Who do I get over the feeling of wanting to hurt someone, who hurt me?

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Last Updated: 07/15/2018 at 10:35pm
Who do I get over the feeling of wanting to hurt someone, who hurt me?
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Anonymous - Expert in Disabilities
March 24th, 2015 7:03am
Though the desire to have someone feel the anger or hurt that they have caused you is very tempting sometimes, it is only a temporary salve that will not make you feel any better in the long run. Whenever I feel like this, I'm reminded of a quote which goes 'Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace', which is very true!
LilyFlowers
April 21st, 2015 7:50am
Forgiveness. Letting go. Understanding that hurting them wont help you. Understanding that hurting people hurt people.
Twokindears
March 30th, 2015 5:19am
All actions cause reactions whether they are positive or negative. In life we must move on in order to thrive
Anonymous
September 4th, 2017 10:45pm
Realizing that holding onto the hurt is also hurting you as well. You don't have to forgive and forget, but you have to know when enough is enough and simply let go.
ChangeofPerspective
December 12th, 2017 9:22pm
I make that decision clearly and quickly. Tit for tat can for from blow for blow fairly quickly. My truth is that I won't always get an apology, but it's not my problem. Once I have been hurt to the point that I want to hurt back, I need to walk away for as long as it takes -perhaps forever. My future will not be as bright with dirt on my conscience. They can sleep on that muddy pillow.
Ninafreespirit
May 26th, 2015 7:53am
How do i get over the feeling og wanting to hurt someone, who hurt me? I just learn to accept with time that this person doesnt deserve to have me in his life anymore and that i am better off without him. But once i get the feeling of taking my revenge, i realise i dont have to fall to his level and i simply move on. :)
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 10:35pm
I don't know, but I am in the same boat. I was molested as a child by people who I thought was supposed to take care of me. I was always wonder why I was so suicidal all the time and depress, until I was able to come out to my therapist. It's created a lot of problems between my dad and I. I can't cope with the anger and pain.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 5:20am
Hurting someone else is never the answer. If they hurt you and you are defending yourself, maybe then. If someone hurt you and you're not defending yourself, it's best to tell someone that can do something about the person that hurt you.
PoliteOcean
September 20th, 2015 7:24am
That could be difficult. Especially when you have been hurt. Its easy to want to feel that you need to seek revenge. Perhaps talking to a trusted person about your feelings could help. Not everyone is the same. So you need to find what works for you.
endearingLion70
June 25th, 2018 10:55am
Revenge does not take away your personal pain, thinking of it just takes away from your ability to move on so in a sense you are punishing yourself.