Why couldn't I have done anything?

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Last Updated: 08/13/2019 at 9:20pm
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DipityEnigma
April 16th, 2015 3:49pm
This question is extremely vague. All I can say is, sometimes there is nothing you can do. Things happen, good and bad and you should always try to do what you can do but sometimes, you just need to take what happened as just another piece of experience that you can add to your portfolio and learn from it.
LilyFlowers
May 5th, 2015 6:03am
In life, there are things that we just can't do. We aren't all knowing and all powerful. It's important that we accept that life is what it is, and sometimes there's nothing we can do about it or to change it.
PrincessoftheHighlands
June 9th, 2015 1:52am
Many things are out of our control. As humans, we often want to feel as though we have control over things that we know deep down don't. Control gives us a sense of security, hence why you may feel safe driving behind the wheel of a car but not as safe on a roller coaster. When it's out of your hands, your safety net is taken away and you feel vulnerable. There are many things in life where it's a roller coaster for us and no matter what happens, we can't get off nor are we in control of the loops and sharp turns. Remind yourself that it's okay and not your fault if you couldn't have done anything, no one is blaming you for something out of your hands.
PoliteOcean
September 6th, 2015 8:02pm
It all depends on the situation that you are speaking of. If you feel that you should have done something in a specific situation, perhaps talking with someone who you trust can help you to sort out your feelings.
olimaar
October 26th, 2015 3:23pm
You might have been scared, or feared that your help, wouldn't actually help. Don't blame yourself for not helping others. Everybody gets scared.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 4:42pm
Because what the past have taken is enough for it to move and bring you the present. Never look back, there is always a road ahead to do better if you aim
GentleWaves
July 30th, 2016 1:01pm
Unfortunately sometimes there is really nothing much we can do... sometimes our body reacts by itself, sometimes the situation variables are such that they influence what we can do significantly... we cannot change what happened in the past, but maybe we can change what is happening from that point onwards
purpleRaven76
August 13th, 2019 9:20pm
Oh ... life is like that, as the saying goes. I'm trying to imagine all of the situations that could lead you to ask this question. Is it great grief? Or regret? It's okay for you to feel all of your feelings. It's normal. You will go on, and you will find some of the answers you seek. As to the ultimate answers, there may be none for you. Some might say God willed this or that, others might say God gave them an opportunity to grow as a person. For some, it's simply "the universe" or "fate." Whatever you call your higher power, it can help you find the answers. If you don't believe in a higher power, that's okay, believe in yourself and your own ability to heal, and change and grow. Don't let grief stop you in place. Keep going on. I hope you can find the big answers. Until then, just keep going. Everything changes.