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Why I don't have any friends?

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Last Updated: 02/23/2021 at 8:01am
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Top Rated Answers
Leeozzz
September 14th, 2015 4:54pm
Because you haven't found them yet, That's the easy answer. It can be really hard to find people who you like and who like you. Being a good friend with someone is alot more special than most people think. You'll find someone it just takes time. In my experince though no friends is better than bad friends.
peacefulSoul47
May 30th, 2016 5:50am
You haven't found your tribe yet, dear one. There are over 7 billion people on this planet. You will find those you vibe with. How? Do things you love. Learn and master things you are interested in. Don't be afraid to delight in places and foods and events and hobbies that bring you joy. You'll be a magnet for those who are just like you and are looking for you to add to their tribe.
demonhunterkaz2y5
December 14th, 2015 10:24pm
because you are too awesome for them
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 7:48pm
I once felt like that. It will be okay. This is your mind telling you this. It is manipulation. It is not what is really happening. You do have friends.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2016 2:56pm
That is not an easy question to answer because there are many reason why someone may not have friends. People are unique just like the answer to such a question depends greatly on the individual.
gigantIceCream37
May 22nd, 2015 8:30pm
Possibly because you are too shy or embarrased to take the iniciative to cope up at socializing. Don't think it is hard because it'll be hard even if it is you have to think of it as if natural even if you are awkward.
caringIceCream67
January 5th, 2016 2:29am
Many dosent have frnds... well few reasons which I found is that They dont socialise, They may not be in a similar character group They are forcing themselves to be like others...which makes it even more harder... Now the easiest way to make frnds is to not be judgmental and love everyone. Stop trying to find fault in others
KatieWhite
April 19th, 2016 1:00am
People tend to like people similar to them, or someone they have something in common with. Sometimes you have to let people know alittle about you to find those common interests. And sometimes they only see your differences. Friends can be hard to come by but all relationships take time.
Lebanese
June 7th, 2015 7:50pm
Friends are like a glove and its matching hand. As you might know, not all gloves fit on all hands, and similarly, not all people are friends. That's completely normal, for people who do not share common interests. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that for people to get along, they must agree on every thing. However, it's common for friends to have similar interests. The reason you think you don't have any friends is because you still haven't found people who share your interests, who have a passion for the same things as you. I'm not saying it's easy, but if you search in the right places, be it online or in the real world, you will find people who share your interests and you'll be friends in no time!
ZooeyGlassZorba
May 30th, 2016 5:42pm
There can be a number of reasons for this. Growing up we're lead to believe friendship is easy and natural but really it's something to work for and pay attention to. It takes time and efforts on both sides to keep the relationship going. Also when you're not forced to spend several hours a day with the same people, friendship is harder to find. You have to look for potential candidates yourself instead of choosing your closest deskmate. And that's when you're not suffering from mental illnesses that makes it even harder to be social. All in all it's hard, it's something to be earned by both parties, which is something that few people get. Often time people expect friendship to come their way almost by accident when I really think you have to look for it and take care of it to sustain it.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2015 6:59am
That's because you haven't found the people you click with yet. Friendships can't be forced. It takes time and care.
ForeverFlaming
December 7th, 2015 8:23am
Trying to get friends is hard, believe me I know. But don't get sad over that. The good people that you are ment to be friends with haven't arrived yet. Maybe all you have to do is take the first step in greeting people and hey, maybe then you'll have friends! :)
Norma777
November 17th, 2015 7:39am
Perhaps you don't make yourself noticeable and you are shy or push people away. Try to connect with people and let them in, but if someone tells you something you have done and don't like, correct it, forgiveness is awesome
Anonymous
September 29th, 2015 7:01pm
Well.. Having friend is really a boon.. But formal relation with them are hurting coz as we go on expecting much its been hurting.. No one comes near in your pains.. They are for just hi n hello.. Or they have their prior things rather than me.. N i am self sensitive to not hold on people like that..
caringBerry61
September 1st, 2020 10:52pm
We create our experiences through the words we say. Positive experiences arise from positive words. Having no friends could be one consequence of something that happened in the past related to friendship or to a friendly relation which has ended negatively. It's not easy to answer to such a generic question anyway. Having no friends could depend upon so many different causes and not all of them could be related to something we did or something we said. One thing is for sure: we shouldn't look for friends to avoid loneliness or to replace a state of mind which is somehow painful. Friendship is such an important part of human life that cannot be the life jacket of our problems.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2018 11:26am
You just have to get out there and meet people. You wont make any friends by sitting in bed! Just go meet people!
Rooibos14
February 23rd, 2021 8:01am
Perhaps you haven't found the right group of friends for yourself. It's not that you are not friend-worthy, perhaps you are more particular about who you want to spend your time with. That's okay! You don't want to be surrounded by people that don't respect you and accept you, those are not really the people you should call friends. My suggestion, go to the places or websites that draw like minded individuals and see where it goes. Perhaps you like the arcade or you enjoy to gym? Finding people with similar interests makes it easier to find friends.