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Will I ever find a therapy that works for me?

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Last Updated: 03/24/2020 at 3:40am
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Stacey Kiger, LPC

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My belief is that therapy is not about giving advice, but joining you on your journey

Top Rated Answers
March 26th, 2015 4:08pm
Yes! I know it's hard to believe but there is a therapy out there perfect for you, everyone has something that works well for them and you'll find yours. Just don't give up
April 18th, 2015 7:13pm
a seeker always meant to find what they seek for keep looking you feel happy when you finds it .:) Cheers
August 18th, 2015 3:02am
You will! Sometimes it takes only one try, sometimes it takes a couple, and sometimes it takes a dozen! Every therapist is different and has a different method, and it can be challenging to find the person who's best suited to you. But keep trying--it's well-worth it in the end!
November 2nd, 2015 7:25pm
One can never tell the future for certain... but what is certain is that if you haven't found one that works yet, and you stop looking, then no, you will not find a therapy that works! When I first tried therapy I just assumed they are experts and I just show up and do what they suggest. This isn't really true! My first therapist, a psychiatric resident, talked to me weekly for many months. I felt good about going but it didn't seem to do much, and eventually we tried meds, which did a little but not much. When her residency ended I didn't continue therapy and quit meds. A few years later I got more serious. I saw a psychologist my insurance would cover. I assumed, he is the expert... just do what he says and it will be OK. As we reached the end of the number of sessions insurance would cover I realized - this hasn't done much for me. So I walked away. A little while later, I got even more serious. I read about how to find a therapist. I learned that finding a good fit is important. I learned how to interview a therapist - to ask questions about the approaches they use (this should not be a mystery!). And actually, I had my wife make the calls, which proved significant because one person on my list asked why she was calling. When they learned it was my fear of calling strangers I got a referral to someone who does CBT for social phobia (even though I called about depression). That changed everything! I worked in a very focused and effective way on attacking both problems, and every step of the way I understood what we were doing and why. The bottom line, I'd say, if that you will find a therapy that works if you are persistent, trust yourself (if it doesn't feel right it probably isn't; don't second-guess your feelings too much!) and ask potential therapists to explain what they are doing and why. It's perfectly appropriate and normal to "interview" potential therapists - as professionals, they should not have any problem fielding your questions, explaining their therapeutic approach, etc. And you (or someone) is paying a lot of money for the work, so you're entitled to know what they're offering!
November 17th, 2015 3:33pm
You may have to look and try out a lot of different therapies (I know I did) but eventually I'm sure you'll find the right fit for you. Best of luck.
May 24th, 2016 1:12pm
Of course you will! There are so many different versions, because everyone is thinking differently. You´ll find one, and i think it´s great that you wanna start a therapy :) Good luck
November 14th, 2017 8:34am
Sometimes finding the right fit can be hard. It may take one, two or several different therapies until you find one that works for you.
January 10th, 2015 7:04pm
That depends; as there many different types of therapy. For me personally, I have found that therapy combined with my medications and coping skills has helped me remain strong and ready to tackle life's challenges.
April 11th, 2015 8:45pm
It's not so much about finding a therapy that works for you as much as a therapist. :] No matter how good a therapist you may have, if you do not feel comfortable talking to them, or do not like them, then there's nothing they can really do. So you keep looking. You can also try one or two beggining sessions just to see if you like the therapist befor esettling on them.
May 8th, 2015 2:52pm
for me it took years to find the right therapy i was tested by my iq to my adhd im only 16 but i have found the right one for me so just keep trying i know you will found what fits you best ~deanna
June 22nd, 2015 10:37am
If you look look hard enough in the right places, you should find therapy that meets your needs and your schedules needs. You may have to do some experimenting though with different therapists. Go out on a limb to see what works for you.
August 18th, 2015 9:04pm
Finding a therapy that works for you can be really difficult - it took me a long time to even just own up to the fact that I had any problems, and finding a type of therapy/medication combination that worked for me was even harder. The most important thing in my experience is find someone you can trust who has an objective view of your situation - whether that be a therapist or a school guidance counselor. I happened to confide in my school guidance counselor, and she really helped me through a lot of issues. The search can be long and tedious but in the end it's definitely worth it.
December 7th, 2015 3:42pm
Therapy is not for everyone, and it is entirely possible that you are not one of those people! However many different therapists use different styles and it is important to find one that fits you well!
February 29th, 2016 11:49am
Of course, I believe that every problem has a solution. You will find a therapy that'll work for you.
March 14th, 2016 2:08am
This is a great question! There are different kinds of therapies, and they work differently for each person. The only way to know if a therapy will work for you is by giving it a chance and understanding it could take some time to work. It may not get better with therapy right away, so patience is important. If you need support during that time, reaching out to support system can be helpful whether it's talking to your listeners or family or friends. Because you shouldn't have to go through this alone.
March 14th, 2016 6:09pm
yes, i have found therapy myself happens!!! just trust your therapist, be honest with yourself you can do it.
March 21st, 2016 6:05pm
I'd bet on it! Of course, the only way that you'll ever find out is to keep trying, and to never give up. Sometimes, treatments fail, but you can't let that discourage you from wanting to get better. This may involve even trying old treatments that failed, because maybe they'll work now; a person can never step into the same river twice, so too are we constantly changing with the passage of time.
April 12th, 2016 5:49am
Absolutely. It may take time but go out and try a few. You may Ind out that say, for ex; group therapy works best for you
May 17th, 2016 9:14pm
Yes you will just keep looking and ask for help finding the perfect one. It can be very hard to find the right one
June 27th, 2016 3:17am
It sounds like you're experiencing some frustration. That sounds really tough. How have you been doing recently?
September 19th, 2016 6:53pm
Eventually something will work. I tried everything that worked for my friends and the people around me and I found it really frustrating that it didn't work for me too but I was eager to find it and I eventually did. You just need to have faith.
November 20th, 2017 7:42am
Yes you definitely will. So many people care and will be willing to listen, you just have to seek the help you need.
January 8th, 2018 3:01am
It can take a lot of hard work to find the right therapy, but persistence does pay off. It may take several tries to find the right methods that work for you, because you are a unique human being with unique challenges. Rest assured that with diligence and persistence you will find what works for you.
January 8th, 2018 7:21am
Most likely, yes. Whilst also looking at the type of therapy it's important to consider the therapist themselves :)
April 2nd, 2018 2:47am
Yes! Therapy can be hard sometimes, but each therapist is different. My first few therapists didn't work for me because I couldn't relate to them on a personal level. After I spent time looking into therapists and their personalities, I had much more success. I was able to connect and talk about things that we both understood rather than having to explain every little detail. I was also much more committed to trying to make therapy work - nothing will come out of it if the therapist does all the work. Therapy can be hard, but eventually it pays off. Best of luck!
March 24th, 2020 3:40am
Yes, but to do this you need to find what you believe in first. What you believe in, will be the one that works best for you. Even take the 'placebo effect' for example. It works because the mind believes in it. The mind is very powerful and to know what works for you, you need to know your self really well and be open to new possibilities. Sometimes therapy can be be writing, reading, meditating, praying, connecting with people and more. Know your self and you will discover what works best for you! The mind is the ultimate key to success. You must be self aware.