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Why do I feel so unappreciated?

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Last Updated: 04/29/2020 at 7:54am
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Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 2:09am
I feel unappreciated because no one pays attention to my opinion, because i don't stand out enough, i'm not one of the strong, leading minds. I'm just a small person with big ambitions and ideas that no one wants to hear.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 4:18pm
Your feelings might reflect the truth. Most likely there are people that appreciate you, but not as much as you think you deserve to be. It's better to feel unappreciated than to unappreciate yourself. After all this shows you have at least a little love and respect for yourself, that is one of the most important things in life. If you feel this way, look around you. Determine if the problem is you or the others. Possibly it is both. If you meet quality people that can see the things others haven't yet, and if you keep on improving yourself, you'll have people that appreciate you.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 7:25pm
When you feel that way, it's probably because you're not doing something that helps you feel good about yourself! When you do something you like repeatedly, you feel good, and everyone else will encourage you to do well, and congratulate you whenever you do well!
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 5:20am
Well maybe someone takes you for granted but one day it will all be better just have to be there. I believe in you.
HarleenQuinnzel
February 19th, 2016 7:59am
It all depends on the situation you're in.You have to look at behaviors from others that influence your feelings or perhaps you are and am having trouble viewing it. People show appreciation in different ways.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 11:12am
Maybe you can't see the people who loves you you just hate yourself so much that you can't see how important are for someone
DKListener
February 27th, 2016 3:22am
Can you give me a time when you felt as though you were feeling unappreciated ? :) maybe I can help you
joyfulDreamer22
February 28th, 2016 2:38pm
Because people don't say thanks after I helped them and don't say please when they ask for help. Most of the time, the same person don't help me back after I helped her.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2016 4:07pm
I work as a teacher, which is often a very thankless job. Very often, I will return home feeling like I did a lot of work for not a lot of appreciation and then I remember that that isn't why I work as a teacher. I work for those little moments in students that occur when they finally grasp a difficult concept. My answer to your question would be to let go of feeling unappreciative and try to discover the little things that make you happy and encourage you to keep doing what you do. :D
politeFish31
March 3rd, 2016 10:21am
Sometimes people can get over looked for various reasons perhaps other people are too busy or just used to the amount of work that you do... bring this up nicely if necessary but also take the time to appreciate others as well.
WiseOldManCounseling
March 3rd, 2016 1:40pm
You might actually not be getting credit for good acts you do, or because your ego isn't strong enough.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 6:18pm
Sometimes people just assume that you know that you are appreciated. Maybe you just have to confront someone and ask if you have helped them in any way. helping others often leads to appriciation.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 4:16am
I feel unappreciated because I can not let kindness in. I have an armour on my heart that protects me from hurt, but prevents good things from entering.
glisteningWinter76
March 5th, 2016 5:24am
You feel unappreciated, people in your life may be neglecting to see all you do for them on a daily basis
beautifuldevil
March 5th, 2016 2:52pm
Your value is not diminished by others who cannot see your worth. Remember that you deserve all the joy and success you get and don't worry about the opinions of others more than your own opinion.
alxmia
March 6th, 2016 3:23pm
Maybe you expect to much or feel that you should be treated the same way you treat others which may not be the case. Keep your expectations from others low
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 8:56pm
You’re loved by everybody…you were created for a reason, and we’re all happy you exist. We all love you, but I understand how you feel. Remember, YOU are special to YOU. You’re gifted, amazing, and should feel pride of yourself.
SingingPhoenix
March 10th, 2016 4:32am
I feel unappreciated because things I do for people who are ungrateful, I don't get the recognition I feel I deserve, friends who make promises to meet with you somewhere and then don't bother notifying you, when you made the effort to get there.
Anonymous
March 10th, 2016 8:33am
It's normal to feel unappreciated from times to times. But you're way more than that there are so many people that appreciate you and love you.
hayl
March 12th, 2016 5:14am
A lot of people feel unappreciated, for a lot of different reasons. you have to find your own self fufilment in everyday life
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 8:40pm
Many of us in life are too busy working on the big things and don't tend to notice the people who help out with the small things and sometimes they are just too busy to realise at all.
Abbeyy
March 16th, 2016 10:17pm
It's normal to feel this way but not okay you're very appreciated love
Anonymous
March 17th, 2016 7:59pm
Your unappreciation is something you ultimately tell yourself. You have the potential to do so much, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
LonelyAngels
March 19th, 2016 3:43pm
Look dear we are all lovely, we are all unique beings, we all see things differently. But, Here's my qustion to you, did u apprecciate yourself as one? If you appreciate yourself you wont feel so unappreciated because you became content within yourself :))
Anonymous
March 25th, 2016 9:54am
Maybe because you don't realize how your brother will cry at your funeral. How the galaxy will yet again loose another star. You are not unappreciated. Someone sees what you do. You are appreciated. Good job, kid. You're living and alive, that's a pretty hard thing to do.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 1:41am
you have to be able to love yourself first. Happiness means loving yourself and being less concerned with the approval of others.
AdrianElijah
April 10th, 2016 3:41am
Many times people can feel unappreciated because of the lack of respect the world is beginning to have. We go through our daily life doing good deeds, and they rarely get noticed and praised. When you are able to do these good deeds, and feel good about them without needing other peoples' praise, you have truly reached lifetime satisfaction.
smileforawhile
April 22nd, 2016 11:19pm
Everyone feels unappreciated at some point or another. Maybe people haven't recognized all the good you have been doing recently. Or maybe those who you help haven't said thank you. There are lots of reasons why you could feel unappreciated!
LexJPT
July 5th, 2016 9:45pm
Probably because you're not realizing people care about you, and believe me, they do. They care so much.
Jeannette711
September 15th, 2016 4:17am
I feel so unappreciated because I feel my exs love for me was never real. I saw him yesterday and it didn't even seem like he missed my presence.