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Why does nobody (even the police) believe I was raped?

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Last Updated: 03/01/2021 at 11:00pm
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April 13th, 2015 7:09pm
I am sorry to hear that firstly you had the experience of being raped and also that you haven't been believed. I cannot know why people haven't believed you. How does it make you feel that no one believes you?
April 25th, 2015 12:33am
Unfortunately, victim-blaming is still a huge problem worldwide. Rape is a serious issue, but it's not really thought to be. The police think that the victim asked for it (and so does society as a whole most often) by pushing it onto their clothing, behavior, or substance use. The reality is, if you were raped, you were raped, and no one asks for it. It's a reflection of society's need to blame victims, and I'm sorry your dealing with this, but it's a painful truth of living in the world right now. Hopefully, you can find someone who believes you and validates your feelings.
June 7th, 2015 7:23pm
I have been in your shoes. I was raped about 4 years ago and it was to the point where I didn't even go t any type of law enforcement because even my own family didn't believe me. I was 17 at the time and the guy was I believe like 30 at the time. I'm 20 years old now and people still make comments about it as if I consented to this man. Honestly if you know what happened nobody else's opinions matter. As for trying to get this guy put away for doing this to you.. I would suggest that you get a lawyer. There are even some lawyers out there that you don't have to pay unless you win the case.
September 16th, 2015 12:10am
Perhaps you should seek advice through your local resources. There are rape groups and victims groups who can help you further if you feel that nobody around you believes you.
March 1st, 2021 11:00pm
unfortunately society has created an image of survivors, and often many people don't fit this image without "solid" proof. the individual is often victim blamed and this can cause years of damage. NO one is ever at fault for their own assault. RAPIST CAUSE RAPE. i'm very sorry your experience was so invalidating. please know that i believe you and i stand with you. Please reach out to whoever when you feel the need when you feel comfortable let your story be heard. know you are not alone in your battle however your story is unique.