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Why do I always flinch when a man tries to touch me?

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Last Updated: 11/17/2015 at 7:22am
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October 2nd, 2015 7:39am
Memories.They come flooding in.Whenever a man touches you, even if it is as a friend, you expect the worse because either you have seen the result or experienced it, Sometimes, it's just reflex because you feel trouble is nearby
November 10th, 2015 2:47pm
Maybe you have been touched inappropriately before. Maybe someone hurt you. Memories can haunt us, but one day someone will come into your life and they will set your fear free and you'll love to be touched and held by them
March 14th, 2015 4:45am
It may be because of past experiences. Or it may be because you are nervous about something. There are alot of possibilities
November 17th, 2015 7:22am
Well i am a rape victim! so when a man that kinda resembles that person touches me i flinch.......:(
February 17th, 2015 1:20pm
Let me ask you another question ? What do you honestly think of men ? Most of the time we, women, have learned to be very cautious around them because of our education.
August 11th, 2015 8:48pm
It depends on what has happened in your life to condition your mind to associate men with pain or fear. Once the reason is found, the reaction may be able to be over come and for you to not be controlled by negative influences.
August 24th, 2015 7:00am
It could be because of something you went through in the past, it may trigger a memory of something traumatic. In this case you should seek professional assistance to overcome what trauma may be affecting you so it doesn't interfere with having a positive relationship with a man in your life.
July 7th, 2015 3:36pm
You flench every time a man tries to touch you because you may have had a traumatic experience with being raped, or someone close to you had the traumatic experience.
April 9th, 2015 1:54am
Flinching is a natural thing that your body does. But it also depends on if you have been abused or not in your past.
September 8th, 2015 7:48am
Most likely, a man has physically injured you at some point in your life. It is important to identify who hurt you, and when, so that you can overcome this reaction. You may subconsciously believe that men want to hurt you. There are lots of great ways to overcome this. Cognitive and behavioral therapy have been proven to be very useful when overcoming phobias and fears.
September 21st, 2015 2:59am
It could be from past experiences or how you were raised around men.
September 28th, 2015 1:14pm
It could be from past abuse that you experienced or you saw. It could also be that you're nervous around them or it could be both.
September 28th, 2015 10:19pm
There can be many reasons. Negative past experiences that are still with you, fear of what it may mean, unsure of the mans intentions, etc.. I would sit down with myself and try and write down how I feel when it happens and think back to any past negative experiences you may have had. Once you have an idea of what it may be, then you can move forward and find solutions.
October 25th, 2015 3:29am
it might be because of the traumatic event that you had experienced. There will be flashbacks and when a man tries to touch you, you'll flinch because you are thinking that it is happening again and it also makes you remember about the traumatic experience that you just want to forget but you can't