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My parents used to fight a lot. It got very physical at times and I always get very anxious when they even argue a little. How do I start to trust them again?

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Last Updated: 02/01/2021 at 4:21pm
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March 4th, 2015 2:16pm
Try to speak to your parents about it when they are alone in separate rooms. Tell them you want to talk to them at the dining table (example: Mom, Dad may I speak with you both at dinner tonight?) Inform them about how you feel and that you are not comfortable with them fighting. Hopefully this helped. ^-^
March 4th, 2015 5:01pm
When starting to trust your parents again, you could try talking to them both individually about why they've been fighting with each other and what always seems to cause it and then once you get an answer, you could try telling them how it's made you feel to show what impact they have put on you from doing this to each other.
March 31st, 2015 6:37pm
you should talk to them about how you feel. every makes mistakes you should learn to trust them again after all they are you parents
May 25th, 2015 12:08pm
I think communication is the best way forward. Have you tried talking to them and telling them how you feel when you see them argue? Telling them kindly and not when they are arguing, but when they are calm, may get them to think that you are affected by it in a negative way. Would that be acceptable by them, if you told them?
June 29th, 2015 5:22pm
It's best to tell your parents they stress you out. Sometimes, you have to move out the way while they are arguing. But, if they haven't been fighting recently, and it's not as bad as it used to be, you should try to do fun activities with them. It will draw you all closer as a family.
February 2nd, 2016 6:43pm
Maybe try to talk to them about how you feel. You could also use a codeword for when you feel anxious when they argue.
June 16th, 2015 4:22am
Puedes entablar pequeñas conversaciones con ellos y decirles como te sientes. Pasar tiempo con ellos y demostrarles tu amor.
September 21st, 2015 8:11pm
You can talk to them about how you feel. You can also talk with a trusted adult like a family friend or relative about your feelings. Good Luck
February 1st, 2021 4:21pm
Discussing your concerns with your parents may be something to consider. Your feelings of distrust and anxiety are completely valid and reasonable. What you have endured was traumatic and I'm sorry you had to experience it. A seven cups therapy referral may be beneficial but family intervention may also help. Trust after trauma can take a lot of time and effort to rebuild. Patience is key and so is communication. Seven cups always has a listener ready and available to help you. Try to remember that although things may have calmed down now that they might not always be this way. Do they know how you feel? If they don't know they may not know the distress it has caused you.