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Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?

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Last Updated: 04/15/2022 at 5:11pm
Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?
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Top Rated Answers
PilordeParadox
July 9th, 2016 5:09pm
A break up takes a long time to heal. For some people it only takes weeks, but for others... it can even takes years.
LondynRose
July 10th, 2016 3:08pm
When you invest a lot of emotional time with someone it is natural to think of them. You will always miss the good times.
lonestar87
July 11th, 2016 4:48pm
You obviously will still think about someone who was a big part of your life and it takes time to adapt to them not being in your life anymore but you will think about them less in time and one day will wake up not thinking of them at ll
Faithlife
July 15th, 2016 1:07pm
Your ex was a part of your life. Thoughts and memories of any once significant person will always be apart of your subconscious memories and will sometimes surface to your mind.
NumberEleven
July 15th, 2016 7:13pm
Maybe you still miss them, or maybe you miss the memories that you two used to have. It's really normal, talking or writing down your feelings can help you process how you feel.
Owen27
July 15th, 2016 10:17pm
Was there anything left unsaid which you feel needed to be aloud? You may miss the company of having someone there and the change may just take some getting used to. Ask yourself; are you happy with the parting of you and your ex? Hope this has helped.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 10:36pm
The heart wants what the heart wants. Every person is different when it comes to dealing with breakups. Your ex could have left a serious impact on your life and it makes it difficult to go even a day without thinking of them.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 10:59pm
When you become comfortable and accustom to being with someone, letting go leaves this mark in your mind, Things you use to do you don't, feelings you had feel weird and remembering all that were the two of you leaves a scar you wake up with in the morning.
CarefreeSoul
July 16th, 2016 12:21pm
I believe people dream of and wake up thinking of their ex because they are so used to having them around that it is practically habit to think about them. Of course you are going to miss them, especially the little subtle things about them. You may be subconsciously thinking about them.
here4you201
July 17th, 2016 6:14pm
Because he/she is your ex. He/she is important to you. He/she shared a bond with you and he/she is going to remain in your heart forever.
Jadhar
July 20th, 2016 2:33am
There are periods in my life when, for a time, I'll wake up day after day, thinking about people who've been in my life and have since departed my life. I miss them, or feel complicit in the cause of their absence. It makes me feel weak inside. I have to actively remind myself that failure breeds strength. Our bond may have failed, but it made me stronger, and hopefully, them too.
rainbowclouds91
September 11th, 2016 3:12am
Thinking about people we care or used to care about is natural - because at some point, we used to care about them! There is no shame in thinking about your ex.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2016 4:07am
maybe because you still have 'something'(problem, feeling, etc) between your and your ex that still hasn't over yet.
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 8:09am
Mostly because you go to be thinking about him/her. Usually, missing him/her. This in turn drives your subconscious to recall the times spent together and more.
VerenaBiscaya
September 18th, 2016 8:37am
Because your ex was a big part of your life. It is always hard to get over someone who had a big impact, and sometimes, even after years you can still wake up and think about someone who's been long gone. Ask yourself if it's a bad thing thinking about him/her and make a desicion based on the outcome.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 2:45pm
Sounds like you still think about them. It depends on what the thoughts are. If you're thinking about why they're not in bed next to you, there's a possibility that you miss them. If you're angry and thinking about the break-up, maybe you need answers and closure.....
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 5:56pm
because this is someone you had gotten used to be around, they became a part of you somehow so trust that it will take time for you to completely stop thinking about them
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 3:12pm
They're still crucial to your thinking. Your ex was once someone very important. This is a natural outcome and will ease with time.
imalovesyou
October 7th, 2016 1:40pm
Because, at the time, the relationship was the best thing ever. It's okay to cherish memories and reminisce, but remember, love is an open door and there are endless opportunities, just don't let it get to you
HalcyonPhoenix
October 7th, 2016 2:13pm
It's okay to miss or think about someone who used to be such an important part of your life. But it's also necessary to understand that now they're not longer an important part of your life, that too for a reason. So think about why and how it went wrong, how it's over now and how you can move on.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2016 1:19am
because sometimes you have emotional attachment to people that you still care about and you don't want to let her go.
Inkii
October 11th, 2016 5:19pm
Because they were a big part of your life at some point, someone you cared for/loved and shared impressionable moments with. It'll never be easy to stop thinking of them, it's not supposed to be, but that doesn't mean you'll never get over it.
ScoutTheDutchie
October 13th, 2016 10:20pm
Getting over a breakup can be hard, maybe there was something about that relationship that you really liked. Seeing as how you broke up, it wasn't the best relationship. I suggest looking for that one quality in a relationship in another person. Hope it goes well!
Christlime66
October 23rd, 2016 10:33pm
You find it really hard to let go the people that you care about. This is normal and shows that you are a passionate and loving person.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2016 7:17pm
It's important that you find something that distracts you. Anything. Don't dwell on your ex. Don't let your ex get the best of you.
intern
October 28th, 2016 12:06am
You remember something good you guys did together or you dreams about him /her or maybe that person is thinking of you
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 1:39pm
You probably miss them alot. They probably played a large role in your life for a while so of course you're going to feel attached even when they are gone.
Butterfly121
November 3rd, 2016 7:19pm
It may have to do with some feelings you still have, whether consciously or not, towards this person and it might be worth exploring more in to and really looking into yourself to see the extent of your residual feeling.
wonderfulMist14
November 4th, 2016 12:46am
It could be because you miss your ex. Also, it could be because you miss the feelings your ex gave you or the memories.
mcla
November 9th, 2016 2:55pm
Most of the time its just because we miss them or we miss the feelings that were once there. Its perfectly normal