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Why do I feel so inferior and worthless and useless all the time?

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Why do I feel so inferior and worthless and useless all the time?
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November 29th, 2015 9:29am
You know almost all of this feel this way at some point. It's not really a good way to feel, I'm sure you know that. Usually it's the people around you that make you feel this way, try your hardest to avoid these toxic people. We ALL have a meaning in this life. No matter what it is.
November 29th, 2015 6:13pm
having negative feelings or being surrounded b negitave people can make you feel worthless without meaning to.
November 30th, 2015 11:30pm
Life is pain, that's for sure. You aren't though. No matter how alone you might feel, I know that someone cares about you. You'd be surprised how many people who would be very upset without you. Everyone has their talents and their worth.
December 3rd, 2015 9:04am
Self Esteem can be a very difficult issue to deal with. It takes practice to retrain your mind to think positively about yourself. But it CAN be done. Finding a good counselor, positive visualization and guided meditations can all be useful in this process. Remember to give yourself a break, and start to interrupt your negative thought patterns with self-encouragement, love, and acceptance. With time and work you will start to feel more empowered. You can do it!
December 4th, 2015 1:35pm
Well, The reason why I felt this way was beacuse I was Icolating myself. Try to be around people! Keep your head up! You are worth the world and more! Sometimes we just have to overcome the hard times so we can enjoy the better ones more :) Smile! It looks good on you!
December 5th, 2015 11:31am
Sometimes people may feel like this because they don't have a job, project or anything currents to do at a time. So when people have just finished a big job of some sort, when they then have nothing to do they are constantly trying to fins something new to do but it doesn't always work and they feel like they are not being useful. then sometimes it can get more intense and people may start to get upset with them selves and it leads to feeling like this!
December 5th, 2015 8:31pm
It depends on your situation. Some people might be bringing you down, or you don't feel appreciated by others.
December 6th, 2015 8:43pm
I feel inferior, worthless and useless all the time because I don't have a lot of confidence and it seems like no one really cares.
December 11th, 2015 12:52pm
you may be surrounded by people who cause you to feel that way, maybe they don't mean to make you feel like this but you should speak to them about it :)
December 15th, 2015 6:54pm
Maybe because you don't feel like your "2 cents" is helping or effecting anyone. Everyone in the world is equal. You are equal to the rest of us. Try doing things that make a difference, like helping other people. Helping people is the one of the best way to help yourself. Help someone with their homework, give someone a compliment or a hug when they're sad, join 7 Cups of Tea to help support others... You can do so many things that will improve the world and help you too. Good luck!
December 16th, 2015 4:13pm
because you concentrate on the lesser points about yourself rather than the good points about yourself
December 16th, 2015 10:30pm
In my experience, feeling inferior or worthless has a lot to do with the idea that we have not "accomplished" certain things up until a certain point in our lives. For example, you may feel as if you have not accomplished your goal of being married by the age of 30, or whatever age you think is the "right" or average time that people get married. This same principle can also be applied to status in your career, money you make, or things you own (like a car or house). The thing about this is that no two people are alike. You may have the same education as your friend who has all these things, but you may have been through different experiences that have led you down a different path. There is nothing wrong with you for not finding the love of your life or your dream job by the age of thirty (for example. Your personal struggles are different from everyone else's. Try to concentrate on the good things you have done and your qualities as a person. If you are a good, kind person that is an accomplishment in itself. And if you know that underneath your struggles you are smart, creative, interesting, and most of all, worthy of love, things are going to happen for you and it's not as important WHEN they happen. It is so much more important for you to feel good about yourself than it is to have all these external things. I suggest looking into self-help books about boosting self-esteem and really practicing the exercises. It may sound sort of cheesy but these things can actually work, even if you don't have access to therapy. At the very least, you will be concentrating on healing yourself, and that is the best way to get over these unhealthy feelings.
December 17th, 2015 10:46pm
These are hallmark feelings of depression, mostly these feelings come out of previous situational events wherein somebody has failed to show appreciation or thanks for something that the depressed individual has done. That person being depressed tends to throw this out of proportion and assume negatively that they are this way in every aspect of life. Essentially one of the most awful things about depression is how it sparks negative thought patterns and tends to lead people to make assumptions and grow even more depressed, Its a melancholic cycle and is usual only broken with outside help (Therapy/Medication). However a third of depressive cases dissipate of their on accord! So don't despair.
December 18th, 2015 1:20pm
It's a matter of finding your own self-worth before the influence or standards of others. Ask yourself what expectations you have for yourself so that you count each small victory and make peace with your mistakes or the things you can't change. If you feel inferior then it's time to search for your own perception of happiness.
December 19th, 2015 1:03pm
You feel this way because you have probably been told this your whole life. But you don't ha s to feel like this
December 19th, 2015 8:25pm
This is something I can relate to myself. It was just the lack of confidence and hopelessness that made me think like this. All I believe is that you will need a good friend to survive all that.
December 22nd, 2015 6:43am
My parents told me that he wishes I was never born and reminds me that I'm a failure through out my life. Things that I feel that are major accomplishment are put down belittled, criticized and are wrong. I have never shown an ounce of support in things that I care about. Nor does my life even matter. Not only that, I feel used by the opposite gender for sexual gratification. To know, I'm not even worth knowing as a person. Knowing that I can't afford to pay a bus ticket makes me a failure, it's distressing. To people that I care the most, my thought, my feeling or my actions don't matter to them. I might smile and be happy, but these are things hurt me everyday.
December 23rd, 2015 6:54pm
Most of the time you feel inferior, worthless, and useless all the time because you THINK that you do. If you think like you aren't, most likely, you'll feel better about yourself.
December 23rd, 2015 7:11pm
You may be suffering from depression. Depression can cause you to feel inferior and to have a low sense of self worth, among other things. Getting checked out by a doctor and discussing your symptoms with them may be helpful for you.
December 23rd, 2015 8:36pm
I'm sorry you feel that way, it's normal to feel inferior sometimes but it's important to remember that you are important and no one is above or below you. You underestimate the time you have and your abilities. Sometimes we need to be reminded that we are special, so you are special :) and you're fully capable of doing anything you set your mind to. Just always remember to be yourself and be kind, that takes practice
December 23rd, 2015 10:09pm
You feel very inferior and useless because you may be lacking ins self worth and identity. Your uselessness can be because your life lacks structure and or routine.
December 23rd, 2015 11:39pm
You very well could have convinced yourself of this, subconsciously. People can convince themselves of many things just by telling themselves the same thing over and over.
December 24th, 2015 6:48pm
Trying to fit in and I genral trying so hard makes you feel pathetic..accept yourself and be you and feel loved ..
December 24th, 2015 11:01pm
depression, those are signs of depression, when you have depression ifs like nothing matters to you anymore
December 25th, 2015 2:43am
Most of the time, you just break down and make yourself believe that, but you aren't worthless, Everyone has worth and a reason to live. ♥
December 26th, 2015 8:54pm
it's normal for humans to feel that sometimes...but what you should know and be sure of ...that you're not and that you are an amazing person ... always believe in yourself
December 27th, 2015 5:34am
Ive always felt the same, I dont know the answer to that but heres the thing, if you feel like you are worth it people will belive you are
December 27th, 2015 8:52pm
We all have felt that way at some point or the other . I suggest you do acknowledge and recognise your achievements.
January 1st, 2016 3:36am
More than likely, you're insecure. You don't feel confident about yourself. Try talking to a close friend or family about it, they can be great support in situations like that.
January 1st, 2016 8:28am
Maybe it is the people around you, or your mind making you think about your insecurities and all the negative things people have ever said or done to you.