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What does it mean when my dad is beating me, but says he loves me?

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Last Updated: 09/22/2020 at 3:47pm
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Lieke
February 19th, 2015 6:29pm
If someone is beating you, that is abuse. Sometimes people can be abusive, even though they might care for you. However, abuse is inexcusable. It is not a healthy form of communication, and it can be quite damaging on the long run. Because this issue is so serious, you might consider finding help outside of this forum. Please consult this website to learn more about abuse and get the help you need.
Kit23
July 26th, 2016 2:20pm
It's called abuse because that's not love he doesn't need to beat his child to show love............
bluelion97
April 30th, 2015 11:15am
Probably, I think he cannot control his angry. That's what makes him beat you when his angry shows up. But inside him, there is big love for you.
VelvetDreams29
September 22nd, 2020 3:47pm
Sometimes, parents hit us out of love, in order to discipline us so that we know not to repeat the same mistake again. However, in case a parent physically injures their child too much or out of pure sadism, It says that their love is warped. If a person truly loves you, they won't harm you. His idea of love is more like attachment or a feeling that he has complete control of you and therefore thinks it is his right to treat you in whichever way you want. He treats you like a possession or any material object that he might own.
thisismejessica
May 30th, 2015 5:21am
It is very confusing for someone to beat you and tell you he loves you. I just wanna say that it is not fair for you to receive double messages like this, and to be treated like this. If you are a minor, I encouraged you to talk to an adult which you can trust (e.g. grandparents, teachers, counselor) about this situation.
Anonymous
February 19th, 2015 6:49pm
Abuse is not a valid way of showing that you love someone. I understand how hard it is to talk to someone when being abused but its very important that you speak to somebody you trust so that it stops
PoliteOcean
September 10th, 2015 1:24am
This can be a difficult situation for one to go through. Everyone should know there is a difference between discipline and abuse. If you feel that you are in a situation that you don't understand, perhaps you should seek advice or help from a trusted person or adult.
PashT007
April 7th, 2015 6:13pm
Discipline comes to show you when you are doing wrong versus right; just as we are rewarded for doing right. Discipline is showing love, in the long run because you parent loves you enough to look out for your future. Showing you at a young age could possibly prevent you from getting in some trouble you can't get out of down the line. It's training, thats all.