Will talking about what happened make me feel worse?

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ZaraSmiles
March 13th, 2015 1:16am
The initial feelings after talking can vary from person to person. It may seem, at first, then talking about what has happened to you has made you feel worse but after a little while, you may realise that talking about it and expressing your emotions can make you feel a lot better! For some, the relief of talking about what has happened comes instantly. Talking about it and letting out your feelings is part of the recovery process and can help you take steps towards healing.
Jaelin
September 11th, 2014 12:02pm
Talking about what has happened to you can, at first, make you feel a little worse but once you start you can sometimes find that letting your emotions and the experience out and really accepting it can make you feel better and help you to move forward and start healing.
Pandette
November 16th, 2014 8:37am
I think this completely depends on yourself. I mean, in my own experience, many people have told me they always seem to feel worse when discussing it, but over time it made them feel better. That's because the negative thoughts no longer lingered around in their minds! :)
CMThornRose
October 7th, 2014 8:38pm
At first it may do. That's because you will be revisiting the emotions and feeling them again as it's emotional recall. After however, you should feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders and relaxed as you've let everything that you've locked up out.
TheSnowQueen18
November 13th, 2014 1:06pm
I'm just starting some counseling right now, and I can tell you that it might feel worse at first because maybe you haven't talked about what's going on before. It might dredge up a lot of feelings. But then it's going to get so much better, and you'll be so glad you did. (And no matter if you feel bad a lot or not, you will probably feel relief at being able to get it out--I know I did!)
SarahNicole
September 27th, 2014 1:33pm
It honestly could at first. Working through any problem can be intense, but when you get through it and feel as though someone understands you, in the end you will feel better.
Nini108
October 20th, 2014 10:39pm
It can trigger emotions but once you have let these feelings out it can offer release. Telling someone how you feel can release a lot of pressure from you, making you feel more relaxed and calmer than before.
RYBH
October 26th, 2014 10:41pm
Yes and no. Talking things out generally can help almost all people get there emotions of of themselves. So emotionally it might be worse, but on the inside, you won't be keeping anything in anymore.
zara24
October 27th, 2014 11:27am
Absolutely not ! You'll actually feel better by talking to people ! It always feels good to talk to someone like a friend.It refreshes us and may even solve our problems !
BabyPingu
October 27th, 2014 11:14pm
That depends.... Sometimes it does help right away!! For others it takes a few times.. and it takes a bit of time.. because when you talk about things sometimes make you feel worse at first but then most of the time makes you feel better! :)
Miiiranda987
November 9th, 2014 3:56am
Sometimes talking about things that have happened to you do make you feel worse at first, if you have held it in for a long time. That is all part of the recovery process though. You have to feel worse and express your feelings in order to get better.
Simmeh
September 13th, 2014 9:43am
No it always will make me feel more relieved. Talking about your feelings is a amazing way to get things of your chest!
FaeKrieger
September 18th, 2014 8:56pm
While I'm talking about what happened I may feel worse, but getting it out helps my understanding of what happened in the situation and how I should feel about it from an objective point-of-view.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2014 2:52pm
it shall definately make you feel better, talking makes one's emotions flow regardless of what they are.
Sienna
October 18th, 2014 7:56am
No. Talking about whatever had happened will make you feel loads better. It really helps to get everything out.
DeniseZ
October 30th, 2014 7:30pm
It is completely normal to feel a little worse before you feel better, while processing something. Everyone processes feelings differently.
Charity0
November 2nd, 2014 3:08am
This depends on what part of the journey to recovery you are on and also your personality. What is important though to note is even if talking about it does make you feel awful, it is a path you must take at some point to heal your trauma and move on. Whether you do it now or later is totally up to you.
silversphinx1
November 2nd, 2014 7:06pm
No! Talking always makes things clearer in the head. Its even better when you can write things down :)
Anonymous
November 4th, 2014 5:31am
It could. But it also could be liberating. Getting your thoughts out and verbalized can often be helpful in realizing what the root of your problem is.
Wes2
November 4th, 2014 8:59am
It may certainly make you feel upset or cry, but it can only help in the long run. You may even feel an immediate relief, like a weight is lifted off of you. The first step to moving on from something is addressing it. The best way to do this is to vocalize it. Talk to someone you love and trust, or speak privately to a professional.
HeyItsMeLiz
November 9th, 2014 1:11pm
Sometimes, for a while, but getting it out in the open with someone - even if it's someone you don't know, who doesn't know you - will generally help you think it through and come to terms with it.
dma317
November 14th, 2014 9:03am
It might be hard sometimes to talk about things that upset you but in the long run, talking about your feelings and situation can shine some light on the situation at the very least. Sharing with another person is a part of the healing process
M0rningGlory
November 15th, 2014 4:16am
Talking about what happened may make you feel worse initially, but after talking things through you should feel much better. It varies from person to person, but; talking about trauma and emotions is very healthy and a crucial part of the recovery process. It can be scary to talk about things sometimes, but it gets easier with time. Talking about emotions will be easier if you talk about them either in a safe environment, or with somebody that you can trust. It is also important that you start to talk about what happened when you feel personally ready and comfortable with doing so. There's no need to rush yourself.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2014 5:49pm
No, there are people who experienced the same thing as you. Talking could help you feel understand and less alone.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2014 9:54pm
Personally, I believe that talking about what happened will make you feel BETTER. Talking about what happened can help you organize your thoughts, feelings, and emotions as well as help you understand that what happened may have been the worst thing you have ever experienced, but was not the "end." Personally, talking about what has happened to me has allowed me to understand that there are people who UNDERSTAND what I have experienced and can even relate to what I have felt. I Think it is important to be able to talk about what happened so that you do not bottle it all up inside.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2015 11:28pm
For me talking about what happened did make me feel worse, but I am slowly finding it easier to let my emotions out and deal with these feelings. It is different for each person though.
beautifulLight15
March 18th, 2015 6:37pm
It will make you feel better and relieved. If you don't talk about what happened, it can cause panic attacks and could cause you to become distraught or feeling depressed. And, we want everyone to feel happy and not let things bring them down. Because of personal experiences, you can always find answers and do better in life.
Zinnia - Expert in Disabilities
April 9th, 2015 11:39pm
I believe that talking about what's bothering you will actually do more good than bad. By always bottling it up, you can make yourself sick from stress or worry.
LimitedEdition
May 3rd, 2015 4:01pm
In my experience, no! Even if I was the one in the wrong. It feels like a burden is lifted and yeah it still hurts a bit but far less then holding it in.
compassionatePalm07
June 30th, 2015 11:21pm
Talking about what is bothering does not make it worse instead it makes it much better as long as you choose the right person who will not judge you and listen to you. Initially it may feel it will not make it better as you might feel bad while discussing it or may be might be even cry but that is how we vent our feeling. Sharing alays has a positive result as long as we are in the right company.