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Does the pain of someone dying ever get easier?

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Last Updated: 11/28/2020 at 3:22pm
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- Expert in Domestic Violence
April 10th, 2015 6:54pm
The pain of someone dying is hard, especially if a loved one. With that, in time it doesn't necessarily get easier...but easier to cope and manage the feelings that do occur.
March 10th, 2015 1:27pm
"Does the pain of someone dying ever get easier?" It gets easier to live with, and you learn to accept it, maybe even grow from it, but that pain will never go away, it will always be with you. For me, when i recently lost my best friend to suicide, i knew i would never get over it. But with every day i choose to honor his memory by living my life, and even though it still hurts just as much when i think about it, the pain is slowly becoming more bearable. I don't mind carrying the pain with me; it reminds me that i once cared very much for a close friend who had a lasting impact on my life, and to me that makes it worth it.
Anonymous - Expert in Domestic Violence
January 9th, 2018 12:07pm
"As far as I can see, grief will never truly end. It may become softer over time, more gentle, and some days will feel sharp, but grief will last as long as love does- forever. It's simply the way the absence of your love one manifests in your heart. A deep longing, accompanied by the deepest love." - Scribbles and Crumbs
March 10th, 2015 11:23pm
with time it takes a while. Losing someone makes you feel like you've lost part of yourself and just know they will become your guardian angel
- Expert in Domestic Violence
December 21st, 2015 3:14am
Yes and no. At first its going to be very hard. But over a year or so there is something that will remind you of them and you will be sad but it won't be as bad as the first time. You will be happy and you will live a happy life.
November 21st, 2017 8:05am
I think in all honesty, the pain only gets worse. You miss them more as time goes on, not less. I let it affect me less because I am familiar with the loss of that person, and I have taken time to mourn them in private. Preparation and the work of mourning do wonders to help a person move on. But in my experience none of the losses hurt less
Anonymous - Expert in Domestic Violence
June 10th, 2019 12:15am
It's always hard when you lose a loved one. It hurts, sometimes one can feel extremely lost. Everyone grieves differently, and also heal differently. I honestly can't say if the pain will ever go away. At some point in time you'll heal, whether months or years after. However that loved one memories will always be with you, and so it will sometimes hurt to think of them. To remember that they're no longer with you. But it's also important to remember that they're somewhat in a better place. I hope. All one can do is take care while grieving. Everyone grieve differently. To answer your question. The pain will eventually fades. But it'll always be there. However over a period of time, you'll gradually feel better upon healing. Please do take care! Wish you all the best. And if you lost a loved one, my condolences.
October 31st, 2016 4:04am
Yes. Make a list of all the things you appreciate about them, and what all you learned from them, and appreciate their essence they gave you. Over time, you will realize they might not physically be there, but, they are very much in how you think, and how you behave, and how you talk, sing, and walk.
February 8th, 2016 12:53am
Yes, it does eventually, at first it may be hard and shocking and very scary, but at time comes you will find peace eventually, and even though it will still hurt a tiny bit, it won't hurt as much, so it does get easier
April 25th, 2017 2:16pm
Yes. I know death isn't the best thing to know has occurred in your life, but death is inevitable and you will always have it, we are not permanent on living on the Earth, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't make it feel as close to permanent as ever. Death has collateral beauty in it and it's simple the circle of life and the person will always be close to you in your heart, no matter what.
May 27th, 2015 10:31am
I can't say that it gets easier, but it does come less often over time. I believe it's healthy to let the grief in but also to spend quality time with great memories of our loved ones who are no longer with us.
January 11th, 2016 5:41am
Honestly, the pain will always be there. How much will depend on how close you were to that person. Certain things will trigger it and make it feel worse, but the truth is it's always there. As time goes on, the pain just changes into something that feels more like a burden to something that motivates you to do more for that person you've lost.
March 29th, 2015 6:42am
no its not but it will heal with a little help form someone.we just got to be strong and continue our life.
September 9th, 2015 7:33pm
The pain does get a bit easier but each person is different and grieves in different ways. There is no "deadline" in terms of the pain getting easier either. Sometimes 10-15 years later, you will see something that reminds you of the person and the pain will return. To answer the question, you will learn to live with the pain but if it takes over your life, a professional grief counselor might be helpful.
October 18th, 2016 11:51pm
No, it will always hurt when a loved one dies. The pain of that person's death eventually does ease up, but the pain when someone dies stays the same.
September 11th, 2018 4:22pm
The pain of loss either death, breakup, or loss of friendship may never get easier. But the ways we cope can help a lot. One of the best ways for us is to talk to those who will listen or knew the person. You can also write down memories, look at pictures, do things that they liked to do, collect things that they collected (coins, photos, memorabilia, etc). We all deal with loss sometime in our life but the best thing we can do is make sure their legacy lives on. We have to keep moving forward and always "Pay it forward".
November 28th, 2020 3:22pm
It is normal to experience deep pain and emotions such as depression, anger, anxiety, fear and even depression or guilt when a loved one passes away in particular if it is a baby, your child or your parents. People ask themself how long will the grieving process last? When will I feel normal again? Bereavement is a process, and every person experiences it in a different way. Some are able to say goodbye at the funeral, while others experience a much more complicated grief - and can even remain in denial of their loved ones passing for a long period of time. Grief also comes and goes in stages - in particularly around events and moments such as your loved ones birthday, anniversary or the holidays but often starts to abade as time passes.

Oftentimes, people tend to draw their pain inwards, by sleeping for long periods of time to escape reality, while others turn to alcohol or drugs to alleviate their feelings. Grief can impact relationships, cause an increase or decrease in appetite and prevent you from doing normal activities, regardless of how simple they may be. There are healthier ways to deal with your long-term grief such as support groups, talking to family members about your pain and through activities such as exercise, meditation or crafting.

If you find yourself in a situation in which your grief starts to greatly impact your daily life, and your thoughts of your loved one dying overpowers you, there are steps you can take such as seeing a doctor or therapist who can advice you as to help find some sense of relief from any troubling thoughts and also identify the factors that are preventing you from moving forward. Children might need some extra support from a professional or words and comments of support when coping, as they can take a relatively long time to cope with a death.

There is also information available such as studies, research and articles on grief that can provide facts on the grieving process and provide ways for you to be able to face the world again. These signs can help you understand whether your reactions and processing require further support, but please note that the process of grief is quite subjective too. While the passing of your loved one is never forgotten, you will be able to get on with your life in your own way once you learn how to face and accept your feelings.
December 27th, 2015 6:02pm
Yes and no, it does, at first it will be so hard for you to cope but it will eventually fade and then come back because there will be someone who reminds you of that person who passed away.
March 8th, 2016 7:24am
Yes. With time comes healing. It could take a couple days, a couples weeks, a couple months, or even a couple years, but it will pass. Will you forget? Probably not, but the initial pain should be easier to cope with. Don't rush your emotions.
April 16th, 2015 8:20am
It is unique to the individual, the length of time that they grieve. It is not for others to determine or force their beliefs on others. The pain of the death over time will transform I to acceptance and will go away but your memories will always remain.
September 1st, 2015 9:26pm
Grief is not an easy thing to deal with. Everyone is different and their levels of pain and grief is not the same. If you find that you or someone you know is having difficulty coping with grief, perhaps you could consider talking with a counselor or therapist to help you work through your feelings.
September 15th, 2015 1:12am
Eventually it will fade but in the end it will always still be there. You will make it out alive though. You just have to keep moving forward.