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How long will it take before the pain of what happened to me fades away?

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Last Updated: 06/25/2018 at 7:45am
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Top Rated Answers
October 4th, 2015 8:22pm
I wish I could give you a definite answer, or a exact solution, or words that will take away your pain. Such magic does not exist within me, but what I can offer you is hope. Pain can often be the cruelest emotion and certainly one hard to bear. There is no straight line which tells you how to get rid of it, but you can get through this. One day at a time, slowly but surely, the pain will decrease and although you may not know when it will disappear, you will be able to have good days and smile. It may be long, it may be short, but as long as you hold onto hope, you have this in you. I believe in you.
January 9th, 2015 9:28am
No way to know for sure, it depends on the individual, how tough they are; and what situation happened to them.
March 7th, 2015 7:11am
The pain has not faded from my life yet... but this song encourages me and I hope you too, "It Get's Better" This old world can be cruel sometimes When you're looking for answers You can't seem to find No one understands what you're going through Oh I know it can get lonely out there When you feel like nobody cares Well you look around thinking If they only knew Well I do I've felt the chill of this world cut down to the bone I've walked many a mile down this road on my own I've been through hell on my knees Come face to face with the devil And I know that it's hard to believe But it gets better Time is a healer but we can't see how When you're caught in the moment And the hurting is now We don't wanna see that maybe somethings Weren't meant to figure out This old world can be cruel sometimes When you're looking for answers Well just keep in mind No you're not alone We're all trying to find our way through this life You are strong and you can do this. I can testify that it will take a lot of courage and strength and there will be times you'll want to give up. But keep on going. It's worth it in the end. In the meantime... remember you're not alone. There are so many people here willing to support you and carry you through.
April 3rd, 2015 6:24pm
If you keep holding on to what hurts you, you will continue to hurt and hold yourself back from healing. You have to distant yourself from what hurt you and distract yourself from those feelings. It won't be a quick process, it could take months or years, but if you never get started on healing, you will continue to wake up and hurt. You deserve the best!
April 5th, 2015 5:07am
It would definitely depend on the impact of the incident. Most importantly, how significantly it has changed the individual's life. Whatever it is, you just have to keep fighting, stay strong and be optimistic. The pain will go away eventually - nothing is permanent.
July 15th, 2015 12:03am
If only we could make peace with our heart. Acceptance. Feel the hurt and it not hurt you anymore. Acceptancel is the key.Denial only make it worst.
August 10th, 2015 5:31pm
The time it will take for your pain to fade is unknown. Everyone works in different ways, and depending on yourself and your experiences it could be a quick process, or a long one. It's important not to get discouraged if it doesn't go away very quickly. Somethings just take time, and that requires patience.
August 24th, 2015 7:29pm
Everyone has their own way of processing pain, and therefore, there is no single answer to that question. Staying active, spending time with people who care about you, sleeping well, and a healthy lifestyle can reduce the pain.
September 29th, 2015 12:37pm
It takes time, it can take a week to a month to even years before it fades away. Just find what helps the most that helps you forget so you can move on
September 26th, 2016 2:30pm
Well, it totally depends on you. The much time you give to think about that and hurt your feelings thr more time it will take to forget
June 25th, 2018 7:45am
For some days, months or years. Be kind to yourself. Try to find closure but heal at your own pace.