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Why does nobody believe I'm depressed?

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ChlobiWanKenobi
December 12th, 2015 3:11am
Some people are brought up to believe there is no such thing as depression. Only times when you are sad. This is not true, depression is a real illness and it needs to be treated accordingly. If you have access to your doctor, discuss treatment options with them. If you are too young to go to your doctor by yourself, perhaps try talking to a school counsellor or teacher.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 10:14am
beacause sometimes people can't feel what they have never experinced unfortunately but there are people who get it out there never lose hope
Herequeerandcheering
December 12th, 2015 7:02pm
Many people don't understand what its like to feel depressed. Some may think that you just don't "seem" depressed it's hard for many people to understand depression if they don't have much experience with it
xiasymphony
December 12th, 2015 11:12pm
Maybe it's how you express it. Do you talk about it frequently? What would you think about yourself?
readman
December 13th, 2015 4:57am
Mainly because we haven’t been taught almost anything about mental issues and how to deal with them. We either romanticize depression or we don’t believe exist at all. And not having support from the people who are around you can make the depression worse. That is why sites like this, exist.
7CupsOfEspresso
December 13th, 2015 10:25am
Some might think you just want attention when you really do need help. It hurts but you just have to find someone who's willing to really listen and understand.
izza
December 13th, 2015 7:49pm
Depression is seen as an "abstract concept" which we are often educatated little or nothing at all about. The fact that we don't know much about it makes it niche and so people don't realise how common it actually is. Many people face depression in fact 1/4 teenagers in the UK experience depression, we just don't get taught much on it and so people find it hard to believe when some have depression because it's unfamiliar to a large extent. Here at 7cups we are very understanding, non-judgemental and educated (thanks to the training guides) on topics such as depression so members and guest don't have to worry about not being believed. We are all here to support you through this experience.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 10:10pm
because it is difficult for them to believe that someone they always relied on to be fine, isn't. and it is also sometimes because they don't understand depression, and how it affects different people
NoPhunIntended
December 16th, 2015 12:18am
There are many people who lie about being depressed now-a-days for multiple reasons (attention mostly) - and it makes it hard to believe that some people are actually depressed. If you truly are depressed make sure you get help from close friends or family.
Andrewcash
December 16th, 2015 3:05am
a lot of people who don't believe that is because they dont think depression exists in general for the most part because they never experienced it them self's
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 6:26am
Nobody assumes a person is depressed because depression is silent. There's no fevers, no rashes, no blood test to prove it.. No amount of money of fame can fix it. It's a constant battle with yourself everyday. If only people could run their fingers through our soul, feel exactly what we feel, perceive as we perceive, look .. & experience what depression actually feels like for once. Many people have no clue on what depression is like which is why many people won't believe you're depressed.. Since it's not an "obvious" disorder.
softWings19
December 16th, 2015 12:36pm
Usually people think that when others say "I'm depressed" they're exaggerating or trying to get attention.
nothingisforever91
December 16th, 2015 1:25pm
Yeah, there are many cases where others dont believe that when some one say that they are depressed because of many reasons.. Like they havent seen you depressed before or they do not have knowledge regarding depression that this can occur to anyone. And another thing is when we meet people we act like everything is good. So when we even say that we are depressed they dont believe easily.
TopHattedTeaMan
December 16th, 2015 4:32pm
Because many people think it is due to attention seeking, You need to express it is a genuine feeling and not for attention.
IreKat
December 16th, 2015 6:20pm
People cannot understand our feelings and situation sometimes.. Or we cannot explain it well to them. When we say to others we are depressed they may find it hard to understand and believe us. Sometimes if we try to open up a bit more or to explain what makes us depressed they may understand and believe us.
CharlotteNoir
December 16th, 2015 10:34pm
For me, it was always important growing up in my family to never show your negative emotions and to sweep everything under the carpet. I learned to smile, laugh, and generally look "OK" even when I wasn't feeling my best. When depression hit, those who were close to me didn't initially believe me because I "Looked fine" and Acted fine". It wasn't until I was officially diagnosed that people took it seriously.
GemmaPearson
December 17th, 2015 4:12am
Some people have no understanding of what depression looks like or even what it really is. Although there may be many levels of depression, at its most basic level, there are two forms of depression: functional and non-functional. Generally people with functional depression feel depressed on the inside, but are still able to function in daily life such as going to work, taking care of the house, personal hygiene, shopping for groceries, etc. People who are non-functional can barely get out of bed. They sleep a whole lot, or sometimes too little. Leaving the house for food shopping, or any reason, is an humongously difficult task. Cooking, cleaning and housekeeping are nearly impossible. They can go many days or weeks without showering. Basically, they want the world to go away. I don't know which one you are, but if the are among the first group, it may be hard for people to recognize that you are depressed. You also should consider the notion that the people around you don't belive in depression. They may believe that depression is something you can "think" your way out of. This is the positive thinking idea that rarely helps people with depression. You need a person in your life who believes you and takes your feelings seriously. You might need a therapist in your life, because you shouldn't have to deal with these feelings alone.
endlessdreamer99
December 17th, 2015 4:21am
Because depression doesn't leave a physical mark, it is a chemical imbalance in the brain and even people who have great lives can get it. Most people don't understand how depression works
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 6:23am
Many people are unable to see from anyone else's perspective except their own. This may cause the individual to compare his or her personal conflicts with yours--and in that individual's mind, he or she may not be able to understand where you are coming from. You have the right to your emotions--but you have the right to seek and conquer happiness. Own what you feel and seek any help you may need to find your road to recovery.
JoeMarlo
December 17th, 2015 6:44am
Many people who have never experienced depression or dont want to acknowledge yours might hide behind disbelief. This is common with parents who refuse to believe that their child is depressed, in doing this and denouncing your depression they are however only making it worse as the best thing a depressed person can do is reach out and seek help. Try being entirely open, serious and forthright about the whole situation and consider seeking professional help for a definite diagnosis and undeniable fact.
KRN
December 17th, 2015 9:55am
Depression is not a joke or something you can just tell of whenever your tired or exhausted. Sometimes we should also evaluate ourselves if we're really depressed or just tired, exhausted or other than that.
wishfulLove13
December 17th, 2015 9:49pm
Why does nobody believe I'm depressed? often people have a hard time believing others are depressed because either they can't empathize with the situation, have never dealt with this before, or have a hard time imagining someone like you would be depressed. Those people can often believe that because they made a joke that was taken the wrong way, or ignored what some would see as obvious, they're a bad person and caused your depression. This may or may not be the case, but regardless, it can be difficult for everyone involved. In conclusion, if you're struggling with depression and nobody believes you, it's helpful to explain as much as you can and state how you feel, not what others are doing. If you don't believe someone is depressed, try to see their point of view and understand their perspective, and ask how they're feeling. Often times, a listener is all we need to feel better.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 1:06am
Some people might be suffering from depression themselves, some people are lacking in empathy or have too much going on in their own lives to consider anyone else. Some people do not know how to relate to someone who is sad. The aforementioned people are not necessarily uncaring sometimes it depends on what the person is going through in their own personal life. If things are piling up on them they may not be able to help anyone else.
Islah
December 18th, 2015 1:08am
Often times, if you were always happy and outgoing before feeling depressed, it may be hard for some people to understand why you had such a sudden switch in mood. It may have been gradual for you, but for them, it feels like it happened very suddenly, so that may be hard to believe at first. Other times, adults don't like to take teenagers (if that is your situation) serious about depression, but that's not good. You are entitled to your feelings, and you deserve to feel sadness as well as happiness. Stay strong!
Heidi91
December 18th, 2015 1:55am
Some people have a very hard time in seeing mental illnesses in the same light as physical illnesses. If you break your arm, or have a flu, someone can see the effects right in front of them. Since a mental illness isn't easily able to be seen directly (although believe me, there are definitely effects that are not only mental) these people have a hard time believing that they're real. Also, sometimes people may not "seem" depressed- you may be feeling it all on your conscious, but many people who do not experience depression themselves automatically associate it with being visibly sad, crying, moping around, and not wanting to talk to anyone. Not everyone who is depressed expresses all of these symptoms, and not all of them are so physical, so some people may not understand that depression is more than what they initially think of it. It's important to understand, for yourself, that there are a lot of people who do understand depression, and who will believe you, and that you don't need to feel like no one believes you, as there's a whole community here that will.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 7:48am
People think depression is a feeling. Depression is an illness that can kill, has killed, and unfortunately will kill again.
amazingHeart17
December 18th, 2015 4:03pm
A lot of times people don't want to fully believe someone who says they are depressed because sadly it is not taken as seriously as many other mental illnesses. When someone says they are depressed, many people who do not have experience with depression believe that they are just saying they are sad, when in reality there is so much more to depression than just sadness.
justcallmemissgrayson
December 20th, 2015 5:28am
Sometimes, people really don't expose their depression, and they lead people to believe they're okay. And because the general stereotype on a depressed person is that they're constantly talking about being sad and living in the doldrums, society doesn't really view a person who looks okay on the outside as depressed.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 7:36pm
Some people tend to not believe other's when they are dealing with the same thing, and are dealing with it differently then other.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 8:03am
There isn't a one size fits all definition for what depression looks like. It can manifest itself in so many different ways that it can be hard to tell.