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When I get mad I hit my boyfriend. I need help on fixing this. My anger has got the best of me I need help ?

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Last Updated: 03/30/2020 at 2:24am
When I get mad I hit my boyfriend. I need help on fixing this. My anger has got the best of me I need help ?
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February 10th, 2019 4:39pm
Yes, you definitely need help to manage your emotions. Domestic violence should not be accepted whether the victim is a man or a woman. Professional help might be necessary as your anger is without a doubt damaging this relationship. Your boyfriend is in this relationship because he loves you, not to be beaten by you. If you don't have enough money for a therapist or a counselor, then you can make use of your internet for really good and informative resources. These might help you to cope with this problem. Simply go online and type "how to cope with anger." Wikihow has really good tips. Additionally, you're in the right place, 7cups. We are a community of good listeners who would always be here to listen and support you.
August 3rd, 2019 4:00pm
Physical violence is never ok. It will destroy your relationship and destroy all trust and safety. Scratching and beating on someone you love is a really fast way to destroy both of you. The first thing you need to do is seek professional help. A counsellor, therapist, or other mental health professional.The thing is, the older we get, the harder it is for us to change. Do not postpone changing. For the short term, I suggest separating when you two are angry. You need to focus on not being near him when you are out of control, and he can help by leaving. This still leaves the problems unaddressed, but it gives you time to get control of your emotions.
March 30th, 2020 2:24am
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. If you feel that your anger is really out of control if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior. Remember, you can't eliminate anger—and it wouldn't be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. Controlling your angry responses can keep them from making you even more unhappy in the long run.