If I tell someone about what happened, will they try to make me relive it?

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Katheryn
September 14th, 2014 4:22pm
I think it depends on how you feel about it and what is best for you. Many times talking about what happened and working through it is a great way to move forward from what was done to you or from what happened. But you might not be ready to do that yet, and we can work together to create a safe environment and work through the events in a way that you feel comfortable.
Anonymous
October 5th, 2014 3:59am
The person might ask about the experience, but will never ask more than you are comfortable sharing. An active listener should never make you feel uncomfortable in sharing.
smileitswhit
October 19th, 2014 10:45pm
Maybe, but if they try to it's the point you need to walk away. If you aren't comfortable with discussing then you shouldn't. but sometimes talking with a professional or someone close helps you get better and be okay with whatever happened.
Casryn86
October 23rd, 2014 8:35am
7 Cups of Tea is not meant to force you into reliving any experience you do not wish to. If you want to talk about what happened, then we are happy to listen. If you would rather not, that's okay too!
HerforU2580
October 23rd, 2014 2:49pm
what do you mean relive it you must have had some kind of trauma that you fear reliving it . You may have to so that you can better understand what has happened
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 4:31pm
I wouldn't try to make you relive it, so if I were you I'd try to tell someone. If they do, tell them you're not comfortable with that.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2014 3:11am
I do not believe they will do that. You are coming to them so they shouldn't expect you to do anything in return.
emergeintolight
November 10th, 2014 5:28am
Although reliving it could potentially help with the healing process, if you don't feel comfortable doing so, they won't make you.
ListenAdviceSupport
November 12th, 2014 4:33pm
Not always! Sometimes talking about problems can help you release a lot of stress and worry, but there are ways of going through this without having to 'relive' the situation.
optimisticSnow80
November 14th, 2014 11:11am
That depends. If you are referring to a traumatic event, there are many therapies that can be prescribed by a psychotherapist. The therapist will not make you relive it in vivid detail, but they will want you to talk about what happened to find the cause of the distress.
Pandette
November 18th, 2014 5:49am
I don't think they would make you relive it. Some people find that to be beneficial because they can figure out what part of the incident bothers you the most. I do not think they would put you in the same situation, but they may get you to speak about it. The thing is, every therapist is different and you can always tell them if you are comfortable or not with this.
chenrezig
November 18th, 2014 4:28pm
It depends entirely upon whether you want to relive it. I feel a good listener should leave that option open to the member. A listener may ask you if you want to talk about an issue from the past but if you dont want to you shouldnt feel pushed into doing it.
Alwaysdreamin
March 27th, 2015 4:30pm
Not necessarily, only it you want to. It depends on who you tell, but it is good that you are reaching out to others for support. Do you think that living in the past is helpful? My personal opinion is that we need to acknowledge our past and how it is affecting us today, but to live in the present. Hope this is helpful. Thank you for reaching out and talking about your issue. You are very brave and this will help others who may have gone through the same experience. Do you think you should only relive it if you choose? Possibly you could set boundaries with the person you are talking with and do what you feel is most helpful to you.
thisismejessica
May 30th, 2015 5:25am
It seems like what happened is really affecting you and hurting you. Every day, even when you don't talk about it, you are reliving it in your mind. To tell someone you can trust means to have someone to walk alongside you. When you relive this experience with someone you trust, you know you are in the safe place and there's someone next to you to journey with you through it.
Em
July 27th, 2015 2:42am
They might ask you to tell you more about it, but it's completely up to you, and you are always welcome to stop them and say that you're feeling like you're reliving that moment when you're repeating it, and that's triggering you. That's more than acceptable to say :)
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 5:37am
It all depends on the person. Only tell people you feel comfortable with, if you fear that they will hurt you, maybe get to know them a little more or test the waters. There will always be someone there to support you, and people who won't make you relive your awful past. But if you do end up feeling uncomfortable or even betrayed, seek help and keep a tight support network.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2018 1:07am
Only you can make yourself relive whatever happened in your life. If you choose to tell someone whatever it is that happened, you can go with saying that this happened, but you do not wish to relive it through too many details. You have nothing to be sorry for for not wanting to go back through whatever the situation was again - you have to be the one to look out for yourself and your own mental health and happiness. However depending on who you tell and what it is, it might be best to let yourself relive the event with the help and support of someone you trust.