It might be difficult to do at first, but explaining that you're grateful for their support, but that you feel there are ways that might help you better. Generally speaking people will be receptive to ways that will help you.
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