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My brother used to hit me a lot, but my parent justifies it by his autism and schizophrenia. Was it still abuse?

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Last Updated: 03/15/2021 at 9:46pm
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August 24th, 2020 2:59pm
By enabling the behavior, your parents are not advocating for your needs. Regardless of a mental health diagnosis, the behavior is not appropriate or acceptable. The parents have a role in providing a safe and nurturing environment for all the children under the roof. A large part of working with diagnoses such as autism and schizophrenia is by following a care plan established by a mental health provider. These types of plans can assist parents and family members towards correcting behavior while still having a safe living situation for all family members. Abuse can persist in many ways- emotionally, physically, financially, etc. Without support from your parents validating your needs and safety, it presents a harmful environment.
March 15th, 2021 9:46pm
Yes, that is still abuse. Your brother hit you, disabilities and disorders are no excuse for mistreatment. His struggles should not give him an excuse to cause you pain. I am so sorry your parents are invalidating your experience by brushing it off on his conditions, you deserve support from them. I can empathize with your situation, my parents also invalidated my abuse experiences. However, with professional help and both of us willing to improve, they now understand that I went through pain and need support. I hope your parents will learn soon and be able to support you. Recovery from these experiences is very possible, and I wish you the best in your journey.