What should I do when every time I tell my friend I’m suicidal they say I shouldn’t be and that I have a great life?
Last Updated: 03/20/2021 at 4:53pm
Mark Harrison, MSW, LICSW, PIP
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I invite you into therapy with an open mind, warm positive regard, and no judgement.
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Try to explain to them what it feels like for you and try to make them understand what you are going through. One of the reasons they may be saying that is because they don't know or understand what it is that you are going through.
Maybe you should consider who your real friends are. I know this sounds hard but sometimes friends can be toxic and tbh this doesnt sound like a caring friendship. If they do not understand you after you explained it (maybe with a letter as there you cannot be interrupted) then they are not the right people to talk to about this topic. Sometimes it is helpful to find a friend who is going through the same as you do. It is easier to have a dialogue or explain your thoughts and feelings to other. Stay safe and try to be positive. Greetings.
Try to find a good moment to talk, one in which your friend will be willing to listen attentively and you feel prepared to share with them as much as you are comfortable sharing. Be affirmative with your feelings so that they can understand you and how much this matters for you. Try using I statements, for example, you could say something like "I feel hurt when I share vulnerable feelings with you and you deny them. I'm afraid you don't care." Just be careful they don't feel attacked because that won't help the conversation. I hope this helps you and your friend a little, stay strong because things will get better.
One thing to keep in mind is that your friend is not trained to talk about suicide. It's great to have friends to talk to, but you you have suicidal thoughts, it would be good to seek out someone with training. In the US, the suicide hotline is 1-800-273-8255. Other countries have their own, you just need to Google it. Anyone answering the phone will be trained for such a conversation and will probably have do a better job walking you through your feelings and appropriate steps. I will also just say, hang in there. Your life is valuable. People love you and you have a contribution to make in the world. Best.
First of all I am sorry you received such a response. That is the last thing that would make a suicidal person feel better. You do need friends who are more empathetic and understanding, however you can try to make these friends understand and see your perspective. Tell them that that it is not so easy, from an objective point of view I may have a good life in your eyes. But that is not what I feel inside, I have been dealing with a lot of things and then you may go on to talk about why you feel that there is no hope left in life for you. I hope they do understand your side as well. We all are always here to listen to you and offer you some empathy even if your friends dont, you are not alone.
First of all i would just like to say how sorry i am that you are going through that alone+ i would recommend maybe seeking prof. help. Now the thing you and they actually need to understand is that you could have the "best life" and still feel this way, that doesn't make your feeling any less valid, and i kind of feel obliged to tell you that if they don't understand that you are going through something this important, then maybe they aren't your friends. But before jumping to conclusions talk to them and try to explain that this is completely internal.
When people find it difficult to respond to people who are sad, or upset, or simply aren't sure what to say, it is common for them to try to say something uplifting or positive. It may be that your friend isn't sure how to help you. It sounds like you may be struggling, and it's important to be heard. I would encourage you to contact your doctor, or a professional therapist, or a crisis line. These individuals have the right kind of training to talk to you about whatever is making you feel this way. Feeling suicidal is serious, and you really deserve to get the help you need right away so that you can start to feel better.
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