How do I tell someone that I was raped?
Last Updated: 11/19/2019 at 5:42pm
Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst
I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.
Top Rated Answers
To start that process it helps if you accept that it happened to yourself and know it wasn't your fault. From there pick someone you trust that is there to listen. Tell them in as much or as little detail as you are comfortable with. It's okay to stop for a break while telling them. This can be very emotional. You can work with that other person on getting help. Just remember you are never alone.
This answer is assuming that this is a while after the rape. It is difficult to tell the first few people. When you are ready, choose someone you know you can trust entirely. If you want your rape to remain a secret at first make sure that you make this clear to them before you start discussing it. Initially it will be painful to discuss, depending on who raped you; maybe emotionally excruciating. Once you have told your friend you will feel better. Sharing the burden, will make you feel better; with time. The more you can talk about it, easier it becomes until you are able to help others through this unfortunate tragic event. You may even feel the need to speak out publicly and raise awareness. I will of course, being a rape survivor tell you that you must report it. I won't lie, talking about it to strangers so soon after it has happened will be painful and scary. The physical too. But remember, you are a victim of a violent crime and the person who hurt you needs to be punished by the law.
It's never easy opening up about something so personal and painful. I know I'd be scared personally. It's best to tell someone who is safe and will understand.
It's never easy. I would recommend asking for professional help in order to gain the courage to do so. It might also help to have an expert there to guide you through it.
Well, first, understand that being raped was not your fault. Second, there are many ways to tell someone. You can get professional help through the police, a counselor, a social worker, etc. Then there are family members and friends. If there is one person you feel confident will support you, tell them first, and then see if they will help you tell others. No matter what though, you are not alone, and you are not to blame. I am sorry you were hurt.
Telling somebody that you were raped is a difficult decision to make and you are brave to disclose it. However it will help in the healing process p, and could keep you safe. Tell a person you trust in a calm and honest way, and remember it was not your fault!
try to come to terms with it yourself. this may be hard but once you've accepted it, it will be easy to tell other people. when I was raped, it took my ages to accept it myself because it was such a traumatic experience. but when I did, one by one I started telling people who I trusted most.
Choose a trusted, adult person, or a mental health professional. And the just tell them. As much or little as you want. However, keep in mind that if you are a minor, teachers and some other professionals may be required to report abuse to family services in some states.
There is no easy way to do this and it’s a little like pulling off a band-aid. The more you hesitate the more it hurts, and the harder it gets. If you can’t physically get the words out, and I’ve seen people in that position you may have to write it down. Generally speaking though if you simply start with something like, ‘I have something important to tell you. I’m afraid it may upset you, but it’s not something I can keep to myself,’ anyone who cares about you will reassure you and do their best to help you explain.
Very carefully. Of course, it's different for everyone, but it is almost always a relief. I would do it in a private, quiet setting, and just go out and say it. It's okay; it's not your fault. If the person you're sharing with a real friend, they won't judge.
Its not easy to deal with. And it is a difficult situation. But find the person that you trust the most is a way to start. Once you feel comfortable and get your feelings out, then perhaps it will encourage you to take the next step to report it.
First, I believe you and it was not your fault. It's a huge step to reach out here, great job on a very big step! There are many variables and steps along the healing journey; plus it can look a bit different for each person. As already recommended, a professional therapist can walk you through some ideas as well as even practice sharing your stories with those you want to share with. You get to take things at your own pace as you begin to share your story - this can look like a professional therapist, books, websites, 7 Cups, trusted friends and more. You're brave and courageous. Best wishes to you.
Share it with someone you know you cna trust. Then say it as it is, something you didnt want just happened. Its the same way as a car accident or any bad stuff that can happen to people.
Related Questions: How do I tell someone that I was raped?
Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?My brother used to hit me a lot, but my parent justifies it by his autism and schizophrenia. Was it still abuse?My parents physically abuse me and every time someone touches me I flinch. Am I broken? Will I ever move past that?Am I allowed to still be in love with my abuser?How can I support someone experiencing domestic violence ?I need the strength to leave my mentally abusive husband can anyone suggest?How do I get someone to report a sexual assault?What does it mean my my dad is sucking my toes and bites one off, but still says he loves me.?I’m 16, and my parents mentally abuse me, constantly insulting me, restricting my time with other friends and family. My grandparents are willing to take me in, but what can I do? Can my parents sue mMy ex boyfriend was violent but I can’t move on why?