Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

Is it possible to heal enough from a trauma for it to be as if it never happened to you?

14 Answers
Last Updated: 12/08/2020 at 5:01pm
1 Tip to Feel Better
United Kingdom
Moderated by

Graham Barrone, Adip ICHP, MCBT


If you've found that your quality of life has reduced because of anxiety, fear or some kind of mental hurdle that you just can't get over then lets chat.

Top Rated Answers
December 8th, 2020 5:01pm
No. A trauma, no matter how small or big for you, will always be with you. The bigger, the more it will take from you. The loss of a friend or a family member can be very horrible, and it can last for a long time. It will never fully go away, there will always be days where you feel like you can't get out of bed and you don't want to live. Not necessarily feeling suicidal, but just like you wouldn't mind if you were to die. You want to see your friend/family member/pet again. Death isn't the only form of loss, it can include many things.
March 17th, 2015 5:21am
From personal experience, I think of it in a way of being a survivor. You become stronger and there are many services to help you overcome the trauma in your life. It may be an uphill battle but it is possible to overcome it!
March 25th, 2015 7:12am
Healing is a process. I can never say that you can heal as if it never happened to you because those traumatic events affect our brain. Even when we seek help and carry on as if nothing ever happen, there are cues in our environment that might trigger those negative thoughts and bring back memories as if the event just happen. All I can say is that seeking professional help works to relieve the pain.
March 25th, 2015 7:52pm
Trying to go back to something as it was before is seldom a feasible answer. No matter what you do in your life this will be a part of your past in the same way as everything else you have experienced. Try to look forward instead, who do you want to be today?
May 7th, 2015 2:12am
Yes but you become a different, stronger person than you were before the trauma happened. Trauma always someone to hit rock bottom and then find motivation to get back on top. I know I've become stronger the more I've healed and I can tell I am a different person from who I was before. I would have never became a listener before my traumatic event.
September 5th, 2015 11:23pm
Everyone is different and there isn't a one answer fits all. It is possible to heal and move forward with the right help. Perhaps speaking with a therapist or counselor can help.
November 2nd, 2015 8:20pm
I do not think so. I think our past experiences always affect us on some level, even subconsciously. We can heal from our past hurts but that will never erase then. It will still be a part of what has made us, even if we think about it less or don't feel the hurt anymore. It was still there at some point in our lives and no, I don't think that is something that can ever truly be erased.
November 3rd, 2015 10:51pm
No i dont think so. I´ll always live with what has happened to me the good and the bad, It´s just not possible to erase what has doesnt work that way, no matter how much we´d want it to. Living with those things makes you that much stronger.
November 9th, 2015 1:46am
It is not possible in my opinion to heal from a trauma so much it's like it never happened. A traumatic experience is like a scar in your like. Scares will fade and so will your memory of the event but scars never go completely away and neither will the memory.
November 9th, 2015 9:40pm
Honestly, I don't think so from my experiences. I was in a very bad car crash and for months and months after it pained me and made me fear driving. And to this day, years later, it still is vivid. But now it doesn't hurt me. I think we don't have our problems leave us, but we learn to be strong enough to live with them and learn from them.
January 11th, 2016 12:39pm
In really rare circumstances and with immediate medical help it is possible to completely over come a trauma
June 7th, 2016 7:06pm
It depends on the traumatic experience, how much it affected you and the amount of time, and of course the person, but I would say it is possible. However, it's not possible for everyone.
August 9th, 2017 12:01am
I've found that it's both unfair and impossible to ask yourself to be the exact same person today that you were yesterday or a month or a year ago, regardless of whether there's any trauma involved. As you heal, you'll ask questions and find answers about your values, beliefs, and priorities that you might not have encountered otherwise. I think you can be just as happy and fulfilled after healing as you would have been on a hypothetical timeline where the trauma never happened -- with the important difference that you know a whole lot more about yourself and how to heal.
July 6th, 2020 12:10pm
We have something called post-traumatic growth where you don't exactly make it as if nothing happened to you, but rather recover healthily from the traumatic experience and treat that as a springboard for personal growth and mental quietude. I personally think that's what we should be aiming for. Forgetting a traumatic experience or event seems ideal to most who are suffering from it, but the fulfillment in turning your life for the better BECAUSE of the experience that you had is far greater a reward. And just to add a personal touch to this, you can help others who experienced the same by telling them how you developed this growth after your own traumatic event.