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Why me?

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Last Updated: 07/14/2020 at 1:54pm
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Jennifer Fritz, LMSW, PhD

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

Day to day life can be stressful and overwhelming and my strength is assisting my clients in a supportive, empowering and practical manner.

Top Rated Answers
positiveWhisper24
March 15th, 2015 9:35pm
A friend of mine, who incidentally has also experienced suicidal feelings, once told me this: "When you feel depressed or anxious, congratulate yourself. You have now joined the club of anybody who has ever made a difference in the world."
Jadie
December 4th, 2014 12:11am
Because you are strong enough to take on the challenge, and you are the one who can decide the next steps to take.
Erynn
November 21st, 2014 9:58am
Typically, this question is asked from a place of emotional distress and pain. So, while I can't understand what you are going through from this brief question, I can just say that everyone on 7Cups is here for you, and hoping you make it through this pain as quickly and safely as possible.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 4:33pm
This is a question I've been asking myself, too. People often ask me how it feels, saying that they don't understand. It feels sad that I'm alone in this.
withyou
November 21st, 2014 2:06pm
Why me? I think at some point all come to wonder about this. There is no why. There is no one above that takes aim and chooses you. And if there were, he does it because you know that you can go through it.
strawberryTime87
June 6th, 2016 3:24pm
this could be taken two ways. 1st why me in the bad cases and 2nd why me in good cases. the reason is simple because you are you. There are many great people in this world but there isn't somebody like you. You are you. That what makes you. That what makes you get to do what you should do, in bad cases, you get to feel bad because you have your strength to face it by your own style. You are you. You could find somebody who has some hobbies and favourite songs but your personality and what you have in your mind make you, you.
Puffin
November 23rd, 2014 11:35am
This depends on what your believes are. You can think about things like Karma or just bad luck and so on. But in the end, it's really hard to find out why it is you and not somebody else. And I think it's more important to look how you can overcome your problems.
RobynCares
December 24th, 2014 9:06pm
Why you? Nobody knows for sure. Just like we don't know why some people get cancer. Just like we don't know why some people trip and fall and break their leg. But whoever it is-you, me, them-recovery is possible. Happiness is possible.
Iamwithyou
November 22nd, 2014 8:53am
Because our life goes through different experience and this world is like a school we came here to learn and master in one particular thing, have you ever asked yourself the same question when something good happens to you so why not to confront bad things in life
Haleybcash
December 6th, 2014 6:23pm
A lot of people ask themselves' questions like these. Just know that no matter what you're gong through. You are not alone. People, most of the time, don't realize just ow many people are going through the same situation. But I promise you can get through it :)
dapperTurtle853
April 24th, 2018 4:32pm
I'm struggling with this myself right now. But if you're lost, reach for help. Please. Sometimes help is closer than you know. Know that you are loved and others do indeed care.
adaptiveHeart70
November 22nd, 2016 10:43pm
Being a listener has helped me battle my depression and anxiety. It also helps me to see positivity in every person i talk to. I am able to help people who have been through things by empathising with them. It helps me grow as an individual when i listen to the problems of others and try and help them.
Bubbyduckie
December 16th, 2014 10:28pm
Everything happens for a reason as some people say. But I just like to go with the flow, and know that if I stay positive with everything, that if you keep your head up and find something that makes you happy, you should be fine
trisjlistens
August 3rd, 2015 10:19am
Why me? I'm not sure if this is a positive question, but if it is then my answer is because I believe in myself and I always will.
Anonymous
November 13th, 2018 6:04pm
Good question. It's because it's gotta happen to someone. Let's take car crashes for example. They happen. All the time. And that won't stop for quite a while. There will always be someone who experiences something bad, loosing someone they love, or getting an injury that is so bad that it reaches a point where you feel like you can't live a descent life, or being born a certain way that makes you different, and unfourtunately, that's you. We can all ask ourselves this. No matter who we are. And the answer, "It has to happen to someone" is sadly, the truth. But still, even if you're given that answer, you still have this lingering question inside you that sounds; "WHY ME?". Exactly...the same question is still there. Even with that answer, the question still feels unanswered. That's why you could also say that there is no answer to the question "Why me?". However, there are answers to other questions, like "What now?", "How can i prevent things like that happening again, to me or others?", "Who should i talk to?" "When should i move on?". These questions all have an answer, and if you can manage to focus on and find these answers, you will be able to move away from the unanswerable question "Why me?".
heartfulleigh60
August 31st, 2015 4:40pm
Ah, I know this question well. It's easy to dip into the "victim" role when we are at a loss for answers. I often find it's best to reframe this question, as it will only enable us to dwell on the circumstance at hand instead of changing it. I have found it easier to see each of these inquiries as an opportunity to change something.
JayeYa
July 12th, 2018 11:11am
Because you are strong enough to face this challenge. You will never encounter a challenge that you cannot overcome.
BeeboIsQueen
March 12th, 2019 3:07am
Many people find themselves asking the age-old question, "why me?", typically in the lower points of their life. It's true, life isn't fair. It has many ups and downs, and it can be an incredible experience at times. It can also be an awful experience. Some people are even guilty for feeling bad because other people 'have it worse'. While it may be true that other people are in worse physical or mental condition, it doesn't mean that we should ignore our own issues- if we aren't strong ourselves, then we won't be able to help others. Yes, bad things do happen, but those bad experiences make the good ones that much more beautiful. Most people don't deserve the suffering they get, but that suffering can be turned around in such a positive way. It gets better
Anonymous
January 7th, 2015 10:25am
Why not you? Whatever you are going through it is making you an stronger individual. Just because you see no point of the pain that you are feeling, does not mean later that you are thankful that you went through it.
WhatTheCupcake2
December 1st, 2015 9:03am
Because you are an individual, bad and good things are bound to happen eventually, the good things will make you happy and the bad things are learning experience.
niceSun56
June 5th, 2018 9:46pm
I've asked myself this often. My answer: to rise above it, move through it, be stronger, be better.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2015 1:34am
that is question I have been seeking for...We don't know how people are. Everyone is different and can't be perfect according to. Everyone goes through same stage where they bumped into something and that makes them fall but then they learn to get up and not make the same mistakes again. Learn something but never do it again to hurt other people. Be nice and do good to people. Learn to give but expect in return as expectations hurts....Why me? It's a question only ..not any answer....
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2018 3:04am
They chose you because of the personality traits you show others that they like and think you are the best person to confront to first.
FriendlyFangirl
June 17th, 2015 11:55pm
Why anybody? Think of it like a story. Characters can't develop and grow without hardships, and after facing hard times, you come out stronger and more confident! Pressure is what turns coal into diamonds.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2016 1:58am
You are not alone. 16 million adults are affected by depression every year, and I promise, that there will always be someone there to help you through it.
HelloItsFire
June 13th, 2016 8:26am
Because you are strong enough to handle this. Because you will not give up. Because you believe in yourself. If you don't think it applies to you now, it will.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2016 5:04pm
Everything that happens helps us become strong you havev to use it as a learning experience and let it not hold you back
Anonymous
July 14th, 2020 1:54pm
Its because you are in control over all elements in your life.you may not have much control right now but you do to some extent have some power over things.To be honest honestly only you can change your own life.you will go through quite a lot of tricky situations and only you know what you have truly been through.How you view situations will be bespoke to you, what you like and dislike and what brings you joy and what makes you feel sad and dissapointed is unique to you and you probably know yourself better than anyone else here, if you have the most knowledge then you probably have the most power to change yourself