How can I push myself to eat as normal people do?
Last Updated: 05/06/2018 at 11:20pm
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By taking the baby steps necessary to get there. It doesn't just happen, believing it will sets us up for failure.
Remember that there isn't a normal for anyone. What your body needs is vastly different than what someone else's body needs. Start by making a plan for yourself with the help of a nutritionist/dietitian/professional. This will help you define your normal.
Challenging yourself to break the barriers that anorexia has given to you is tough, but don't compare yourself to others! Feel comfortable increasing the amounts that you eat and getting used to how you feel afterwards. Sure, its going to be difficult to get used to, but for change to occur you must be willing to step out of your comfort zone and into the realm of "I want to be a better me!"
You can use a huge plant so you will believe there's more food and you'll feel satiated that way :)
By not pushing yourself to eat at all but trying to break the reward/ punishment cycle of food abuse and using tools to gain a fresh perspective on food as fuel for your body instead of a gift for being good or a punishment for your body because your mind is feeling bad.
My own experience of this is if I eat with other people. If I eat with other people, it's firstly easy to model their eating patterns, and to escape the inner rebellious psyche which makes you either eat "too much" or "too little", relative to your body size and proportions.
Trust your heart, not mind, for your food intake. Try competitive eating, too; Furious Pete did that.
Eating is in your nature and its to keep you healthy and strong. Don't take it as a negative thing that's the most important thing. Eat nutritious types of food and tell yourself that you are eating to keep yourself healthy.
There's one way to go about it and that's planning; planning your meals beforehand and having discipline to follow through with it would help a great deal. Remember, plan meals that are considered "normal" and ensure that you finish them. If you're unable to follow through with meals, then consider taking snacks that eventually add up to your maintenance calorie intake. Take care and all the best!
There is no such thing as a normal person and we all have very different dietry demands . Depending on your height , build etc you should aim for the healthy correct amount and type of food for yourself , irrelevant of what others eat . There is a lot of pressure from society to fit in and be normal so if the majority of other people eat more or less or differently than you , it can be hard not to want to follow their example and try to match your eating habbits to theirs . This is not a healthy approach though and it's not advisable to push yourself to eat in any different way to what you do now just because the majority of others do it. It is most important that you try to eat healthily to fulfill your body's needs .
I think there is no comparison between your and other's diet. But, if you think you are eating lesser than others, then start increasing your diet a little everyday. That will help your body to push to eat.
I think that the first step is to refocus the energy you place on things such maintaining/losing your weight, conforming to societal standards of "beauty"/"perfection", and having control over some aspect of your life, into something that brings you joy and peace. Once you come to terms with the person you are naturally and accept/forgive yourself, you can more easily return to that that of heathy thinking/eating habits we consider to be normal. It is important not to push yourself too hard on this- especially if you are still struggling with associating guilt and shame with eating. Take it slow and respect your limits one day at a time.
Just set yourself a goal of things to eat each day and prepare yourself meals and this should help you.
The first step is to work with the problem, what's the reason you don't eat as normal people do. After you've found that out, you need to work with that, and that might be hard, especially if you have to do it alone. I would recomend you to talk to someone, maybe get help and then look at and work with the problem about why you don't eat as normal people do.
Eating normally is something that takes a long time to work up to, especially if you have an eating disorder. Getting support is really important, whether that be a friend, family member, therapist, or even your dog. It's important to be patient and gentle with yourself, and not to get angry if you slip up. Messing up is normal and natural. Start small, ask for help when you need it. You'll get there.
this is a great question, because it shows you are committed to imoving your situation. being overly focused on caloric intake is not the way to better eating habits. keeping in mind that you need nutrients, and regular intervals of food intake throughout the day, plan meals ahead of time and set alarms at meal times if you think that will help you. the key is finding balance.
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