How do I let go and move on?
Last Updated: 07/13/2020 at 7:59am
Jackie Dross, M.S. Community Counseling
I have a passion for working with people from a non-judgmental, strengths based approach to meet their goals for personal growth.
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The way I let go and move on- is by learning to accept that the future holds many opportunities. There is not only one of anything. Lose your job/career? There's another. Lose your partner? There'll be someone else waiting to know and hold your heart. Lose your house/apartment? There are other spaces in the same and other locations. Don't be afraid to go live away from your familiarity! Don't be afraid to grow.
I found the best way to let go of my thoughts from the past was to recognise that I am forever changing and growing. So by holding on to things that have happened to a different version of myself I wasn’t allowing myself to be true to the person I am today. Moving on is hard when you seem to prefer the past version of your reality, just know it’s normal to struggle with letting go. It’s in our human nature to hold on to things that once gave us comfort or brought us happiness. We can start to believe that this is the only way to be happy again but that isn’t true. Happiness is always within us and not actually tied to the things happening around us.
you have to accept it and think of positive like the lesson you learnd. it's good to let go and move on. just remember it takes time
Time; keep busy; things that use to eat at me years ago or even weeks ago now seem so much less. I know it's hard but you have to redirect your mind to think about something else, for me it's keeping busy. Yes my mind still will drift to it but over time I realize it crosses my mind less and def upsets me even less than it did before.
Keep on moving. Don't cling on to the past. Meditate and take time out to reflect. You will find closure once you have gone through the process and you will be able to move on and let go of the things which hurt you the most.
I find that getting involved in other things helps me to distract and create new habits. When I do this often enough, I typically move on. And, I try to remind myself that moving on does not mean forgetting--it simply means choosing to focus on other things.
Think positive, friend. It's your life and I believe in you. There are times where things may seem bleak, but you can do it.
Trying to keep your mind diverted and getting engaged in other activities allow you to let go and move on with the time. With persistent efforts, you would be able to do it. But, you also need to accept the fact that you can't hold someone for too long. If he left, then it was not in your control. And you could focus more on what you can actually control.
I would say that sometimes thing happen instantly other times things take longer. There is no set timeline for feelings. Sometimes you need to get over it on your own time. The thing is you do have a choice in actions and what you do. So maybe if you figure out that you did everything to make it work and there is still no improvement maybe then you can decide that its best that you both move on. In my opinion you can start doing things you enjoy in life and enjoy life as much as you can as you heal.
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