Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

Of course you are! You should always ask for help as soon as you are comfortable with doing so, whether that be immediately after an incident or ten years later. Being upset is natural and normal, and frankly, you should be upset. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Just the fact that you have found the strength to tell your story is so much by itself. Good luck getting help, and please do so! It'll do so more for you than you think. If you want to chat, I'm always here, and so are the hundreds of thousands of listeners on this website.

Hello! It takes a lot of strength to reach out, so be proud! Honestly speaking, it definitely is allowed to do so. Why? There are hundreds of reasons, if not more. Think of it this way: you got injured, but the injury didn't heal after quite a while (it could be that you felt numb or too overwhelmed at first to notice the pain of the injury, was unsure regarding reaching out, etc.). This injury still hurts and hasn't fully healed—should you go to the doctor or not? You should. Your feelings are completely valid and are indicators of our states. If you haven't 'healed' and started feeling upset, you should get help (even if it's after a long time. There's nothing shameful about it at all). I'm not saying this out of 'kindness' either; sometimes the hurt settles in late or doesn't go away until later, and some other times we aren't able to get ourselves to reach out.

You are absolutely allowed to feel whatever feelings whenever you feel them about any kind of abuse. The time it takes to process our feelings about these things varies from person to person, and sometimes your personal growth will lead you to identify things that were abusive you may not have realized before. When recovering from abuse, the timeline is whatever it is for you. It's yours, not anyone else's. Getting help goes along the same lines. There's never a wrong time to get help and never a wrong time to need it. When you feel you need support, it's the right time. Don't let anyone tell you different. I'm glad you're taking care of you

It is never to late to get help. Only you can decide when the time is right! Whenever you are ready to talk about what you have been through know that help will be there. The fact that you are asking yourself this now is a good sign that you are ready to move forward and get the assistance you need. You are in charge of your feelings and you know what you are ready to talk about. There will never be a right or wrong time to seek help! You will know when the time comes and the resources you need will be there for you.

Of course you can, being upset anytime after an event is normal. Sometimes feelings come or build up over time and can hit you years later, it Is okay to be upset it is natural and sometimes after things happen it doesn't feel right to get help and later it does this is normal and everyone is an individual and it is positive that you feel ready to get help it's a step forward on your journey of healing. Why did you feel you weren't allowed to get help? I hope you feel a bit better after this response?

Yes! Any kind of abuse, especially emotional abuse, takes time to come to terms with and recognize your thoughts and feelings about it. It is very hard to reach out for help, and three years after it happened is still a relatively short period of time between the abuse and reaching out for help. It is a very strong and bold step towards healing and I for one am very proud of you for taking that step. You are very strong for trying to grow and heal from the emotional abuse that you suffered. I am sorry someone treated you that way, and I am very happy you are starting to heal, because choosing to feel those emotions of upsetness are very hard to deal with at times.

There is no time limit for seeking help. Even more so, It's commendable for you to seek help. It must have been difficult to bear it for three years. If you seek help, there will surely be those who will asist you without questions. You shouldn't blame yourself for not speaking up earlier. The one in most difficulty is you. Nobody should blame you, neither should you blame yourself. Overcoming your past is always arduous. Even ages after its healed, scars can still ache and their mark never disapear. So if you are still suffering from its effect, there is no one rejecting you from seeking help. Rather, it's your right to seek help.

Yes. Abuse leaves scars (physical, emotional and mental) that can and do last years. Perhaps you're just feeling the effects of the abuse now. Perhaps you were too young to understand it earlier, or too innocent. Perhaps you couldn't process it earlier and have only now started understanding the impact it has had on your life. No matter what the case, it's totally normal (and allowed) to feel upset and emotional about abuse, be it 3 years or 30. All your emotions are valid and allowed. (PS: I hope you find help and good, supportive people who make you feel better)

You are allowed to be upset and get help for emotional trauma at any time in your life. There is no time limit or statue of limitations on feelings and emotional responses to any kind of trauma. Sometimes it takes time for people to process things that they have experienced and you can decide to process trauma whenever you are ready to. It's not easy to admit that you have been affected by something you have been through, but recognizing that you need help is the fist step to healing. You can decide to get help for emotional abuse several years after it happened. You are allowed to.

Yes! Your emotions and feelings are 100% valid and you deserve to be happy. If help is what feel you need then go get it, I hear you and I see you. helping yourself is the first step to being happy and you deserve it. Do not ever let anyone discourage you from bettering yourself for you. love yourself endlessly and you will find that from the ashes rises beauty. stay safe and stay healthy, put yourself first and trust where your heart takes you. you are valid, you are loved, you are strong, and you will do amazing things.

You are always allowed to feel upset about abuse, and you are always allowed to get help for it. It's okay that it took you three years to process it. A lot of times, abuse can take a long time to process. Getting help isn't easy, either. Sometimes it takes a long time to realize that it's an option, or to find the way that works for you, or to figure out how exactly to ask for help. But you're okay, no matter how long it took you. There isn't a time limit on realizing that you need help, and there isn't a time limit on recovery, either. You're okay. Get that help and be upset.

No one has any say on when you can start feeling upset when it comes to abuse. There is no timeline on when it's healthy to feel wronged for being abused. That is completely up to you. You have every right to feel upset for being emotionally abused. You were wronged for 3 years and nothing will change that. It's not your fault that you were abused and you shouldn't feel that you have to bottle it up because you're unsure if you're allowed to feel upset by it at this point in time. You are completely justified in being upset for being abused.

Of course, sometimes it happens while we are going through the abuse we somehow will be able to hold on to it and survive. But once we are free whatever we have suffered for this long will start to play on us. That's when we realize what all this we have suffered so far. So it's absolutely okay to get help after some years or whenever we feel like getting help. Getting help will also require us to open up about what all we have suffered sober have to ready for that as well. Some people gets that confidence only after some time. There is no time limit in getting help.

Absolutely! No matter how long it has been you are always valid for being upset and getting help, whatever it is, especially abuse. When I went through something like that, it took a lot of time for me to recognize the abuse for what it was, even thought the relationship was over and done with. It can take a long time to heal, especially when it's so difficult to even fully admit and recognize the situation for what it is/was. You're getting through some of the hardest parts - asking questions and reaching out. Nobody needs to give you permission to reach out for support, ever. Needing or wanting help is enough.

There is no time for one to ask for help. You can start getting help for something that happened even 10 years ago. Once you realise that a thing is affecting you, you can start receiving help from anyone. One of the most important thing while receiving help is that you realise the importance of it and act accordingly, you cannot be helped unless you are willing to help yourself first, here by helping yourself it means asking for it. And coming back to the being upset part, it is okay to feel emotions and feel them very strongly. You cannot control when and how a memory starts affecting you.

You are always allowed to be upset about abuse. It does not matter whether it was emotional or physical or mental and it does not matter if it was 30 or more years ago or if it was 10 seconds ago. It is always okay to be upset and it is always okay to get help! It is never too late to start getting help for emotional or physical trauma that you have endured. I would encourage you to go get help and not wait or worry about what other people might think. You are the expert on you. You are the only one who knows what is best for you.

you're absolutely allowed to be upset when you need to be. Emotions are valid in and of themselves. And getting help, I'm proud of you for getting help after things happened. Even if it's 3 years after the fact, it coudl be the time itself is a healer in a sense that it's given you enough distance to confront what you experienced so that you're able to go ahead and focus on getting better. It sounds like you're focusing on getting better instead of staying bitter or angry about what happened. These steps may be small but the small steps do add up for greater things!

Yes, you are. Sometimes people tend to feel numb after things just happened and that’s okay. It’s never too late to get help. It’s actually a good thing that you’ve decided to get help so don’t worry about it. You made a good choice. You probably didn’t know this before but trying to forget what happened without even processing it can’t have a bad effect on you! So, it’s okay if you took 3 years. What matters is that you are finally confronting it and you are doing something about it. So, good luck! I know you can do this :)❤️.

You are absolutely allowed to get help for any kind of abuse after ANY length of time. Sometimes it takes a while for it to really sink in and to realize 1. That it actually happened and it was abuse and 2. The impact it has had on them. Sometimes it takes decades for people to have a reaction to an experience they had, there is no time limit on the effects of trauma. It is never too late to address something that is having a negative impact on you and try to work through it to improve your well-being.

Yes, it doesn't matter how long it has been and people will be willing to help. Getting help is a big step you have to take to overcome the feelings that you have been feeling. So, I think it is a very courageous act. It is good that you recognize the feelings you are having like being upset. Even after 3 years, you still hold the right to consult a professional for help or even just talking to a friend. It is never too late to get help- know that emotional abuse is not ok. Be confident with yourself and you will eventually heal from the pain.

Absolutely! Our brain often waits until we feel safe to start processing trauma, so it can start to surface way later than expected. It's always okay to seek out help, no matter how long you've waited. By seeking help, later on, you are being tremendously brave, and working to better yourself. No matter how long ago the abuse happened, it is never too late to start getting care and working to be a healthier and happier version of yourself. Congrats on being able to recognize you need help getting better. It's one of the hardest parts of the recovery process.

This is of course allowed, and is likely to stay with you some time. It doesn't matter how long ago it was, it will almost definitely take a while for you to get over it. The length it take for you to start feeling better about things like this varies from person to person; there is no limit on how long it should take - there are no rules of what is and isn't allowed for anything traumatic to become less hurtful, and you don't even have to recover from it; nobody should be rushing you, not even yourself. But, I hope, everything will be okay, and you will start to feel better soon

It is always ok or allowed for you to do what you need to for yourself toward healing and working through experiences; it's also ok to do this without the approval of others as you are in control of yourself. In other words, never be ashamed of doing what feels best for you relating to self-care. Yes if you feel upset, after 3 years there's nothing wrong with that, and seeking help might help you sort through this situation better as you continue to process it. There is no set amount of time for the process of healing, it's individual.

Absolutely. We are each moving along our path in different ways. The way our brain deals with trauma is not always straight forward. Some people may imediantly notice they are being emotionally used, manipulated, or abused, and will have access and ability to respond in a healthy, helpful way right away. Others may take a long time to figure out what happened, how it affected them, what it means, and that they are truly hurt by what had happened. Our brain usually acts in a way to protect us. That sometimes would include giving us ways to deal with what had happened to us that avoid the actual problem we are meant to be dealing with. This can all happen at different times and you are 100% allowed to experience it at your own pace. And I am very proud of you if you are getting help for this emotional abuse now!

You are allowed to get help for any problem at any time you need. Survivors of abuse often need time to process what has happened to them. It's a painful process that can take years and looks different for everyone. Like any traumatic event, we go through stages of grief before we arrive at acceptance and decide to seek help. Taking the step towards healing through therapy or other counseling should be celebrated! You are very brave and strong for taking this step forward. There is no need to feel guilty or ashamed of how long your journey has been or your negative emotions that surround the abuse. I'm so glad you are reaching out and getting help!

First of all I'm sorry to hear what you went through, I hope you're doing well now! And yes of course! It is never too late to get help when needed, whether it is from a therapist, family, friends, or just Listeners on 7Cup! You should always feel comfortable getting help no matter how long ago it was. I'm guessing it was only recently you realized what you went through and truly understood that what happened 3 years ago was emotional abuse, so you feel upset only now. Nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed of, our mind always denies that we're facing abuse and that is just a part of being humans! In short, YES! You are allowed to start being upset and get help now!

ofcourse...grief has no schedule. it may take time to emerge but whenever it does, you deserve to get help for it, because you can't put your feeling on a time table, or in your control. the only thing we do control about them is how you deal with it. and i think the proper way to deal with them is by accepting them and letting no one else define for you what is allowed and not allowed when it comes to your feelings. Abuse tends to ruin lives and even though you are by far the strongest person i have seen, who went for 3 years without crumbling, you also need help. and now would be a great time😊💖

Yes. If you have feelings about something which bothers you till date and you think it is causing you stress then it is advisable to reach for help. I may not know your full story but I can say anything which causes you emotional worry or even trauma deserves attention. It is completely fair and your mental and emotional health should always be your first priority. If you feel guilty or have second thoughts, you can discuss this with somebody like a doctor or someone close to you. Sometimes pent-up feelings can arise and interfere in life after some years when triggered by something. So it is normal to take advice or seek help to feel better. Have a good day !

Yes, of course, you are allowed to do that. It is never too late to realize that you need help and ask for it. Many people have experienced abuse in their childhood and of course, they were not able to fully understand what was happening to them. But it is crucial to meet your needs whenever you realize that they exist. It doesn't matter why you needed to wait a few years to start getting help. What matters is that you are taking responsibility for your life and your well-being. That is what's most important and it's something to be proud of.

Of course you are. Many times, we are only affected by things months and even years down the line. Psychological trauma has deep seated roots that extend through time if they are left untreated. We see this most often with children - an untreated wound causes severe ramifications later in life. For this reason, you are not only allowed, rather, you should get help for the emotional abuse you went through there years ago. NOT doing so would be a disservice to you and those that depend on you. Back to the question: you are not only allowed, but entitled.