Why do I feel so inferior and worthless and useless all the time?

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Why do I feel so inferior and worthless and useless all the time?
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genialLizards
November 5th, 2015 5:39am
You are probably going through personally struggles that you could need help going through. Try talking to someone here or in real life.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 8:14am
Inferior complex is in all of us, especially when we have people around us that constantly tell us that we are not worthy. Always remember that people do that to feel better about themselves and do not care about you. So you need to care for yourself and bring your self esteem up by telling yourself positive things.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2015 7:14pm
You may have depression. Take the emotional wellness test on here and see what you score. From there you can go to a psychiatrist or your regular doctor.
Heyimhere123
November 6th, 2015 3:11pm
I do not accept the person I really am. If i can not be happy with who I am I will never be happy. I have to learn to love me.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2015 9:49pm
You might feel that way only because you might be comparing yourself to others. Do what you like, think what you think, do what you want. As long as you're happy.
caringCloud22
November 8th, 2015 3:45pm
There are many reasons that someone can feel this way. There is no real answer to this. It can be a build up of work related stresses or the fact that you feel stuck when everyone else seems to be moving forward. But don't get too disheartend by this. People progress at different times. A time will come when you don't feel worthless and you will realise that youre a very important person in peoples lives.
JBlue
November 11th, 2015 2:48am
There is a natural tendency to be particularly critical of oneself. If you are depressed, or are generally prone to all-or-nothing thinking, it that tendency can mushroom into overly-broad, pervasive, negative self-assessments. And this can snowball as it becomes habitual. But this is rarely, if ever, either accurate or helpful. To help dig out you might ask yourself this: does acting on these feelings in any way help you act the way you would like to? Could you find a way to recognize that it hurts to feel this way, to see that to some degree all of us feel inferior at times, and to be kind to yourself as a step toward relieving your suffering and growing toward your true potential?
Ryocent
November 14th, 2015 8:57pm
Well, its because that's what you think you are. In my eyes, everyone was put on the Earth for a reason. You just don't know why you are here just yet. You're the only one holding you back from being the best you you can be. You are not worthless or useless. You only think that since you don't know why you're here just yet. But eventually you will find out why you're here, and you'll be happy you waited.
wonderousSunshine82
November 15th, 2015 2:35am
I believe that I feel inferior and useless much of the time for many reasons but the two main reasons are that 1) I was led to believe this by my family (namely my parents) from a very young age. Add in a few abusive relationships and my self-esteem plummeted. 2) I also feel useless and worthless when I do not see immediate results in my efforts. I then tend to feel like all of my effort is not adequate enogu and that it will not make a difference.
Pocapocahontas7
November 15th, 2015 8:31am
What are your reasons for feeling this way? No matter what your going through in your life, always remember that you have family and friends who love you and wouldn't want to see you feeling this way. You are not worthless or useless. We all are going through personal issues. I'm here for you.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 4:52pm
Because you are a human and we have our low days. However try to look at the better things you have like your skills.
Ari
November 18th, 2015 2:57am
Because you don't love yourself. You don't like how you are. But you are unique, you must love what you like, what you do, what do you think, what do you feel.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2015 5:40pm
Feeling like a failure happens to me all the time. We achieve so less, and feel like comparing ourselves to the others who've gone/ going through less struggle and achieving more. Life is unfair. But we have to be brave and push ourselves to the extreme.
stellar
November 19th, 2015 7:12am
We all feel inadequate at times. Too much focus on what we ‘aren’t’ rather than what we ‘are’ can bring us down. Try to look at what you do that makes you feel proud of yourself.
WalkinDownRapperBlvd
November 19th, 2015 3:30pm
Depending on what has happened in your life recently depends on why. Someone around you has probably made you feel that way without you realizing it.
interestingBerry24
November 20th, 2015 12:48pm
Well just know these feelings are not true! Practice a different routine. Do different things. Maybe a different scenery.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2015 8:42pm
Sometimes it can be a mindset, due to a situation (past or present), and other times it is because we compare ourselves to others. We need to see ourselves as God sees us...and realize we are valuable and loved.
slightlyodd99
November 21st, 2015 3:53pm
I sometimes do feel this way too, and it is an extremely common feeling. Today itself a member came up to me with the very same thing. But maybe why people feel this way is because they haven't found out who they are yet and how they exactly fit in with the rest of the world, but this isn't to say that we don't fit in at all. So please don't feel this way, I am sure that there are many talents and quirks about you that make you special and worth while
insightfulTruth93
November 21st, 2015 5:55pm
Because we seek validation and kindness in a world that expects everyone to naturally hold their own
Freewillsky
November 22nd, 2015 10:40pm
One thing is for sure: it is not because you are inferior, worthless and useless. If you're feeling this trio together, and all the time, it has nothing to do with who you actually are. It's a distorted thought pattern. Maybe it was set off by an event in your life. Maybe not. But one thing is clear: you feel this way because of an illusion, not your real, actual, worthwhile and useful self.
greenJOHN1971
November 25th, 2015 2:54am
Still having some ability, I'm unable to work because of my fatigue, memory issues, pain, and am unable to work till the job is done!
PudgieBudgie2
November 25th, 2015 12:33pm
You feel this way because of multiple factors, and only you can really define what makes you feel that way. What I can say is that what can make you feel better is doing something you love, even if, though bad things, you've lost interest.
mylifeistolove
November 26th, 2015 1:24am
Because you are too much worried about what happens next in life. Cool it down, think of your present and find happiness.
DarthMindHealer95
November 26th, 2015 9:21pm
because we see other's capabilities and overlook our own which in most cases could be superiour to others, however, not to be taken in any form to emotionally injure others
Michael77
November 27th, 2015 12:58pm
It could be low self-esteem, depression, a situational reaction (such as someone telling you that you're inferior and worthless all the time), a reaction to some trauma, or any number of things. It's a horrible feeling to have no matter what the reason. Even if you've made terrible mistakes or choices in your life, you aren't worthless and aren't any less deserving of feeling like you are just as viable as the next human being. It's hard to treat yourself with the same acceptance and care that you treat others, but with time and effort, you can learn to do that. We often hold ourselves to much higher standards than we do for anyone else.
LucasW
November 29th, 2015 3:08am
From experience, I feel inferior and worthless when I compare myself to others. This can lead me to some very strong negative emotions which I like to combat by writing down a list of all the positive things that make me ME. This helps me reflect on myself and gives myself a sense of worth
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 9:29am
You know almost all of this feel this way at some point. It's not really a good way to feel, I'm sure you know that. Usually it's the people around you that make you feel this way, try your hardest to avoid these toxic people. We ALL have a meaning in this life. No matter what it is.
soothingPeace91
November 29th, 2015 6:13pm
having negative feelings or being surrounded b negitave people can make you feel worthless without meaning to.
NyxCain
November 30th, 2015 11:30pm
Life is pain, that's for sure. You aren't though. No matter how alone you might feel, I know that someone cares about you. You'd be surprised how many people who would be very upset without you. Everyone has their talents and their worth.
courageleadstonewlife
December 3rd, 2015 9:04am
Self Esteem can be a very difficult issue to deal with. It takes practice to retrain your mind to think positively about yourself. But it CAN be done. Finding a good counselor, positive visualization and guided meditations can all be useful in this process. Remember to give yourself a break, and start to interrupt your negative thought patterns with self-encouragement, love, and acceptance. With time and work you will start to feel more empowered. You can do it!