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Why does depression have to bring me down to the point where I don't want to exist?

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Last Updated: 06/22/2020 at 3:32pm
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May 25th, 2015 9:06am
When in a depression, you feel like you're to much for this world and you only cause problems. Nobody understands you and your thoughts so you feel like you're weird and different. you feel like you're just a failure who never manages to do things right; the world would be beter off without you.
April 23rd, 2018 5:19pm
Depression can have that effect on people. It could lead you to start hating yourself, feeling unwanted, unworthy. But trust me it's not true it's just the depression controlling your thoughts. Pls, seek a professional help.
June 5th, 2015 10:48am
That my friend, is why it's called depression. It's a disorder that brings you down literally, all your hormones that supply happiness are down therefore you feel helpless. However, you shouldn't feel that way. We are here for a reason, *you* are here for a reason, depression or no and you have to remember that there is at least one person out there--including me--that wants you to exist.
August 10th, 2015 4:40am
Depression is a mental disease that will tell you that you are worth nothing, that you shouldn't exist but remember that this is not you, that those are not your thoughts. Depression can be compared to a black cloud looming over your head. You must take it, accept it, and morph it into a black dog that you hold onto tightly and you take the lead with and keep under control. You must learn to live with it but you will prevail and you must take my word when I say that your life is worth living and you are valuable.
October 27th, 2015 6:30pm
Depression is a change in brain chemicals where all our 'happy' hormones, drop to a very low level causing us to think negatively and sadly.
January 26th, 2016 2:42am
Depression is just a thought that you tell yourself, telling yourself happy thoughts and it usually makes the depression go away.
May 17th, 2016 9:35pm
Depression is something we all deal with someone does it earlier and some later few fights and few gives up! I have been through hard times when i wished that i never existed and now i know why i felt so and it's because I consider myself weak really weak and worthless!
May 24th, 2016 10:44am
Everything will be okay in the end, if it's not okay, it's not the end. Sometimes when it seems as if everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong, we feel that we will be stuck in this negative, downtrodden rut forever. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and we may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine again. It is all a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine. If we let our negative circumstances, turn our positive thoughts into negative actions, it will take us longer to see the sun. If we reinforce our positive thoughts when we feel negative ones coming along it will seem as though the sun took no time to come. Ground yourself, look for the good in who you are, and in the situation, and remember to motivate yourself with your dreams. Stay positive my friend, for everything will be alright, maybe not today, but eventually!
July 18th, 2016 2:40pm
That's what depression likes to do, and it's terrible. I suggest you try and seek some sort of help, whether it be therapy or even your parents or friends. You do matter.
November 7th, 2017 3:08am
Depression is like a leech, it feeds off of your despair. There's no real reason why, but you can always reach out for help to stay safe and healthy
November 20th, 2017 7:39am
Because depression is powerful, it is overwhelming and heavy but you are strong, you can fight back and you will have support. Depression isn't forever.
March 19th, 2018 1:31am
It can bring you down to where you feel existing is pointless because you lost interest in so many things to where you don't have an idea to continue anymore.
May 29th, 2018 7:45pm
Depression can hit you all of a sudden. Maybe its one tragic thing that's happened, maybe its a lot of things that feel overwhelming when you add them together... or maybe you have no idea why you feel that way. We so often push away the things that make us feel bad, or that we don't want to deal with, then they come back and bite us in the butt (so to speak!). By finding some headspace, taking a deep breath and dealing with our problems and/or negative emotions as and when they happen, we can start to deal with them in real time, rather than letting them build up and overwhelm us. When things become overwhelming, it feels useless to try. It feels like 'whats the point', 'something else will pop up to make us feel rotten again'. Maybe you're talking to yourself with negative dialogue. For me it's good practice to embrace emotions - good and bad - and to recognize them, name them out loud even, don't push them away or think 'I'll deal with that later!" Nothing is permanent. Just as you were once happy and now feel sad, this sadness can end too. Just give it time. Try to find things that make you feel good. Even if its a fleeting moment of happiness. Try to be honest with yourself and others around you. Don't be afraid to open up and tell people you're feeling low. Accept the help when it is offered. Have faith that you will feel better, you just need to allow it and give it space to happen.
June 22nd, 2020 3:32pm
Because it is the nature of the struggle. It is the most difficult struggle to fight with your own thoughts and keep defeating them. Oftentimes, these thoughts take you to dark places where you can not fathom any hope, you feel trapped and heartbroken that no helps is ever coming. In this constant struggle with yourself, many times it does feel easier to just rest a while. Like a wounded soldier in a battlefield, sometimes pain becomes too much to bear and wishing to not exist seems the only way to have any relief. But in those times, it helps if you are able to hold on to any hope, any little sliver of peace, relief or happiness or just know that others go through such struggles too and you are not alone. That there is help and that your life matters, most importantly to yourself.