Why do I feel so depressed at night?

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Michael77
August 22nd, 2015 11:29am
I know for me that my depression is more at the front of my mind when I'm physically spent. There are less distractions at night for me as well, so there's not much else occupying my mind. It takes a lot of emotional energy to get through each day, too, so it would make sense that you'd feel spent then, too, even with plenty of distractions.
TamaHawk
August 22nd, 2015 8:52pm
Depression is normal stage of grief, however, right after is acceptance. Whatever you are feeling right now is ok. Sometimes being able to talk about it can be the reflective therapy that you need. What do you have to lose?
SalParadise
August 29th, 2015 7:51pm
at some point of our lives, we all have stood awake wondering about life and the problems we need to face the following morning; in my opinion, being tired and alone in the middle of the night makes us lose perspective of things, especially after a hard day. the more you stay awake thinking about what makes you sad or mad at night, the worst it is, especially because there is nothing you can do at that hour to solve whatever its wrong. my advice would be to try your best to sleep, since there is nothing you can do at night that you cannot do during the day, and that way you will be rested and with your mind ready to face whatever the challenge is.
Annaxelia
January 29th, 2016 7:36am
At night you tend to be alone away from everything. During this time your mind tends to "run away" with you leaving you thinking of every possible situation you've been through. This is when you are most vulnerable because you quiet and alone
Anonymous
June 4th, 2018 3:48am
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. It may be that your depression is most noticeable at night because that is typically when we are alone with our thoughts. Family and friends are usually asleep and so we can often feel alone, even if we have someone sleeping next to us. Daytimes are filled with distractions, however fleeting; we have work/school, errands, chores, hobbies, the list goes on. Even if we feel unhappy during these activities it is often not until we stop and take a break from out distractions that the true depth of that despair becomes apparent.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2018 11:07pm
It’s normal for me to feel depressed at night and for most people . I have felt like this since I was around 5 years old and I found night time the worst time as I felt alone. I have obviously got over my fear of the dark however you still feel alone and start to think things. Then I’m the morning you feel different and happy and those thoughts are there but you don’t feel that way towards them. You mostly feel better because when you sleep your body self heals it’s self and relaxs meaning you will wake up feeling happy and calm. Then you come to the same time at night and that thought and feeling is back again. Maybe to help with this is to tell someone your thoughts and how you feel about them and how you think events in the past might have caused this as when you tell someone that important heavy feeling towards those thoughts will be gone as they are not as important as when you was keeping it in. If you find it hard to talk to your friends and family about it thats normal and it’s easier to tell a stranger then someone you care about. There are websites and hot lines that you can speak to people on and they won’t judge you but listen and help.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2018 12:02am
Because at night you are alone it’s your time so you can often feel alone and you have time to think of stuff you done so you can also feel regret or you could just think it get sad about that
Anonymous
August 19th, 2015 7:01pm
You may have trouble sleeping or the regular day ending sadness dont worry about it listen some happy music try the do wah diddy diddy song dance a little make yourself tired and jump in the bed and have a nice sleep.
Midichan
August 20th, 2015 3:13pm
While i am not sure why you are depressed at night. You can always find someone to talk to at night. Sleeping at regular intervals is scientifically proven to help as well.
godsgirlrhizzy
August 21st, 2015 11:16pm
Sometimes the night can be more vulnerable because there are less things to do. Such as being at a park, or school, college etc.
KatHellsing
August 23rd, 2015 1:14pm
At night is when our minds are weakest, since we're usually tired. So depression usually attacks when we're weakest, at night. Just like if you're upset or angry, the depression is usually a bit stronger. So it's just because the mind is weak and can't really fight it.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2015 11:36pm
There aren't any distractions at night so your mind can go over things that it thinks are particularly bad. You're basically just alone with your thoughts and when depressed that is not a good thing.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2015 4:47pm
Days can be wearing on someone. Being tired at night or just having a hectic day can create a lull in how you're feeling. Some feel upset that the day is over and some because the sun/light is not bringing joy.
Anonymous
September 10th, 2015 12:33pm
At night time you are left with your own thoughts. You keep replaying the bad events over and over!
delicateHorizon73
November 27th, 2015 3:20am
Sometimes it can be lonely at night. I know that at night my thoughts can be overwhelming which makes me depressed but I just have to remember that soon that feeling will go away. If you are feeling depressed at night, try listening to some soft music that can help you sleep.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 6:45am
It might be because the nighttime darkness just washes over you and you forget all bright things. Personally, this happens to me all the time, and I just can't get over anything at night, so I distract myself with something else. It might be the time taking a toll on you.
RavenGoldstone96
December 2nd, 2015 3:06pm
everything is quiet and you are sort of left to be with your own thoughts. you begin to over think and can often find it difficult to sleep due to all of these feelings
MsMiracle
December 4th, 2015 11:25am
It's just your emotions, you've probably just going through a hard time which probably led to you being depressed
ashtonlucker
December 6th, 2015 9:11pm
You might be thinking about something bad that's happened in your past, or something that you feel you're failing it, or just something negative. It could even be a person who just brings that negative energy in your life and makes you feel stressed or worn out.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 8:05am
I think it's common to feel more depressed at night. During the day we have distractions from our thoughts because of the activity of other people. you have all the time in the world to think, so you might think of depressing thoughts. It happens sometimes to me too so your not the only one.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 6:10am
Cause you feel lonely and you dont want to be lonely in the daytime or night. Its hard to explain ask a website or a someone you feel trusted.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 5:38pm
At night, you're brain replays so many memories, and is most awake. So, sometimes the memories you replay could be bad memories, causing you to be upset. Also, if you don't have a partner, you could be lonely as you are lacking someone to hold, cuddle, etc. it's a human instinct to cuddle, and if you're lacking something to cuddle, then you may experience depression. Sometimes, maybe a stuffed animal or pillow to replace this void can work.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 7:23pm
The absence of light can cause both doubt and terror on the soul and the spirit, it's only natural that we may need the sign of hope to glitter upon us, which is the light of day, that scatters away all imaginary shadows and fears.
Baileybug
September 5th, 2016 8:36pm
Because during the day you have so many different things going on you don't really have time to think. At night you mostly just relax and your brain starts to think. Most of the time its of stuff you don't really want to think about.
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2016 7:44pm
At night, you are alone with your thoughts, enabling you to feel much more sad as you have more chance to think about it. there's probably also some scientific reason that idk because i'm bad at science
Solia
November 14th, 2016 2:00am
At night is usually when people go to sleep and everything gets quiet, therefore you are likely to have less distractions and night-time can easily become lonely. It also gets dark at night, which can make you feel depressed.
dancingJoy75
February 7th, 2017 4:17pm
Sometimes we are tired. Our mind is still chatting from the day and although your body is relaxed your mind is not.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2015 5:59am
It is because your mind is idle and all the negative thoughts tend to seep in. Clear your head before sleeping. Either writing it down or talking to someone might help.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2015 6:00pm
At night, there are fewer people to keep me company when I'm feeling really sad and there's no sunlight around to make me feel better.
Hoper12
August 26th, 2015 3:29am
Let me say from experience, everything seems worse at night. For one you're tired and you can't process your emotions and cope with your feelings as well. Another problem is at night we tend to feel more alone. But its important to remember that we aren't alone and that tomorrow is a new day. Usually when I wake up after a night of feeling depressed I realize things weren't as bad as they seemed. Its hard to realize that when you're in the moment of course but remember it gets better. Sleep on it and deal with the sadness in the morning when your mind is in a bit better place.